Family & Relationships - 30 October 2007

I am going to be honest. I'm intelligent and well read for my age...for any age actually.

I can tell you about the fauna of the taiga, discuss Nietzsche and know something about every country in the world but...I dont know who I am.

I dont know what my opinions are as I keep agreeing with other people, I'm not assertive, I don't know how to make small talk and I don't know who I am. Everybody around me seems so confident and so outspoken but I feel like part of the furniture.

How can I be 21 and still not know who I am. It hurts.

2007-10-30 19:01:23 · 3 answers · asked by Liwah Farah 2 in Friends

I am totally in love with my boyfriend. At least thats how it feels...95 % of the time. The other 5 % is spent thinking about my best friend back in Texas (i'm about 1000 miles away from him now). My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now, and he is expressing some desire to get married and have a family with me...That is ALL i have ever wanted in life...here comes the BUT... I have a best friend in Texas, who has never been more than JUST a friend. Since I moved away from him, i can't stop thinking about him. I feel like I've fallen in love with him... we've known each other for about 7 years, we grew up together, even joked about getting married and having kids. I've never had a relationship with anyone like the one i have with him...and i'm afraid i never will with anyone else...problem is, i am crazy about my boyfriend too, and i love him more than anything in the world...i just get along with the TX man better....what should i be doing? any ideas?

2007-10-30 18:57:00 · 9 answers · asked by texasbabe19 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-30 18:54:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He and I aren't like a couple anymore. He embarasses me in front of his friends (telling me what to do, yelling sometimes etc). I don't feel attracted to him, and he doesn't take my concerns seriously. If something bothers me (like his rudeness towards me).. he'll bring up something miniscule.

What should I do? His lack of regards for me make me want to leave the country and get citizenship some where else.

2007-10-30 18:53:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What is her problem? I'm 18 and in college but she still treats me like a child. I love her but she's really bugging me. She gets mad when I come home late from parties and when I'm drunk. And she's telling me my boyfriend is no good for me just cause he got a DUI and is in jail right now. Plus she gets mad when I have my friends over and she stoops through my things like I'm still in high school or something. Then tells me I'm a bad influence on my younger sisters who are 16 and 13. Why doesn't she realize that I'm grown and I can do what I want?

2007-10-30 18:51:21 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have been cing this guy 4 over a year.(when i can) In that year we have had alot of good times have only had sex 3 times. We can talk and laugh and cry about anything and i mean anything. We really do love eachother and the problem is hes married. they obviously have probs. I told him to go home and work things out he tried didnt work. I no hes not feeding me full of **** ive talked to her too. I dont no what to do. I hate this. please b open minded and help

2007-10-30 18:46:45 · 7 answers · asked by tasha n 2 in Singles & Dating

humor me lol

2007-10-30 18:44:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For some reason to me, it seems like my boyfriend doesnt want peple knowing we are back together. We were split up for about a month and a half, but have been back together for about 2 and a half weeks now.
I don't know whats making me feel this way and I can't seem to shake it. I don't think he's really given me a reason to even think this.
I mean it is obvious that we are back together and people do know.
I just dont know whats going on with me. what can I do?
or what do you think?

2007-10-30 18:41:18 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

During sex, is it better to be on top or bottom?
and which is the best position to have sex?

2007-10-30 18:40:03 · 7 answers · asked by thejuggalomaggot 1 in Singles & Dating

I really want a serious relationship but then freak out if a guy shows interest in me. Whenever I go out with a guy i'll make a list of reasons (in my head) why he's not the right guy for me... then afterwards if anyone asks how the date went or whatever, I'll tell them that it's not going to happen and rattle off the list of things I've thought of.

If the guy then calls and acts interested I'll stop answering his calls, won't reply to his messages, etc. I just generally ignore him. But if he doesn't call and when I do catch up with him if he acts uninterested I then spend my time trying to "get" him, but as soon as he's interested I'll ignore him as well.

Does anyone have any reasons for why I would do this? I hate it and want to have a normal relationship but I'll do it without even realising until someone else points out that I've done it again. I'm terrified of being like my mother who was always in relationships with unavailable men, either emotionally or physically.

2007-10-30 18:19:52 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-30 18:15:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My parents are crazy. I got all a's in middle school and it was no problem. Now in hs In my first quarter of freshman year i am getting all b's with one c in all the hardest classes possible. My mom says that i need to work harder but i dont no what else to do. I want to ask her if i could drop down but shes so intimindating and so demanding its like she would see me as a failure. Any ideas how to tell her w/o complete breakdown?

2007-10-30 18:13:43 · 5 answers · asked by mikeyplocky 2 in Family

I am asking this because I think my boyfriend has turned into a slob. I do not feel like his mother and do not want to have to tell him to wash it, so what to do.
I just wonder if its me because I have a very sensitive odor receptor in my nose or is he a pig.
How often do you shower and do you shower before sex to please your woman or just leave that thing all nasty?
Do most men realize when a penis is not washed it smells?

2007-10-30 18:10:58 · 5 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Singles & Dating

well he had meet alady on my space and has talked to her for a week or so, she doesnt talk to him for 2 days and when she does she asks him to send her $500 to nigeria to balance out her plane ticket to get home to qld australia

2007-10-30 18:10:50 · 9 answers · asked by heidi 1 in Singles & Dating

this is more for the women here...

if you were in the process of getting a divorce and you came up pregnant would you keep it? would u still tell your exhusband? would parental rights get totally revrsed if this came up in the divorce??

2007-10-30 18:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by dashfx420 2 in Marriage & Divorce

It seems like the only guys that I attract are married or complete jerks. And the ones that I'm attracted to are out of my leauge or else there bad boys. By bad boys I mean the kind that are always in trouble or are sweethearts one minute then complete a*******s the next. Is there something wrong with me? Am I looking in the wrong places or something??

2007-10-30 18:06:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i m in love with someone and he also loves me madly but the problem is that he is married.there is not having a good relationship b/w him nd his wife so he wants to give her divorce nd want to marry me.but the problem is this that his wife is not ready to give him divorce.what should we do.kindly help us that how he should take the divorce so that we could marry each other nd could spend a good life.ya 1 more thing he has 2 kids from that lady.he even talked to his wife about divorce but at 1 moment his wife agrees but just the 2nd moment she refuse.pls help me.i really need a lawyer who can help me in solving my problem.

2007-10-30 18:03:52 · 17 answers · asked by bharti s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What causes love? I need to know why love is so painful at times? Why do people fall in love so fast, and I am messing with three girls and they don't know about each other. The one I really love is far away so I have two other girls that are close to me, Why do I need to do this? Is it because I need attention?

2007-10-30 17:56:39 · 1 answers · asked by Curtis C 1 in Singles & Dating

My son and I moved in with my mom after my dad died. But she is driving us f%$*^% crazy. Itought this would help her and us but it only seems to make things worse. Have anyone been in this situation and what would be the best choice? We are getting ready to move in a couple of weeks.

2007-10-30 17:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by sunburned 2 in Family

Maybe taken from personal experience?

(my friend and me were wondering about the best way to get that type of point across; only for a guy who'd deserve it of course)

2007-10-30 17:51:30 · 13 answers · asked by Lacy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half, and he is my 4th serious relationship, but I'm his first... When he and I first started dating it was different from all the others; I just "knew" he was the one! Now, a year later we are seriously considering getting engaged in the Spring. He and I have the same goals, interests, and enjoy the same activities, yet are pleasantly different, in a way I like. My problem is that as of late he has been getting on my nerves (we are currently long distance while I'm still in school). When I go there, we are fine, but when he comes here to stay with me and my 2 roomates he acts different, almost like he's trying to "show-off" and prove he isn't "whipped." It's little things that will get on my nerves like how he'll put his arm around me on the couch infront of everyone when I'm not in the mood to be touched and don't like to make my roomies feel uncomfortable. Is this normal or is this a sign? Because other than that he is A-Mazing!

2007-10-30 17:43:13 · 9 answers · asked by LizzyV 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm a 17 yea old guy,
How can I get them to stop, 9 out of the 10 people I meet eventually call me spoiled.

Is there a way that I can make them stop? Its just getting old now...

2007-10-30 17:42:32 · 17 answers · asked by B-Rad 4 in Friends

2007-10-30 17:32:19 · 7 answers · asked by loseit 2 in Friends

2007-10-30 17:31:13 · 21 answers · asked by danceingfeet2000 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well me and this guy went out not to long ago and i broke up with him like a dumb because i was lost but i still love him and he has a girlfriend but he told me he thinks about me all the time and he loves me to but he doesnt want to hurt the girl hes with and he doesnt really no what he should de but he told me to be patient and just wait untill he finds out what he should do. Should i wait ?? what do i do ??

2007-10-30 17:29:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i really love my husband and we have been married 2 years. but for the last 10 months i just dont feel that spark and i dont know how to get it back. i want to feel the butterflies again. i started feeling different about him around the time that i got pregnant. our daughter is now 2 months old. what do i do to get the butterflies back?

2007-10-30 17:28:42 · 38 answers · asked by totally sad 1 in Marriage & Divorce

here is the situation being a fourth elder in your family and ur all 8 kids and then your parents wont able to provided the needs or education for your siblings and as and elder sister your help them send them study take care some of thier needs and everything but then some of your siblings didnt study well but to drop thier study and just dont do nothing about thier self but giving more responsiblity to you like getting pregnant without a father and the brother making thier girlfriend pregnant and when they need something they always hands out and if you cant give them they well make you feel bad by saying bad stuff againts you , and saying when they do mistake say dont worry wont ask you help anyway but at the end they well run to you , of course by being older sis even thats your family you feel mad about that bec they saying stuff that they can even stand for and there is a point that u gonna say thats it but then u cant just look them bec they are your family need to help ,

2007-10-30 17:28:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He stole the battery of my out-of-sevice phone, but i use the extra features. He said that he hated the alarm.

I make a little extra noise, he yells at me and starts punching me.

He hid my school stuff on the day that I needed the day and I had to look for it and ended up missing the bus (luckily mum was home to give me a ride).

He is an all around jerk. I'm usually minding my own business when he randomly lunges at me and starts wrestling. My life is becoming a Jerry Springer "Too Hot For TV" DVD.

I don't know if I'll need to start carrying a taser around with me,
If i have to stab him, or kill myself. Because if is suggest therapy to my parents, I'm afraid my brother will beat me.

This is serious people so don't give me stupid answers.

What should I do?

2007-10-30 17:27:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My fiance and love each other we compliment each other wonderfully. The only thing we don't see perfectly eye to eye on is religion. He calls himself an Existentialist, which is different from Agnostic. My boyfriend is a truely amazing testament to God's grace, as he's been through many horrifying incidents; but I can see why he would question the existence of a loving God when so many awful things have happened to him. I was very honest from the beginning, telling him my physical limits and morals; he's never tried to overstep them once. I told him when we first talked about marriage that it was important that I have a Christian ceremony, and raise my children to be Christian (Or take them to Temple, as he's culturally Jewish). He agreed wholeheartedly; he's even attended church with me multiple times. I believe interfaith marriages are possible, but they are challenging, and most people would rather avoid the extra stress than deal with the extra dynamics. Any opinions?

2007-10-30 17:24:20 · 11 answers · asked by Irene 2 in Weddings

One of my daughters is 23 years old now and since she was a teenager she has marched to the beat of a different drummer. I have always tried to be there for her even if I disagreed inside with the decisions that she was making. (She wasn't into drugs.) But for her, happiness was always just around the next corner... with the next job... or the next boyfriend, or the next opportunity, etc. She has had quite a few of each of them. She has never been able to just be happy. She has been very up or very down. We've tried to get her to counseling, but she doesn't think she needs it. I have always tried to be supportive and positive and be a loving mom and a good example. Now she has broken all ties with her family and moved to a big unfamiliar city 300 miles away from us about two weeks ago - without telling us. We found out by looking at her myspace. She won't communicate with me. I fear that something bad is going to happen to her. My heart is breaking. What should I do?

2007-10-30 17:22:58 · 12 answers · asked by countrygirl 1 in Family