what should i do? Parent Pressure!!?

Question

My parents are crazy. I got all a's in middle school and it was no problem. Now in hs In my first quarter of freshman year i am getting all b's with one c in all the hardest classes possible. My mom says that i need to work harder but i dont no what else to do. I want to ask her if i could drop down but shes so intimindating and so demanding its like she would see me as a failure. Any ideas how to tell her w/o complete breakdown?

Answer 1

Instead of asking your mom if you can "drop down", arrange to do just that..for the right reasons, not just because you may be slacking off. (I'm not saying you are.)
Explain to her that successful people know when it is right to step back and analyze where they are at and, if necessary, go back to the beginning and start all over again. Wallowing in a place where you feel overwhelmed and don't feel successful or that success is not going to find you is a complete waste of time.
Successful people stand up and are counted. They let everyone know, in a quiet manner, that they are successful and that they control their destiny.
It takes guts to go against your parents but, if you are absolutely certain that it is necessary for you to make this change, do it. Are you a mature person who can make important decsions in your life and stand by them. Then make them. You will be rewarded and possibly pleasantly suprised by your parents reaction.

Answer 2

First of all... STAY IN SCHOOL. You need that diploma.
It doesn't matter if you graduate in all upper-crust "major works" courses, just as long as you get through it. You need the transcript to get into college of any sort. At least get into a trade school program so you can get a skill to earn a living.

Secondly, check with your teachers and see if there is a tutoring program available. If not, see if your mom would be willing to spend some money for professional tutoring through Sylvan Learning, Kumon or other organization.

We all hit plateaus in our development. There might be some odd little mis-match in how you are perceiving this new material and you just need a little coaching in getting a handle on it.

I had mostly A's growing up, then did miserably in algebra. I was just starting to grasp the material as I got out of those classes. Algebra was taught by a baseball coach... the mis-match was in his communication skills and he knew it.

Answer 3

Most of us go through that in high school; our grades drop a little (or a lot). But not because we're slacking, it's because middle school was totally different and much easier. In high school, it's not only the subjects,but the teachers and it's the new environment, too. You may ask your counselor to change your classes. Maybe you're taking AP classes and you should be taking normal ones. You might try talking to your counselor and asking her to have a chat with your parents.

Answer 4

sweetie you cant live your life by what your parents want. if you feel as though you gave your best and did all you could do and received a b or c than mom and dad have to accept that. they are living their life through you and its not fair to you being a child who is doing the very best they can. sweetie hs is a whole different ball game. sit down and talk to the parent that is more reasonable and will listen and tell them how you feel about being pressure to do better when you have given all you can. sweetie your grades were fine in my book. as long as you are happy and you have given your best let what mom and dad say roll off your back and keep doing what you are doing. keep up the good work. be proud of your accomplishments. dont let anyone steal you joy. GodBless

Answer 5

Have a heart-to-heart talk with your mom. Tell her that you're doing all your best and ask her not to pressure you to much, instead, you need her to inspire you, in that way, you're more encourage to study harder.

Children need correct guidance, understanding, moral support and inspiration, aside from financial, from parents.