this is more for the women here...
if you were in the process of getting a divorce and you came up pregnant would you keep it? would u still tell your exhusband? would parental rights get totally revrsed if this came up in the divorce??
2007-10-30 18:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by dashfx420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok heres the extra details she went to see how far along she is and it turns out that her pregnancy is from the exhusband (cuz before she didnt know if it was his or the guy shes seeing now) yes i know u guys are probably saying what right does she have doing that already, but thats not the point. so now that its his she really doesnt want to be wit him, even tho from how she explained it hes happy. so idont know lol i guess this is "baby mama drama"
2007-10-31 13:35:34 · update #1
Yes I would keep it. And heck yeah, I would tell my ex-husband. First he needs to help out financially cause I can't do it on my own and second, he has the right to know that he has a child out there. Plus, the child has the right to know who his father is no matter how awful he may be to you. This is a difficult situation I must say. When my husband and I divorced, I prayed and prayed that I was not pregnant. Thankfully I am not. Not sure about parental rights but usually the mother gets custody of the child I heard.
2007-10-30 18:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the jurisdiction.
Why wouldn't someone keep the baby? If you're divorcing someone you (not you but the woman) should not be sleepign with the future ex husband.
The father has a right to know and an obligation to be told. The divorce would be amended to include child support - probably once the child were born.
Sorry, but I don't understand your question about reversing parental rights...
2007-10-31 01:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell my soon to be ex or anyone else. I would hide it and then go somewhere they were not. I know, not a popular answer but it is mine. I was in this situation in my thankfully far off past. I did it differently then I would now and it sucked. I am very much of the opinion now, that if I do what everyone else thinks I ought to do then I will suffer the consequences. I will be miserable. I have to do what my conscience clearly makes aware what I want or need to do.
My conscience is critical to harmony being in my life.
p.s. sometimes doing it my way comes up short in the end too...very imperfectly me!
2007-10-31 01:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry if you are put in this situation. But I would keep it. It will just add to the issue, but I just couldnt have an abortion. My sister has had two and my mom has had 6 I just cant do it. If you choose this I hope it is for the right reasons and you can move on. But if you do keep it be prepared to complicate things. But babies are wonderful and usually never a bad thing. Good luck.
2007-10-31 01:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by demo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you decide to keep it yes he has every right that you have regarding the baby. you two would have to go back to court for child support order and health insurance but he needs to know either way because he may want to try and save the marriage. you need to stop being selfish and communicate to that man that you are pregnant. and the of you discuss the options. GodBless
2007-10-31 01:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't keep the baby. I don't think I would get an abortion but I'm not Momma material. So I would give the baby up for adoption. I wouldn't need to tell my husband (or soon to be Ex in your scenario) because he has had a vasectomy and it obviously wouldn't be his.
2007-10-31 01:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't blame the child for the sins of the father, so I'd keep the baby. Hell yes, I'd tell the Ex, by serving him with paperwork for child support. And please elaborate a little for the last. Reversed, what? Why?
2007-10-31 01:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by Maebnus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First i would contact an attorney and ask advise on parental rights. then i would consider age and If you could financially raise a healthy child on your own salary. Good Luck
2007-10-31 01:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Web 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get an abortion. Of course, even if divorce wasn't an issue, I would get an abortion. I am childfree and refuse to ever let a person come out of my body. Would I tell the man I was divorcing? Probably not, I don't see how it would be his business. If I was married to him, he would already know my views and what I would do.
2007-10-31 01:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by some female 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Of course I would keep it. I mean it isn't he childs fault!
2007-10-31 01:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by beachcutie03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋