My son and I moved in with my mom after my dad died. But she is driving us f%$*^% crazy. Itought this would help her and us but it only seems to make things worse. Have anyone been in this situation and what would be the best choice? We are getting ready to move in a couple of weeks.
2007-10-30 17:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by sunburned 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should talk to her about it 1rst and explain to her just how unhappy you are I'm sure both of you are probably still grieving I personally think you probably need each other right now Please give it a chance for both of your sakes
2007-10-30 18:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by oxendinebrenda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your dad's passing, I lost my mom a few months back and know how hard that can be. Moving is the best thing that you can probably do. First I don't think your mom is through her grieving and needs some space. Second, as like with my dad he wanted and needed time to himself though I was the first to want to come stay with him for a while. It wasn't that he didn't love me nor that I didn't love him, but he needed his space. Now he's planning on taking a trip to visit other family and get away for a while. In your mom's case she lost her husband then you came moving back home with your child after having been on your own. She I don't believe was prepared emotionally for your return and that of her grandchild. For her right now it is probably hard for her to show any positive emotions towards either of you and the result is her actions aren't what you would expect and probably out of character for her. Give her some time, the move and giving her some space is probably the best thing you could do for her, but do let her know that your door is always open to her. Invite her to come over for coffee once your settled in or for dinner. Let her know that your home is open to her, in time she will come around and be more of her old self again.
2007-10-31 01:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're getting ready to move out in a couple of weeks? That's the answer! There should be a law against adult children staying under the same roof as their parents for more than a few days. It's Dangerous!
2007-10-31 01:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to allow her to have her privacy as she goes through these shifts.
It is good to live in the same area as her and be available to assist her. Get a house nearby.
Perhaps get her one of those easy-to-use cell phones for seniors.
My parents lived on their dream-ranch for years until my dad died this year. A month later, Mom had a heart-attack and had to be helicoptered to a town 2 hours from there... twice. She bought a house near me and my sister here in Houston (close to 3 hospitals), and found a buyer for that ranch. Mom's new house is ideal, and has room for visitors to stay if needed. We can call her most evenings to see if she wants to be taken out to eat. We all feel good about this arrangement.
2007-10-31 01:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved in with my Mom when she got sick.
It was absolutely hell on earth. Big mistake.
After you have been on your own, it is extremely difficult to go back to being "Mom's baby" once again. Doesn't matter what your age is, Moms want to turn back the clock and control you. It is only natural I guess. Unless both you and Mom are very laid back and patient, and can compromise, it will be rough going.
2007-10-31 01:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the only solution to your problem: to move out. You and your son need to have your own space, set your own rules, and make your own life, with no one else interfering in it. You can always visit your mom, or she may visit you, when invited.
2007-10-31 01:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it is very hard for family members to live together.lf that is the case then it is far better to move into your own place,otherwise the whole situation becomes to much of a conflict.
2007-10-31 01:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby Jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be still in mourning. Just move out. she'll survive
2007-10-31 01:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, there's no sense in staying just to get driven more crazy.
2007-10-31 01:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by ivan k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋