What is her problem? I'm 18 and in college but she still treats me like a child. I love her but she's really bugging me. She gets mad when I come home late from parties and when I'm drunk. And she's telling me my boyfriend is no good for me just cause he got a DUI and is in jail right now. Plus she gets mad when I have my friends over and she stoops through my things like I'm still in high school or something. Then tells me I'm a bad influence on my younger sisters who are 16 and 13. Why doesn't she realize that I'm grown and I can do what I want?
2007-10-30 18:51:21 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and so are you, even more.
2007-10-30 18:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes u are grown up and u can do watever u want
BUT here's the problem
u ARE grown up....if u want the full responsibilities and freedom of a grown up.....then get out of HER house
but because ur living in her house, u still have to abide by her rules
u shouldn't be such a party animal because u ARE being a bad influence on ur younger sisters.....when they go out with their friends and get into an argument with mom, then they'll use "well *you* get to go out and party and come home late why cant i?"
so as long as u live under her roof, respect her, be more considerate about ur siblings, and most of all act like a grown up if u want to be treated like one
btw....ur boyfriend is no good.....in jail for DUI? that says a lot about him.....poor judgement, idiotic, not responsible.....
2007-10-30 18:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be grown, but that does not make you an adult. There is a difference. Life makes you an adult. Being and adult isn't coming home late, parties, drinking. Being an adult is being RESPONSIBLE. Getting a job, paying your bills, showing respect (tho, that should all ways be done) to your parents.
Believe me, your mother only wants what is best for you. She wants you to be happy. To have a good life. I am glad to see that you state you love her.
I really don't mean to sound so hard, but I can see myself in your words. I had so much trouble with my mother when I was young...and most of it was MY fault. I just wanted to do what I wanted to do. I had no concern for anyone. My mother and I used to argue like crazy. Then two things happened, I grew older...and I had a sickness that all most killed me. Guess who was there, who worried about me and cried when they told her I was going to die? It was my mother.
There is somethig that my husband used to tell people when they complained about their mothers. That was, "your mother is the ONLY person who would and will lay down her life for you." And she would. She loves you and probably more than you could ever guess.
Maybe you could sit down and talk to your mother. Tell her how you are feeling and see if there is something that the two of you can work out?
2007-10-30 22:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
18? Grown? Living at home right? Well you aren't grown unless you accept responsiblity for yourself and others and show it. And if you so grown you need to move out on your own. Period. Mom has EVERY right to go through your things and have a problem with your life if you are living under her roof. Period. Besides from what you are saying, you have an problem with underage drinking, following rules at home, a loser b/f and setting a bad influence with your younger siblings. You are a LOSER child. I know she's disappointed in you.
2007-10-30 19:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, hopefully your not driving home drunk and secondly your boyfriend is in jail? girl dump his ***, are you insane??? If your dating someone in jail, I can see why your mom treats you as if your a child, because your making decisions like one. Also you are an influence on your little sister, whether or not you like it. Do you want your sister dating dead beats and hootin and hollering around drunk every weekend? I'm in college.. I'm not drunk all the time and I sure as hell don't date jail birds. Perhaps when you mature a little more you'll have grounds to call your mom out, but until you stop acting like your in high school, you should be treated like it.
2007-10-30 18:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lovey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 18 years old. You are not old enough to drink first of all, second it sounds like your boyfriend is a big loser, he's in jail for a DUI. Lastly you just got out of high school, If you really want to "grow" up and become independent from your mother you need to get a job, and move out. Then you'll see what it really means to be an adult.
2007-10-30 18:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
HOW DARE YOU CALL YOUR MOM IDIOT???? Is that a proper way of calling that lady who had laid her life for you??? with those that you stated you really need help... Your mom was right to get mad at you when you go home late and of course drunk!!! like what you said you are only 18 yrs.old and being 18 doesn't entitles you to treat your mom like that!!! Sooner, you'll also be a mom and YOU WILL REALIZE THAT WHAT SHE WAS DOING, YOU WILL ALSO DO WITH YOUR KIDS BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AND YOU WANT TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM!!! As for me, not unless you have work and can raise yourself alone I guess that's just the only time wherein you can say YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT but as long as you are at your mother's custody you have no right of stating such. I feel sad that your mother has a daughter like you. You'd appreciate and see her importance when she's no longer with you. Believe me girl!!!
2007-10-30 20:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by RHEA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still living at home if you're all "grown"? Shouldn't you be living on your own, paying your own bills, cooking your own food, and making a living for yourself so you can do whatever you want? Act like a grown up and maybe you'll be treated as one. You should move out because you ARE setting a bad example to your younger sisters.
2007-10-30 19:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your Mom IS NOT an idiot!!! As long as your living under her roof, you should live by her rules. Give your Mom a break, she only is trying to look out for you and protect you from any kind of trouble or bad situation. Take a look at how she sees things and maybe you will be able to understand why she does or says the things she does. Good luck!!! And if you still feel the same, move out on your own and have your own set of rules to live by.
2007-10-30 19:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by merry_1014 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mother loves you and wants what's best for you. No matter how old you are, she's older, more experienced, and knows better than you do.
And about your boyfriend. Your mother is right, he is a loser. You need to re-evaluate the relationship and think about if this is what you really want in your life. That boy will not grow up anytime soon, and he will keep making these same mistakes over and over, so be prepared to deal with his immature irresponsible behavior for a while.
Also, your little sisters look up to you and want to be like you. Set a good example.
2007-10-30 18:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by qtchica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, based on your own description of your own behavior, your mother has good reason to be concerned.
You are NOT acting like a responsible grown-up woman.
Your BF is in trouble for DUI and being in a car with him is risky behavior on your part. You are out getting drunk, meaning that any number of things could easily happen to you... from getting raped and/of kidnaped to getting arrested.
You are dragging in other college-age girls into the house like it is a slumber party... grow up.
Maturity is not a number. 18 just means that you are "legally" responsible for your own actions. 18 also means that your mother can "legally" kick you out of the house if you make things to rough for her. Being a bad influence on the other kids in the family is grounds for that. Your mom only has so many years to teach them the necessary things to get along in the world and have a good life... you know... like respect, responsibility, ethics.
Your mother is RIGHT! For as long as you are living under her roof, you have to abide by her rules. She has a right to know what all you are getting into.
If you do not like this arrangement, you need to move out and be responsible for your own messes.
2007-10-30 19:11:12 · answer #11 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋