i m in love with someone and he also loves me madly but the problem is that he is married.there is not having a good relationship b/w him nd his wife so he wants to give her divorce nd want to marry me.but the problem is this that his wife is not ready to give him divorce.what should we do.kindly help us that how he should take the divorce so that we could marry each other nd could spend a good life.ya 1 more thing he has 2 kids from that lady.he even talked to his wife about divorce but at 1 moment his wife agrees but just the 2nd moment she refuse.pls help me.i really need a lawyer who can help me in solving my problem.
2007-10-30 18:03:52 · 17 answers · asked by bharti s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have two kids and also a product of broken family because of a girl who never know the meaning of FAMILY... Its sad that same thing might be happening with you. You know what, you're still young I guess and its never too late for you to find the RIGHT MAN FOR YOU. Right man means someone that could really be yours without hurting anyone and without getting the father of the kids.You are also a lady. Think of it. Put yourself on the wife's shoes. How would you feel that your husband will be leaving you because he wants to be with another woman? How would you feel seeing the kids loosing their family? Do you think its fair? Do you think it is really the right thing? you know what, I once asked myself " How will you know when its not right to love someone? The answer: When that love ruins another person, another family, when it even ruins yourself. I guess you don't need the help of a lawyer but a help of someone who could lead you on a right path. Let go of that man for he has responsibilities with his wife and kids!!!! Pray that one morning you'd find the right man for you...
2007-10-30 19:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by RHEA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what country you are from, but this saying is a Universal saying and applies to both men and women:
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER-- YOU CANNOT CHANGE A BEHAVIOR AND IF HE CHEATED ON HIS WIFE NOW WITH YOU, YOU HAVE A DEFINITE GUARANTEE BETTER THAN THE SUN WILL SHINE THAT HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU, eventually...........now as far as getting the divorce......if he REALLY wanted one, he would already have seen an attorney and had the papers drawn up....the stall and the talk is just to keep you on his string.......he has no intention to leave his wife and children,,,,why should he? he has the best of both worlds and he won't be losing half of what he has like he would in a divorce......no actually more, wives get child support in some states.
2007-10-31 01:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need a lawyer your bf does. if he is married he has to first get a divorce before he can marry you. if you dont care about marriage but just want to be with him, you can go thru a ceremony of exchanging garlands, and tying mangalsutra without priest in front of trusted friends. you can live with him as his second wife until he gets a divorce. but i dont understand why you are after a married man and that too with 2 kids ? do you think your future with him will be good ? anyway thats your choice. if his wife does not agree for divorce he wont get it for the next 5-10 years, so till then you will have to be his unofficial wife or forget about him. why dont you tell him to first get a divorce and then come to you ? till then you can continue your life. by having relations with a married man you are playing with fire and putting your entire future at stake. i hope you see the light and give up this idea.
2007-10-31 06:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man isn't telling you the truth... Listen. I've been to law school. Granted, I'm in FL and I don't know where you live, but all he must do is file the petition and he will be granted his divorce. Whether or not she "agrees" is irrelevant. He files, she has 20 days to respond, if she doesn't it's granted by default. If she responds, the court oversees division of marital gain and orders child support and custody and visitation. It's as simple as that. There are in most states guidelines for these things if the parties can't agree. It takes about a month to have a dissolution granted. It's HIM, not her.
2007-10-31 02:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realize that if he leaves his wife for you, in addition to being considered a homewrecker, he will probably do the same to you, right?
That said - you don't need a lawyer unless she's suing you for something. It is his legal problem not yours.
Depending on where you all live, there may be nothing he can do. He needs an attorney. Are you in the US?
2007-10-31 01:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
His wife has taken correct dec'n , she might also wants divorce but she might be not sure abt future of kids in that condition, has the person has assured anything abt the kids before proposing her wife for divorce??, if not...then... u both have no moral rights to even think abt getting married...as that kids are not only his wife's responciblities the person to whom u loves is also eqauliy responcible for that kids & their future.
Make sure that , the person who want to get married with u is also concern abt the future of his wife & kids & financialy he makes appropreate arrangments for it....otherwise u shud also re -think abt getting married with that person ..as today he wants to leave his family for own intrest withaut ensuring any future for them...& tomorrow he might thinks same abt you.
2007-10-31 01:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..Lady...cant you find a single guy...for your need.., you have already destroyed some body's home / heart...,can you imagine ..how those innocent kids feels..?...at present they are like ORPHANS...cause of YOU...,..Have you ever think about the same fate to you and your kids? How do you feel... ,when you come to know that your husband is cheating on you...? How do you feel when you see the other lady....? without any serious reason from you as a wife.....when you come to know that your husband was cheating / having an affair with another woman?.....can you imagine the punishment you are going to get from god.....(yes he give punishment by lot of way.,and your are going to receive in your present life...more over the lady / and her close relatives who has affected cause of you....definitely is praying to god to give you the maximum punishment in different way....yes we are sure you are going to suffer for destroying a family...do you think you are going to get peace..till your death...NEVER...
2007-10-31 03:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you the number one reason these "relationships" don't work. You have NO idea WHAT she says to him because you're only hearing one side of it. He's obviously lying to her and there's a 99% likelihood that he's lying to YOU too. You have no idea whether or not he's discussed divorce with her, nor do you have any idea whether or not he's having sex with both of you and feeding you both the same pack of lies. You don't need a lawyer, you need counseling. Don't believe he's lying? Tell him you're going to go to her directly...watch him FREAK. Go to her and tell HER you're sleeping with her husband and that he's told you he's asked her for a divorce, to marry YOU, but she refused. I bet you hear a totally different story from HER.
2007-10-31 01:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, done that. I don't think a lawyer will help, because you can't force the lady to divorce her husband. It has to mutual, I do believe. But believe me married men are not the way to go.
2007-10-31 01:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kristina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
#1) he is married...to someone else
#2) he must divorce that person to proceed with you
#3) he will still have 2 kids even after he divorces her
#4) if he fooled around with you on her, he will fool around with someone on you!
#5) this is probly more complicated than you can handle
#6) if you think you need a lawyer, hire one!!
2007-10-31 01:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋