My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half, and he is my 4th serious relationship, but I'm his first... When he and I first started dating it was different from all the others; I just "knew" he was the one! Now, a year later we are seriously considering getting engaged in the Spring. He and I have the same goals, interests, and enjoy the same activities, yet are pleasantly different, in a way I like. My problem is that as of late he has been getting on my nerves (we are currently long distance while I'm still in school). When I go there, we are fine, but when he comes here to stay with me and my 2 roomates he acts different, almost like he's trying to "show-off" and prove he isn't "whipped." It's little things that will get on my nerves like how he'll put his arm around me on the couch infront of everyone when I'm not in the mood to be touched and don't like to make my roomies feel uncomfortable. Is this normal or is this a sign? Because other than that he is A-Mazing!
2007-10-30 17:43:13 · 9 answers · asked by LizzyV 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To those who feel I am "immature" I can reassure you that I'm not, and I think I am entitled to not want to be touched at times: My body my rules! I like to give and take, but as for saying my boyfriend has "needs" I didn't go into detail and won't but generally shows affection in public and not in private and I just want the roles to be slightly reversed...
2007-10-30 18:58:17 · update #1
I am sorry but I was with you until the end of your question. You sound immature, maybe he needs to hold you and whether or not you are in the mood to be touched is pretty stupid. A lot of women would beg to have there boyfriend put their arm around them. Why would your roomies feel uncomfortable for you boyfriend putting his arm around you? That is immature if they do.
I don't feel that you are ready for marriage and the truth is that when it is the one you know it. There is no question.
Don't get married yet and good luck!
2007-10-30 17:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels uncomfortable in your territory. The macho act and arm around you are ways to say this girl is mine in body language. Talk to him about this and let him know you understand his feelings. Are your roomies male or female. His reactions will be different depending. This sounds too good a relationship to not try to solve this problem.
2007-10-30 17:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that he is doing anything wrong by putting his arm around you. You said it was long distance. Enjoy every minute you have together. If the roomies don't like it they can go into another room. Or the two of you can go out.
2007-10-30 17:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships in the real world are never perfect. So you have to accept him as he is, or let him go forever. You can never change anyone, so what will annoy you now, will keep doing so, even after marriage. Maybe you should explain to him when he comes to visit you that it's not good manners to make your room mates feel uncomfortable when he tries to cuddle up to you in front of them.
2007-10-30 17:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, you are the only one that can answer this question.....you know in your heart if he is the one. As you are still in college, why not take the pressure off and agree not even to discuss marriage or engagements until after graduation. This should give you the time you need to sort it out and know for sure.
2007-10-30 17:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what if he wants to show a little affection? I think you are being a little cold. Guys do that, they act different in front of friends. First thing you have to do is talk to him about it, but be nice, dont be a brat. And when someone is the one, you just know.
2007-10-30 17:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really the one for you then you'll learn to get over the minor things that get on your nerves. No relationship is without it's little annoyances and once you learn to get over them you'll realize it's because you're willing to put in the effort to make something that's special to you work out.
2007-10-30 17:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to love and to hold...in good and bad...that's when you love someone! Don't just keep the goods and trash the bads. Because none of us boys and girls are perfect at all times.
Wait until you are ready to commited. That's when you know if he's really "DA ONE" for you.
2007-10-30 18:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Salonnv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you make sure lol
well just get out the MANual
Why do you girls try to put everything in a category or question?
stop trying to figure everything out and be happy, if it's meant to be it's meant to be.
2007-10-30 17:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋