he has been on the suboxone program for 4 months now but he still snorts pills every chance he gets, i am really getting tired of this, at this point i am not really sure he wants to stop like he says he does, because if he did he wouldn't do them he would stick to the program i would think,someone please give me some advice because i am so discusted and confussed right now, he just laughs about it and says he won't do them anymore what should i do.
2007-10-30 15:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by kathy m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are in a tough position right now! You have to remember that he is ADDICTED to these pills AND addiction IS a DISEASE. He may want to stop, but can't. Stay by his side, encourage him, if possible, go to the program with him. See if he is willing to change programs. Maybe this program is not working for him. Lastly, give him a final chance, inform him, you have six months to become sober. If you cannot do this, I will be leaving you.
2007-10-30 15:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you how I handled this same problem. I gave him the choice, Me or the pills(he chose me)!!! I went through this for years and he turned out to be worth all the effort. I know that you don't understand the addiction, you can't but most importantly you can't compete with the drugs. You could be the best he has ever had in bed, but it won't make him not wanna snort another. You have to leave him, give him the chance to get back together only if he stays on his program. Leave him for good if he never gets straight. Don't go through this forever and remember this isn't your problem, it's his. Only he can fix this. You have none of the power!! Good Luck!
2007-10-30 22:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anybody that snorts pills has a huge problem and if he just laughs about it, it will never get any better. You can't work a program if you don't think there's anything wrong. My advice would be to get out now as I was always told by marriage counselors that until the addict gets clean, they can't work on any other problem that they have.
2007-10-30 22:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont ask the ignorant people on this site. we are idiots. I have seen real addiction all my life. It is a true sickness. The question is always, do they really want to quit or not. If he is not serious about quiting then that would be it for me. Just because someone has a breakdown doesnt mean thay are fu**ups it just means they need more help. I think you already know if he really wants to quit.
2007-10-30 22:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by bob hoskins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to you and what you are willing to tolerate.
You have to make a big decision. If you seriously want him to change, you must put your foot down and tell him straight out or he will loose you. -Stick to your guns. Do not give in and keep settling.
Let him know enough is enough. Tell him he needs to move out and that you will be filing for a divorce. Sometimes you have to scare him. If the thought of loosing you seems unbearable to him, he will quit. He has to really want to help himself. -Good luck.
2007-10-30 22:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and tell him when he can prove he has been clean for a yr by allowing you to make him take a pee test(they sell them in stores) every week, THEN you will consider reconciliation.Otherwise after a yr he is history.No matter how much he promises and begs, its a drug tests every week any time any day of YOUR choice for a yr.If he fails ONE, just ONE its over.
Get him into church, a government sponsored drug addiction is no better than an illegal drug addiction.
2007-10-30 22:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should go to Narc-anon (or the equivalent of alanon... for the families of narcotics users)... they will guide you through this.
2007-10-30 22:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋