i really like this guy who is my best friend. we practicily act like we are going out, we hug and share a blanket at football games, and flirt all the time. he likes one other girl but im not sure if he likes her more than me. i don't think so cuz we hang out a lot more and he acts like he likes me a lot. i am just waiting for him to ask me out he knows i like him and he told me he likes me. is he too afraid or just not sure? i am afraid that if i ask him out that it iwll make him avoid me or something. even though we are best friends and he likes me, what do you think is keeping him from asking me out? or should i just ask him?
2007-10-30 15:16:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also how should i ask him out? that would help too. also we are in high school band together and we HAVE to play at football games.
2007-10-30 15:25:38 · update #1
If you 2 are as close or best of friends like you say. Then I do not think you have a problem. It seems that you might have to ask him out, because he might not know how to ask. This other girl might not feel the same way about him. He needs to think about that and focus on someone who cares about him already. If he avoids you like you feared then he is just showing you how much he is not a friend. You never know till you find out?!?!?!!!
2007-10-30 15:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, but a lot of times when a girl does that the guy acts really akward, and as a result the boy-girl friendship is ruined, even though it wasn't meant to be. I would say play it safe for a while and kind of give little clues showing him that you would like to go out with him. Eventually, if he doesn't ask you out, I would say just ask him when you are sure the timing is perfectly right. I hope this helps!
2007-10-30 15:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Amelié 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you are hesitating for the same reason which is fear of rejection. The funny thing is that based on what you have said you both want the same thing and are afraid to cross the line. So to answer your question the answer is no, you should not ask him out. What you should do is just suggest to him that you two should spend more time together that way his fragile male ego (trust me I used to have one) will not be dented because your suggestion will be the giant flashing green light he needs to simply ask the question himself. Do all the obvious stuff such as handle it in private and give him a big smile while you look him right in the eye and make the suggestion. It will work
2007-10-30 15:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel all through school I had a best friend who liked me sooooo much....we even lived together when we were 16 and we also dated other people....the reason I think that they dont jump to it is because they do not want to ruin what you and him have and if you are not friends they cant take that......IT was me that always said no we did however date and we have kissed a few times out of middle and high school but I will say that we both grew up and married and now we do not see each other at all because when i met his wife she could see how much he really loved me and it was drama...I miss him but that happens sometimes
2007-10-30 15:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by cali girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend had simliar problem too (but it was a guy) they were best friend and the thing is she like the other guy, at the end he couldnt take it anymore but the biggest problem was, it took him almost 1 year to ask he ask her out....but she said no becuase she always thought him as best friend not as a MAN so after she knew he like her she start avoid him and since then they never contact each other since........In my opinion I think my friend should've threat her like a GIRL not as FRIEND in a year. If you really really like this guy and you cant live without him I think you should take a risk by ask him out before its too late eventhou there is a chance he avoid you but if you just like him as best friend i dont think you should ask him out
p.s. if you guys been friend for very long time I think you should take your time and find your own way to make him like you before its too late or just stay as best friend forever
2007-10-30 15:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Plow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he's both afraid and unsure. If ever you two were to go out, and date, and stuff, things would be different, especially if it doesn't work out. I guess he doesn't want things to be different between the two of you, being best friends and all. Give it time. :)
Whether you should ask him or not... It really depends. If he's the type of guy who wouldn't mind, then sure, why not? But I really think you should give it more time.
The choice is yours. Good luck! :D
2007-10-30 15:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Aoi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa.... well, its a tough call, I don't think you want to ruin the friendship you already have with him by coming on too strongly. You know, I think you should ask him, you know? Just word it right. Something like: "I dont want to come on too strongly but, I really like you, what do you think about going out sometime, just you and me?"
Something like that. The worst thing he could say is that hes not wanting that right now, and if thats the case, then let him come to you when he's ready.
Hope this helps!
2007-10-30 15:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by Liz W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for what you want, but make sure you talk you talk to him at the right time. Maybe you guys could out for pizza or something. Think of a clever way to ask him without freaking him out. Keep it simple and get to the point. Don't dress all up snd put on make-up, I mean make sure you look nice but don't over-do-it!! Just be yourself.
~SHAY♥
2007-10-30 15:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't ask you in about 2 weeks than ask him out. Or maybe he is just really good friends and is afraid because he might think you don't like him back. But go for it if you want. It's really your option.
2007-10-30 15:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by lil' aurie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do it most guys now and days like girls that take action i was in the same place as him but the girl just jumped on me and we ended up making out and no she aint a whore in fact she is kind of a " good girl " but thats ok since we have been together for 5 years but i didnt really want to ask her out because i had my eye on another hotter looking chick that liked me and i was talking to another one as well but in the end i ended up with the one that liked me lol kind of funny if you think about it but good luck
2007-10-30 15:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by altima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋