ok so i'm not allowed to date yet...?

Question

i'm 15 and my parents wont let me date yet. because dating is for people who want to get married. so i've never kissed a boy either. and recently i've really been wanting to have my first kiss. it's really hard because i dont want to lose my parents trust. but i reall want this. what do i do?!?!? i've had a lot of guys flirting with me which makes it realllllly hard. what if someone asks me out? do i go behind my parents backs or tell him the truth or lie and say i already have a boyfriend??? i know the simple answer would be dont do it. but i want to do it. please help!

Answer 1

Ask your parents if you can have one of the boys over for dinner. And make it one that they would approve of. If that doesn't work changing their mind. Hey, at least you gave it a shot without lying to anyone.

Answer 2

Dearest Amy
This is one tuff answer with no easy solution at all. Being 15 and hormones driving you carzy is no help. And mom and dad keeping you locked away from boys is adding to the problem. Ask youre self this question: Whats a little white lie. If you want to explore makingout go one a sneak date and kiss the guy. The worst thing you will have fun and kiss the whole movie. Dont do it is not the simple answer, because you and i both know its making you crasy inside.

Answer 3

Be obedient to your parents.

The Dark Side of Dating

For one thing, youths are in the vulnerable period of life the Bible calls “the bloom of youth.” (1 Corinthians 7:36) During this time, you may feel powerful surges of sexual desire. There is nothing wrong with this; it is a part of growing up.

But therein lies a big problem with teenage dating: Teenagers are just beginning to learn how to control these sexual feelings. True, you may well know God’s laws regarding sex and you may sincerely desire to remain chaste. Even so, a biological fact of life comes into play: The more you keep company with a member of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow—whether you want it to or not. It is the way all of us are made! Until you are older and more in control of your feelings, dating may simply be too much for you to handle. Unfortunately, many youths find this out the hard way.

“When we started dating, . . . we didn’t even hold hands or kiss. I just wanted to enjoy the pleasure of her company and talk,” said one young man. “However, she was very affectionate and would sit very close to me. In time we did hold hands and kiss. This created within me an even stronger sex drive. It affected my thinking to the point that I wanted to be with her, not just to talk, but to hold her, touch her and kiss. I couldn’t get enough! I was literally going crazy with passion. At times I would feel cheap and ashamed.”

Little wonder, then, that dating often culminates in illicit sexual relations. A survey of several hundred teenagers found that 87 percent of the girls and 95 percent of the boys felt that sex was either “moderately important or very important” in dating. However, 65 percent of the girls and 43 percent of the boys admitted that there had been times on a date when they had had sexual contact even though they did not feel like it!

Recalls 20-year-old Loretta: “The more we saw each other, the more involved we became. Kissing soon grew stale and we began touching intimate body parts. I became a nervous wreck because I felt so dirty. My date also in time expected me to ‘go all the way’ . . . I was confused and bewildered. But all I could think of was, ‘I don’t want to lose him.’ I was miserable!”

True, not every couple end up having sexual relations; some let their displays of affection stop just short of it. But what results when one is worked up emotionally and has no honorable outlet for such feelings? Guaranteed frustration. And those frustrations are not limited to sexual feelings.

Answer 4

ok well im a lil older than the other 2 im a grown man and i experienced this with my wife when we were younger. your parents should really trust you to make the right decision. i know for a fact that your parents probably did the same stuff when they were your age. just sit down with them and have a long talk think of it as a extended version of the birds and the bees. and by the way dating is not for people who want to get married. dating is like a rent to own type deal you try it out and pay for it as long as u like but if your not satisfied you return if and get something different

Answer 5

I've been in a similar situation... 15, never kissed, never even dated... I went behind my parents' backs and started dating a guy... I cared for him and he felt the same... but I felt really horrible about sneaking it... doing so made me feel like I was doing something wrong, and I literally began to get sick over it... don't date or kiss just because you want to get your first over with or because of peer pressure.... after the first time you do something, you can never go back to the way things were before it happened

Answer 6

Now you know why your parents won't let you date. You don't know how to handle a simple question, If someone asks you out, your reply, I'm sorry, but my parents don't let me date yet. You are at that age where your heart over rules your head, which proves you are not mature enough to handle some of the guys out there that are only out there for the sex. Your parents are right. Dating is to find out what people are like and if you are compatable to them. But you are much to young to have to worry about who you want to have kids by.

Answer 7

Same situation here as well. Seriously, DON'T go back on your parent's trust...it's just not worth it. My sister tried doing it when she was my age and my parents completely flipped out. Probably the best thing for you to do is sit your parents down and have a talk with them about your desire to be allowed to date. By doing that, you're showing that maybe you really are mature enough to handle a relationship at your age. Good luck.

Answer 8

Always be honest with your parents! They are your God-given guides in this life. Listening to their guidance will keep you safe. It is natural to be interested in boys when you are 15. When I was 15, one of my friends got pregnant. She had disobeyed her father and gone out with an older boy. She was very innocent and naive. They did not have detailed sex education in school then. She did not realize that "dry humping" naked could cause you to get pregnant. (It can and does!) When she told her Dad, he gave her a really bad beating and she lost her baby. She was so depressed that she commited suicide. Her Dad did wrong by beating her. But if she had obeyed her Dad, who only wanted her to be a good girl and to stay safe and have a good reputation, she would not have been in trouble to begin with. Her Dad had to go in the state hospital, because he totally went 'round the bend after she killed herself. If she had honored her father, her family would not be destroyed.
Hang out with other girls who are not allowed to date. If it's okay with your parents, go out in groups, and STAY with the group. You will eventually get that first kiss. Relax. A girl with a good reputation who obeys her parents is the kind of girl NICE boys want to someday marry. Slutty girls with bad reputations who go behind their parents' back wind up dumb and stuck with an unwanted child and a husband she doesn't respect. Finish school. Go to a good college and get a degree in something that interests you. Get a great job and save some money. Get your car paid for and a downpayment ready for your first home. You will meet your prince charming at the appropriate time and place.
Best wishes to you.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with a kiss.But a kiss can lead to other things would you be ready for that at the tender age of 15?.Try to talk with your parents and tell them you do not want to go behind their back and lie to them.Hope you can resolve this.

Answer 10

your stilll young try to hold on ( the longer you wait the better the moment will feel when it actually happens) ......... just look at me i never had my first kiss and all that jazz but i am perfectly happy,...... and the last thing you wannna do is lose your parents trust its better in the long run if you listen to them becuz when your a parent you will know how it feels