Can my parents still ground me at age 18?

Question

i live at home, but i'm almost never there, i'm 18 and recently i lied to my parents about staying out all night and they grouneded me. i want to if anybody else that is a parent is againist this, i'm an adult i should make my own choices weither they're good or bad. please moms and dads help me out.?

if i do start paying rent do that have the right to ground me then. and how much does insurance on a car cost?

Answer 1

yea . if your still living with them .
stay out of trouble !
xoxo!

Answer 2

The wonderful age of 18 allows you many opportunities, but you do not wake up the day of your 18th birthday with all the wisdom necessary to make wise and competent decisions. That is obvious by the mere fact that you lied, and got grounded. Your parents have rules because they are trying to teach you that LIFE has rules, requirements and expectations. If you do something wrong at work, lie about it, and get caught, the ramifications of that blunder will be much worse than simply getting grounded by you parents. Does that make sense to you? Being fired from your job will follow you for the rest of your life, but your parents will forget about all the groundings in your life as soon as you respect them, listen to them and start being a responsible adult.

Although you are 18, you are still living in your parent's house. There is no magic rule that permits you to disobey your parents, no matter what age, as long as you are living in their house.

As long as your parents are paying all of the bills, you should respect their rules and their wishes. AND, even if you pay them rent, room or board, you are only contributing to the upkeep of the home, so you will still be required to abide by their rules.

Sorry if this is not the answer you wanted to hear, but someday when you have your own family, your own mortgage and bills, and your own worries besides lying to your mom and dad and being grounded, you will understand.

Man! I sound just like my parents! When and how did that happen?!

Answer 3

You cannot be serious. I don't care if you live with them or not, they have absolutely NO RIGHT to ground you. It's so sad and rediculous that an 18 year old would even ask that it would be funny if it were not so outrageous. I simply cannot believe the answers I see above and points to a very serious problem we have with our family structure. This concept of "living under their roof" is simply not relevant when you are a LEGAL ADULT. Of course you should not be living there anyway, but that's another issue. Get out of that house TOMMORROW and stand up for yourself and quit acting like a child and accepting childhood punishments.

Answer 4

Well, if you are 18, why would you lie about where you were? That seems to be the real question at hand....
You are in a tough spot in life... if you are 18 and you are a senior in high school, if they are paying your bills... paying your college...your insurance.... then yes.... I would say they have a right to ground you...
I am a mother... my kids are 14, 13, and 5...
My best advice to you... stay respectful to your parents... they are only looking out for your best interest. I think it is kind of silly for them to ground you at this age... I would be more in line to stop paying your bills or something like that. You are 18 now.. you are supposed to be taking care of your self... making good decisions... which doesn't meant you Can't stay out all night... just be honest about it. Really why lie.... you are 18.
my mom told me something once when I was over 18 and felt as though I was entitled to what she had.... "the day you turned 18 was the day I was not obligated to take care of you... anything I do for you from here on out is to be considered a favor".... so keep that in mind.. your parents or not obligated to do anything for you anymore... they are helping you!

Answer 5

I think most parents feel that if a child of theirs still lives in their home the child still needs to respect the rules of the home. Believe me, in the long run it is better this way. When you're ready to be on your own you'll have that extra incentive to get an education and a decent job so you can get your own place. It's hard on the parent, too, believe me, but it truly is for your own good. I was stricter with my daughter, and she has such a good life now. I didn't follow through with my son in the same way because of some problems he had, and I tried to over compensate. He's 33 and still living home with me. He's not happy, and I think he is even angry down deep that I didn't stick to my guns and make him get a decent job and get his own place. I worked hard to keep this home as a single parent, and it isn't fair to me that his lack of responsibility has such an effect on the quality of my life. A person can be an adult legally, but until they're ready to accept the responsibility that goes with adulthood, sometimes they aren't able to make their own choices.

Answer 6

As long as you're living under their roof and not paying rent, you live with their rules and the punishments for breaking them.

Sorry, kiddo, but until you move out or start paying them for the privilege of living at home, you're pretty much stuck.

Edit: if you start paying rent and do your share of the chores (your own laundry, buy your own food, etc.) then they really have no right to give you rules any more than they would with a tenant. Keep in mind, though, that being on good terms with them is something you want - there's no legal contract between you, so they could still decide to kick you out if you get out of control.

As for car insurance, it depends a lot on your driving record, your age, what kind of car you drive. For a teenager it's really high - at least $2,000 a year here.

Answer 7

Courtney,

My parents didn't do that to me because I ran away when I was younger and they didn't want to feel that way again if I left so they pretty much let me do what I wanted. Since you don't have that relationship with your parents, you're going to have to tough it out or move it out.

Oh I can say, "I'm a parent and I think your folks are out of line!" but really it's none of my damn business how they treat you.

You see Darling, the fact that you're looking for someone you don't' know to testify on your behalf shows your lack of maturity. If you want to be treated like an adult, you're going to have to accept responsibility for your actions and your decisions. If you broke the rules of the house you're living in you shouldn't have lied about it and you shouldn't try to "enlist foreign powers" to help you out of a mess of your own making. You should step up, admit what you did and take whatever consequences come your way LIKE AN ADULT.

If you want to live by your own rules, you can. Just not in your parents house.

Answer 8

You live in your parent's house you live by their rules. If you don't agree with them go to them as an adult and talk it out. I would work with them in setting up some ground rules for the situation so you all can discuss expectations.

Answer 9

As long as you live home, there are rules. If you choose to live there then you have to obey the rules. Very simple. Besides, once you start lying to your parents, you lose their faith and trust in you. Not a good thing.

Answer 10

As long as you live in THEIR house, makes no difference whether you pay rent or not THEY make the rules.
When you have your OWN house and pay your way without NAY help from them, then YOU can make the rules.
Yes they have the right to ground you.

Answer 11

They can do whatever they want if you agreed to their rules by living in their house. However, as an adult, you have the LEGAL right to leave.