Family & Relationships - 18 October 2007

So my friend useed to like this guy for like a week, so nothing big. But then he started flirting and hanging out with me and now i really like him but my friend freaked out when she found out and now shes all mad at me. She liked him for a few days and now that me and him are getting serious she claims to HATE him eventhough i know shes just jealous. Now she's giving me a hard time and turning all my friends against him and she's starting to treat me so bad. What should i do? Is this my fault?

2007-10-18 15:22:56 · 9 answers · asked by Christa M 1 in Friends

ok, i have like no close friends. im really shy, my closest friend is my boyfriend, when he's busy i have nothing to do and it makes me sad. my parents want me to babysit WAY too much. which results in me haveing no time to go out and make friends. they expect me to babysit my sister like every weekend while they go out with their friends. im 16, its my turn to go out and party and socialize. it ruining my life, i feel like a loser. i want to make more friends. am i overreacting? or how can i fix this?

2007-10-18 15:21:48 · 11 answers · asked by ......//;' 4 in Family

Ok, so my inlaws (i need to say OUTLAWS ) bec i cant stand them, live in Delaware, we live in Nj...i had a baby in May 2006. I said i would go with my hubby and the baby to visit them during XMAS....Our son HATES car rides, I dont want to put him through this...last year i asked my OUTLAWS to come up here and she gave me the HARDEST time....i am getting very anxious about it now.....i really dont want to go.........i also have to say that my inlaws have NOT been nice to me for this entire year...thye have found fault and all i did was marry thier son and have his baby...HELP!!

2007-10-18 15:19:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What if you dont talk as much as you used to but the reason is that you simply dont have the time..she thinks that i dont want to talk to her, so she got mad and wre in this big fight were she just hates me..whats up with thatt?? please telll!!!

2007-10-18 15:18:00 · 5 answers · asked by vmichii75 1 in Friends

Ok, so theres this guy whos in a couple of my classes and he is SO cute! I really like him but he is such a jerk! He thinks he is all that and he really acts like he thinks that guys are superior to girls!! He is soooo beautiful tho, with kinda long but not too long blonde hair and a beautiful face! I hate him as a person but I just melt when I look at him! It is sooo hard to hate someone when they are DROP DEAD GOURGEOUS!!!! What should I do?!? It is so confusing, because at times I hate him becaus of the way he acts and then at other times I just cant stop thinking about how beautiful he is!! What should I do?!?!

2007-10-18 15:14:55 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating someone for a few weeks but it is hard for me to tell if she misses me when I am gone or if she is happy when she sees me. I can not tell when she wants a kiss or if she wants me to goto the next stage.

What would you think or do in this situation?

2007-10-18 15:12:14 · 5 answers · asked by Kev 2 in Singles & Dating

I regret just about every decision I've made throughout my life. I wish that I could redo it all knowing half of what I do now, but I know that that won't happen. Anyway, I'm sick of always being the good guy. I've always gotten good grades, followed directions, listened to my overprotective, psychopathic mother, helped out those in need, stayed out of trouble, etc. I may be on the path to success in life, but I never have any fun. I also believe that people chose to take advantage of me based on my good guy reputation. I'm sick and tired of it. I have a lot of friends but we never do anything. When we hang out, we just sit around and watch time go by. I want to get out and just go crazy rather than being cooped up in this house for the rest of my life. Am I right or what?

2007-10-18 15:09:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband and I have some issues with our family I know who doesnt. These may seem like there are not a big deal but we feel they are. With his family his older brother had a baby 3 years ago and the little kid gets all the attention and so does the older brother and my husband and I and his younger brother get nothing. Even when my husband was growing up him and his younger brother got nothing. My husband feels nothing he does is good enough and does not like really going to see his family a lot as when we are there no one pays attention to us or really talks to us. How should we handle the problem? I know lots of other families where an emphais is not placed soley on 2 people.

2007-10-18 15:08:40 · 8 answers · asked by molldoll090206 1 in Family

so today is my b-day but im going to celebrate on saturday.. my friends are having a party back home and invited me out to it.. i havent seen some of them in a really long time and would really like to go.. on the other hand.. one of my co-workers is throwing a huge halloween party and everyone i work with will probably be there.. i just got hired into this company a few months ago and would really like to go to establish a better relationship with my co-workers.. plus it just sounds like a lot of fun and i have the perfect costume idea.. hehe.. i cant go to both parties either since they are about 2 hours away from each other.. so which would you choose and why??

2007-10-18 15:06:39 · 12 answers · asked by Kevin H 3 in Friends

I attended my friends wedding out of state as she lives in South Carolina and I live in Oklahoma. I DID NOT BRING A GUEST. I gave her 100 but now feel I gave her too much as I had to pay for hotel and flight expenses there. She thanked me and said she extremely appreciated it. But I gave her too much as i gave her 25 more by mistake what can I do to make me feel better like maybe go lower on a gift to her next time or tell her it can go towards the baby gift or is that cheesy??? I know her wedding was not as expensive as other weddings I've been to.

2007-10-18 15:03:54 · 9 answers · asked by bobravers 1 in Weddings

Is this normal!???
When we got married we had great sex life, and then it slowly got boring!!! really boring!!! Then we went on vacation and it got good again, i mean the best!!!

But for the past couple weeks, ive been feeling weird, like it pissed me off when my husband touches me, like my boobs or below, or when he try's to have sex with me, i feel disgusted!!!
It felt like i was in bed with a stranger, a person i never met before. I dont know what to do, he is a men and he needs it everyday, and i just dont want it. The scary thing is that i think that i dont want it with him. :(




We've been through a lot together, and we really are trying to make this work. We got in a big fight couple of days ago and i packed my things and just wanted to leave, and he begged me not too, so i stayed, but it feels like it turned something off in me!!! there is no spark.

We've been fighing a lot lately, about small, stupid stuff, and i just real

2007-10-18 15:03:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

im a 17 year old male and some times i dont know what to say to girls .... like what do i talk to girls about?
and i feel like up tight or something

why do people say to act with girls like you act when ur with ur friend thats stupid cuz we cant talk about videogame,porn,and you know guys stuff?

2007-10-18 14:52:32 · 29 answers · asked by Tom 1 in Singles & Dating

she's 17, and will be 18 in no time, and dont worry, it wont be statutory rape or anything like that.... its real love, whether you believe it or not;)
her friends (some of them) have told her that it hurts, and that you bleed the first time you have sex. i know she wants to, but its this fear that keeps her from doing this (and i know she's not bs-ing me, because i KNOW her better than anyone else)
honestly, i dont know what to do: i obviously dont have a vagina to play around with and to find out what might decrease or eliminate the pain...
so thats why i'm asking you (guys and girls alike) to help out
anything is helpful, especially personal experiences and sites that tell you how to work with and around this problem.
also, this might be part of a larger problem, and if so, please speak up and tell me;)
thanks a ton in advance;)

2007-10-18 14:50:46 · 21 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating

before anything gets to serious between me and this guy whos 2 years younger then me, i want him to know that i cant give him everything he's expecting and that im probably really difficult to be in a relationship with but i dont want to turn him off but at the same rate i don't want to hurt him. and he really needs to know that i have been abused by men sexually physically verbally and every which way you can possibly imagine so he can understand my odd ways and decide whether he wants me or not. P.S. we are both very young, im 17 he's 15, so i know you guys are going to say he cant handle that but i want to know if i should try or not. Also, i can't go out with older guys, they make me really really uncomfortable. Please help?

2007-10-18 14:50:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-18 14:48:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I can never seem to get "in the mood". It's strange, sometimes it seems like I feel timid about having sex with my husband, but I don't know why because I don't feel timid about anything else when I'm around him. Sometimes I feel like wanting to be more "agressive" and take the lead, but I think the way he responds to me turns me off. I feel like he makes sex a chore. Like it's just something I'm obligated to do, not something we do because we're just in the mood for it. Every time we get ready to have sex he feels the need to remind me of how many days it's been. If I just got off my period he exaggerates and tells me I haven't had sex with him for 2 weeks. Or he'll say things like, "are we going to have sex or what, because I can do something else if not?" Then I end up not wanting to do it at all and we get in fights about it. I don't know if I'm turned off by the way he approaches me about sex or if there's just something wrong with me sexually.

2007-10-18 14:48:47 · 11 answers · asked by Babycakes 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-18 14:45:06 · 54 answers · asked by Lindsay N 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a letter from my lawyer stating that I wish to separate from my husband. I am going to deliver it to him myself, and wondered how long it is valid for? Is there a period after which it expires? I am planing to wait until the end of the month before presenting it to him. It was dated Oct.1/07. I guess my question is: how long can I delay before it is no longer any good?

2007-10-18 14:44:06 · 5 answers · asked by Irishgal 2 in Marriage & Divorce

All of my friends are married and have kids. I am single with no prospects of marriage and I feel that I am being left behind in life. I spent my entire 20's killing myself in college instead of going out and focusing on my personal life. Now it seems I just woke up and looked around to find everyone my age has a husband, kids, and a minivan. Do you think I am getting too old and are becoming a spinster. I don't want to be the old cat lady. I need advice!! HELP!

2007-10-18 14:40:00 · 20 answers · asked by LenaRose 2 in Singles & Dating

We own the home together. Since the market is so bad i thought i could wait this out, but i can't stand him and i need to get out now.....How long would it take me to sell my home....at this point I dont even care how much i get out of it....I just need to get something back....

2007-10-18 14:39:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-18 14:37:47 · 3 answers · asked by angel 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm 16 and I live at home with three siblings who're all grade-school age. My mother and I as of late have not been getting along. She's had a lot of stress and her parenting is starting to slip. She's been yelling profanities at my siblings and I, and telling them that if they want to cry they should do it into a pillow, hitting us more, ect. I have been thinking about leaving for a while but she's recently told me that she can't wait until I leave and she'll be happy when I go, and that she wants me to leave as soon as possible.

So I've gotten in touch with child and youth services and tomorrow I have an appointment to tour a group home and hopefully make a good impression there. The rent, though, is 325$.

To pay rent I can either apply for student welfare or I can take my mom to court. She's going through a lot of stress and is tight for money but I'll need to make rent and SHE is the one asking me to leave. Opinions?

2007-10-18 14:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by ratemylunch 3 in Family

I want to go as the most EXTREME thing possable, so I figure, why not go as a girl......

And have her dress me (as a secret) and not think I'm wierd...

(Extreme, as in: Not usually seen or done)

(Please, no critisism, I am asking a regular question)

JLK2007

2007-10-18 14:37:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what do u think about someone being a housewife or house mom that doesn't work?

2007-10-18 14:36:47 · 23 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Another email from the ex. Wife read it and wasnt too happy, this one was quite different she asked how my wifes and my relationship is doing. Do you think that is hint? I dont think it is anything big but my wife wants to kick her ***. I keep trying to tell her that she is only asking and it is not a big deal but my wife being the beautiful woman she is, wants to bash her head in and make it an ink spot. What do I do now?

2007-10-18 14:36:08 · 18 answers · asked by gamafoo 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am an ordinary girl, from indonesia, but i am chinese. I am married to this guy few months go, mostly 6 months. I know him from some webside anyway. That time, when he purpose me i really sure that he's the one, and i really trusting him, more than i trust my self. Coz i really love him, more than i love my life.
When we dating, everything seems cool.. smooth, we're a perfect couple. I always trust him, even when we long distance.

Until one day, he tell me the truth..

One month before he go to indonesia, and find me. He told me that he was seduce by a girl from malaysia. He know this girl from he's x job. Because he always bring some file and check to that girl's office.
That day, he tell me that this girl always hold he's hand, until that day, i dont know how, he said that they were going to a pup, and they drink. But not drunk. After that, he drive this girl to her appartment. And they TOUCHED, but not sex, Atlease that's what he told me. But what i'm disappointed is..
That day when he out with this girl, he already (we can call it) Commit to each other and we know that we like each other.

Start from that day, I realise that my trust to him is getting less.
But i do love him, i still love him like the way i loved him. Is just that i dont know why, start from that moment, is really difficult for me to trust my husband. Even when he promise me he wont do that again, or he said that's before (WE) met.
I just find that's unfair to me, that day we already known that we love eachother. Even i love him even before i met him.

And it always something that i'm not happy about, coz i start to worrying, he always home late. We not DOING that often like lasttime. He being so easy to get angry, i just find that he had a bad tamper after he 3 months our marriage. I just too stress, until i loss my weight. Ev'rybody asking me, what happen to me? I really dont know what to do, and who talked to. I know no one here.
I do miss the way he treated me, He's so caring, loving, patient, patience. He always tell me, and being honest. But now..

i really dont know how to trust him back? i just can stand this along.


somebody can help me ?

Thanks a lot

2007-10-18 14:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by Phoebe Ng 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what reasons cause devorce?
give some sittuation

2007-10-18 14:33:54 · 9 answers · asked by Catherine N 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I noticed that a lot of women go for guys with good looks.... especially those coming from different cultural/ethnic backgrounds. And those people with rare looks are most difficult to find.

Take for example Orlando Bloom as opposed to Phillip Seymour Hoffman... or Denzel Washington as opposed to Don Cheadle.... or Russell Wong as opposed to Jackie Chan.

Remember... I'm only referring to the physical attributes of these celebrities.

Can you ladies shed some light on this and why good looks is good chemistry?

2007-10-18 14:32:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

No kisses, no sexual behavior,
How long did this era last

2007-10-18 14:31:34 · 6 answers · asked by Leo 3 in Singles & Dating

Ok here we go.
I am married with 3 kids. We moved to Mobile Alabama about 1 1/2 years ago.
We left our home and family back in Memphis.
Well , in the past year, I have really changed. Emotionally and physically.
The past 3 months I have had several bad moments. I am having alot of panic attacks and My Dr. Thinks it is due to severe depression.
Well, My husband refuses to move back home.
Our house back home is hopefully going to be vacant soon(if we can evict these renters for not paying)
And I think it is my chance to move home.
I want to move home and he doesnt..
I am thinking of moving back with or without him.
I know this will upset me, him and the kids.. But, I think this is the only way that I can be me again.

What would you do?

Stacie

2007-10-18 14:31:24 · 20 answers · asked by stacie m 4 in Marriage & Divorce