I attended my friends wedding out of state as she lives in South Carolina and I live in Oklahoma. I DID NOT BRING A GUEST. I gave her 100 but now feel I gave her too much as I had to pay for hotel and flight expenses there. She thanked me and said she extremely appreciated it. But I gave her too much as i gave her 25 more by mistake what can I do to make me feel better like maybe go lower on a gift to her next time or tell her it can go towards the baby gift or is that cheesy??? I know her wedding was not as expensive as other weddings I've been to.
2007-10-18 15:03:54 · 9 answers · asked by bobravers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is it normal etiquette that she will give me the same amount when I get married?
2007-10-18 15:11:21 · update #1
How many times are you going to ask the same question? Man, I'm sure she would feel absolutely HORRIBLE if she knew you were stewing about her gift THIS much. Heck, since the $25 means so much to you, why don't you just call your friend, tell her what you did and how you feel about it, and I'm sure she'll understand. As a matter of fact, I'm sure she'll tell you to NEVER bother giving her another gift ever again. I'm sure a good friend is worth $25, right? I'm assuming this is a very good friend, because I don't fly from Oklahoma to South Carolina for just anyone--they'd have to be a very close friend. So, you're right--since that's what you obviously want to read here--go ahead and tell her that since you gave her $25 more than you thought for her wedding gift, to consider that a baby gift as well.
2007-10-18 15:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what's done is done. In my opinion, you cannot be an indian giver. And no, you can't tell her it goes toward a baby gift. What would you have done with that $25? Buy a new shirt? A dinner out? My point is you probably would have blown it on something anyway, so why not be ok with it going to your friend and her husband? Being a newlywed myself, I know that any amount of money is helpful. Weddings are very expensive. Although, the bride and groom don't expect you to give them a gift, it is extremely appreciated. I say, just know that you made them happy with your money, and let it go.
2007-10-18 22:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by NewlyMrsU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you spent more on your travel than you thought and now are trying to justify it to yourself that you gave her 'too much'.
No she is not obligated to spend the same on you. You give what you want or can afford.
2007-10-19 00:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can do much about it...if you r lucky she will give it back to you as a wedding gift
2007-10-18 22:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by preppygrl88@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately, $25 is not going to "make or break" you....just forget about it and be glad that she appreciated your generous gift. What goes around usually comes around.
2007-10-18 22:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very selfish, you can't give your friend some extra cash without wanting it back?! SHAME ON YOU!
2007-10-18 22:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shiroberry14 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not too much to give, its your friend, nothing is too good or too much to give a friend you love or care about
2007-10-18 22:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by master pimp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was her wedding. Don't be so cheap. I'm sure you'll live.
2007-10-18 22:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's done and over with. There's nothing you can do but be happy your friend appreciated your gift.
2007-10-18 22:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jill 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋