Family & Relationships - 18 October 2007

I dated a girl for 10 months at my school and it was great. However, 3 days into the new school year she broke up with me for no particular reason. She tried to make it seem like my fault but i was always so good to her. She has serious lying problems and also cheated with her ex a few days after we started going out. 2 weeks after we broke up she started going out with a guy who she hadn't seen in a year and barely knows. She tells him that she loves him which is of course ridiculous because they have been together for 3 weeks. Even though she left me she is still very protective of me and tells me shes not over me etc. She has even taken to telling any girl she doesn't want me talking to that i talk bad about them which isn't true. She wont let me move on. She texts me non-stop and calls me. I go to a small private school (about 200 people) and shes in my first 2 classes of the day which is terrible cause i have to start my day looking at her. how can i get over her? I'm so attached.

2007-10-18 12:41:45 · 1 answers · asked by nknk 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I hate the idea of marrying in front of a lot of people. We both have agreed that we want a super small ceremony. I mean, it is about us not anyone else. We have a friend in the army stationed in Hawaii. And it is really importatn to both of us that he is there. Is it wrong to take a quiet trip to Hawaii without telling anyone and just get married?

2007-10-18 12:41:37 · 18 answers · asked by kjhluver 2 in Weddings

I get street attention & on Yahoo i have had 35 emails in 3 days?

I dont get it?

2007-10-18 12:38:54 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 21, and I've only had sex with one guy so far. When we do it, it usually lasts 5 -10 minutes (after a bit of foreplay). Yet, I've overheard some of my girlfriends talk about some of there experiences in bed, and it seems like most of them enjoy longer sex then I do (like 20 minutes or more).

I'm not that experienced, and I'm just wondering if there is an average amount of time that intercourse typically lasts for most couples. I know that you can do things to prolong sex, to make the guy last longer, but I'm talking about the kind of sex that's constant (where the guy keeps thrusting continuously without starting and stopping - not really fast or slow, but just steady, and constant). I think I read somewhere once that studies said 10-15 minutes was average, but I have no idea if that's accurate or not.

I think some guys tend to exaggerate about how long they can last inside a woman.

Looking for responses from people with more experience then me. LOL!!

2007-10-18 12:32:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so my friend imane likes this guy. last year, she was really good friends with him and would hang out with him almost everyday. this year for some reason they dont hang out with eachother as much. she wants to find something she can do so they become friends again. how? what can she do? help

thx

2007-10-18 12:32:40 · 3 answers · asked by lala b 1 in Friends

i was involve with someone very special to me for 5 years. i lived with her and her family for 4 of those year. At first it was great. We always wanted to be each other. We could always talk about anything except our future together.
it wasn't unit a fews ago after being apart for five months now that we where both suffering from esteem problems. One- to be able to be loved.
Truth is we both felt very unsure of where we where going in life both in love and also in life in general.
We both still feel very comfortable with one another when we get together for a night. But i think there is some fear of being hurt again.
Is it possible there is no love left in her? she want different things in life? I've discovered since apart that i appreciate the quilties in her that hadn't realized in did until we were apart.
Is it possible that time can heal things - too become close again?

2007-10-18 12:31:49 · 2 answers · asked by jaco9028 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Her name is Kristina, and she's in my class, I've liked her since 4th Grade, she's Cute Funny and Kinda is men but also nice, I kinda wanna tell her I like her, but a ***** let's just say "Dora" will make fun of me and say bad ruors please help me.

2007-10-18 12:28:49 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Just take a look at my avatar picture. I have given it a thought to go on with online dating (which I'm doing for a year by now without success) or even ever asking a nice girl out for a date, but just thinking of my face...maybe I shouldn't. I'm too ugly and girls deserve a better person than me. What do you think of it? NO INTELLIGENT answers please, JUST right WHAT YOU THINK. You can't hurt my feelings anyway...after all the thoughs I have had about myself. Please be honest. Thanks in advance.

2007-10-18 12:27:47 · 6 answers · asked by seafish 1 in Singles & Dating

me and my husband split up. while not leaving together we still (approx 2months) we still saw each other n went out to eat. the reason y we split was because i left his house where we were living with his parents which i could not stand at all.

however he never told me anything about talking to other girls n stuff, n i had heard rumors n he denied it. we wanted to work things out as soon as he saved enough money to get his own place. im pregnant n that was the plan to be living 2gether after the baby was born but we kept arguing to much that at times we gave up we even went to file for divorce but at the end we just walked out of the office.
well i found out he was with another girl one night when he told me he was with a friend (guy) i saw pics of them kissing. should this be consider cheating, if so should i forgive him? i dont think i can trust him but i dont want my baby to grow up without a daddy esp. if theres hope he can change but im sooo confused

2007-10-18 12:22:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I’m getting married next winter and I come from a huge Latin family who loves to drink.. I’m having a nice wedding I’m the only one out of my brothers and sisters that is getting married in a church. My parents are so excited.

I’m getting some help from my family and future in laws.. His family is small.

The problem is I have been reading and also some family members are telling me to have a hosted bar at my wedding and its tacky for my guest to have to pay for their drinks.

I don't think I should pay for there drinks its going to cost me an arm and a leg. My guest list is already at 400 there is no way in hell I can pay that. I have told everyone that I’m going to have a cash bar at my wedding. I have done everything to accommodate them. I’m even paying for an extra room and a babysitter for a daycare at my wedding.

Am I wrong or is having a cash bar really that tacky?

2007-10-18 12:22:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

me and this guy have been talking for a while now..we spent some time together and he told me he really likes me and I really like him..so i was then wondering why he wasnt asking me out..so at first I thought it was because he knew it was going to be hard to see each other since hes always busy and...we dont exactly live close to each other..But then recently i found out he has a girlfriend!!..which he never even mentioned before!!..so i was kind of upset because he didnt tell me the truth..so I basically thought that he has been lieing to me all this time!!..and just playing around with my head!!..but when I confronted him about this he said "he really meant everything he said to me" and that he never lied to me about his feelings..I really dont understand!!HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!Why was he still talking to me(i really dont think his intentions were bad).why didnt he tell me the truth?Does he like me more then her and maybe the reason he hasnt made a move is because of distance??

2007-10-18 12:22:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, so there is this guy that i met at school last February and he asked me out in May (I said no cuz i didn't like him) and since school started, he has been following me and touching me. I've asked him to leave me alone and I've asked him not to touch me and I've even told him to go away (my friends even heard me say this to the guy!) but nothing seems to work. Recently, I've been down to my counselor at school and he told me that they would handle it (nothing has gotten better yet) then, i went down to the counselor again to fill out an incident report to get it taken care of (still nothing has happened) and I've gotten to the point where I just ignore him and he still doesn't go away. Any advice?

2007-10-18 12:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by McFly fanatic 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-18 12:19:16 · 6 answers · asked by Gloria G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

tomarrow is a football game and my bf is going to be there. i want to make this extra extra special for him... and us becuase i haven't had a chance to be with him for awhile. any flirting tips.... or kissing tips... or something cute.... or something that would turn him on?? lol.

2007-10-18 12:18:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE ONE MORE BABY IN THE FUTUTRE, I AM NOT SAYING RIGHT NOW, BUT IN THREE YEARS FROM NOW. MY HUSBAND DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE ANY MORE KIDS BECAUSE HE SAID IT IS A HARD LIFE FOR THEM NOW. I HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD AND A ONE YEAR OLD. CAN YOU PLEASE JUST ADVISE ME, BECAUSE MY HUSBAND WANTS ME TO GET OPERATED SO WE WONT HAVE ANY MORE KIDS. PLEASE HELP.

2007-10-18 12:18:24 · 9 answers · asked by GOOFY LOVE 1 in Marriage & Divorce

well i'm only 16 and i've honestly never had a real relationship yet. so many people that are my age and even freaking 14 already have serious relationships and it makes me wanna have a boyfriend of my own too. not to sound conceited or anything but i'm not ugly at all----at least thats what i'm told and i don't think so either. some guys that i know or that i like only want to talk to me to "hookup" with me but i'm deffinatley not that kind of girl. i hate how theres never really any guys that like me, they just wanna hookup with me cause of my looks. so whats wrong with me?

2007-10-18 12:16:30 · 3 answers · asked by ___ 4 in Singles & Dating

i've never gotten the full meaning of flirting and im still young so dont think that im like forty and i dont know what it means lol. i've always thought flirting was like talking smiling and pushing gently and being really sweet and innocent. a guy has played his stupid game on me before and i want to like reform and start being a flirting queen. how do you do that??

2007-10-18 12:16:00 · 4 answers · asked by cait. 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband and i been together for 10 years and married for 5 yrs we have a 12 yr old daughter from my first marriage and a 2 yr old from our marriage and he acts so different now then he did 5 yrs ago.
he works two jobs and doesn't want me to work because f the cost of daycare and he was brought up with his parents were raised like that the mother stays home. so he works two jobs afull time job and a a part time in the evening. when he is home my daughter and him doesn't get along the fight all the time. we have sex once every other month because he is to tired or he is afraid the kids will hear us. when he is home he always goes around trying o fix stuff or do stuff.we do spend some time to gether. when we are together we have not much to say to each other. we hardly talk in the car. he doesn't do nothing romantic at all no flowers,cards or nothing. it drives me crazy. sometimes i think there is better out there. but,my parents like him and i don't have any where to go if ileave.

2007-10-18 12:14:50 · 18 answers · asked by melissa p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ex bf broke up with me about 3 months ago and just recently sent me this email. I'm not going to put the whole thing but this is basically what he said. He said that he needs someone that loves him (which is me) to tell him whats wrong with him. First he was telling how he was doing good in his financial aspect..but the only problems he had in his life were me and Laura..the girl he is seeing now. He says he knows he cant ask for me to wait for him but that he has really been sad lately and noticed I have been doing good. He said that he cant get close to Laura...its like theres a invisible wall there. And then he said the more he feels unwanted the more he wants. And in the end hes alone sad. That I didn't understand. I told him because he doesn;t love her his heart still belongs to me ..which is what I believe to be true. is that what it seems here.? Sorry I know this is kinda confusing

2007-10-18 12:14:24 · 4 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Singles & Dating

I was just putting it on to see how I'd like my hairstyle on the wedding day... and I was wearing a nice shirt with it... not my wedding dress. I didn't know if this was untraditional or anything... or even bad luck!

2007-10-18 12:13:38 · 11 answers · asked by adidas7fire 1 in Weddings

Ok this is silly but......okay
My cat Tory was missing, and I was very worried, shes such a great cat and I didn't wanna lose her like I lost my dog =( (different sad story) & well I know its kinda weird for praying for a pet, but I did pray that she would show up and I'd find her, that was 2 days ago. and so last night I was watching a movie, and I said to myself "Tory where the F are you?" and about 5-10 minutes later I heard meowing, and I saw her through my window on the roof. I honestly have absolutely NO IDEA how she got up there! When no one ever has their windows up in the house, theres screens behind them. Idk it was very strange, even my mother wished for her to show up, do you think he could of answered? =)
please dont be disrespectful, you dont have to answer, I just wanted to share this experience, thank you =)

2007-10-18 12:09:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I hadn't really initiated much contact with my ex for the last month...then i called him and we went out to coffee today. it was fun we just talked...not about anything serious but it was good to catch up. well the thing is, it was a mutual breakup but he led it more than i did. i still have a lot of feelings for him...i love him. where do i go from here...what do i do next after today? please help!

2007-10-18 12:08:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We know about each others sexual past..... we know everything about each other. We're not looking 2 bcum boyfriend/girlfriend... but I wonder will it ruin our friendship?

2007-10-18 12:07:52 · 7 answers · asked by Ashley W 2 in Singles & Dating

For this question, you kind of need all the details, so I’m going to start at the beginning, 3 years ago and work progressively toward today, giving you the intricate details of every day…. Okay, no i’m not. It does start three years ago however and I tend to drag on a little so try and be patient.
When I was in grade 6, I was friends with this group of girls. We were close; there was about seven of us. One of the girls was going out with a guy named Brandon. Now there was this other ‘group’, (we weren’t as cliquish as i’m making this sound) one of the girls was named Meghan and we all hated her because she wanted Brandon. Problem was Brandon wanted her too. Anyway, we didn’t know that. So Brandon and me made this plan, I was going to call Meghan and tell her Brandon and Rebecca broke up and he wanted to go out with her. When she said yes, Brandon was going to call her and tell her off for being such a mean friend to Rebecca. Rebecca knew about this but wasn’t happy about it. more..

2007-10-18 12:07:31 · 1 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Friends

My boyfriend left my 14 month old daughter and I two days ago. Today is my birthday.
He really didnt give me a very good reason. All I care about is the baby, I dont keep the house clean enough (it is very very clean)

Now what?

How am i supposed to share my baby with him? How am I supposed to be without her on holidays?

How am I supposed to be nice to someone (for her sake) who just stomped all over my heart?

Will anyone ever want me again? Will I ever want anyone again? No one will have my childs best interest at heart so how can I be with anyone else (eventually)

anything from other single (gulp) moms?

2007-10-18 12:06:32 · 4 answers · asked by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 in Family

2007-10-18 12:05:59 · 17 answers · asked by ripponjeet 1 in Weddings

i have a crush on this girl who goes to my school and church..she cute and smart and has a nice personality..i dontknow what to do...its very awkward i cant just ask her ifshe likes me.. also i cant go out with her...my whole family makes me feel awkward liking her..im also good friends with her brother..which is also kinda wierd...my other friends like her too...im in abind plz help

2007-10-18 12:04:22 · 7 answers · asked by Nathan K 1 in Singles & Dating

Be with someone who is very different from you or someone who was just like you?

2007-10-18 12:03:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im 13 and have a boyfriend that im absolutly crazy about but we dont go to the same school so i realy dont get to c him that much actully i saw him the day we started going out 3 weeks ago and thats it.
i know im 13 y tye myself down but i realy like this boy and i want to c him next weekend but i dont know were because other than the skating rink im not realy aloud to go anywere by my serlf.Movies?( cant go there"to many creepy people") so i dont know wat do

2007-10-18 12:01:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Sometimes my back hurts at work from sitting to long in front of computer. and my bf and I have been dating for 10months.

Every time I've asked him to give me a back rub he refuses and turns it into he's tired. at first i started to think maybe it was me. but not to be conceded but I'm very cute girl with a nice body. So why wouldn't he want to?

the two times he did it was very short and he made it hurt really bad and I told him he was hurting my back more than it was already and his excuse was "back rubs are supposed to hurt so when i stop it feels better"

his new one for the month is. "you dont really need one its just mentally it feels good but it really does nothing for you, so theres no point"

Is this true or is he blowing smoke up my butt again??

I'm starting to think maybe its me and starting to think that he's very selfish. and only wants for himself but when i ask doesn't happen.

so confused.

2007-10-18 12:01:12 · 9 answers · asked by ♥cup_cake♥ 2 in Singles & Dating