Family & Relationships - 18 October 2007

My Dad was addicted to Heroin for a very long time, although about three years ago, he got himself clean and has been clean for 3 years. I really am proud of him, I attend some meetings that he goes to when I visit him to get a bigger insight to the whole fellowship. I love him very much, but he doesn't make enough effort with me and my older sister. She is really feeling the strain of it all and cried to me tonight about it. She wants to talk to him face to face to see how we can talk about the past and how his addiction, affected us. He has another son, our brother, who he doesn't get to see no-more and because of this, niether do we. We miss and love him and I always try to get numbers to find him. I feel like my dad doesn't really understand the damage he has done. He says he understands, but he doesn't show it. I am only young and I need my Dad, but he doesn't seem to need me, Please tell me what I should do? Thank-You

2007-10-18 11:29:55 · 8 answers · asked by Cherise 5 in Family

My guy and I were talking on the phone yesterday and I said I was having doubts about whether or not our relationship would work. (Long distance, was going to move to his state soon but now not so sure) I asked if he had any too and he said, "Yeah of course. I wonder if it will work, just like I would with any other relationship."
Later that day I texted him and said, "Based on your feelings for me do you think we could last longtime?" He didnt answer. I called him later and he said he didn't get the text. After we hung up he texted and said, "I lied. I got it. It made me scared." I texted him today and said we needed to talk about it because he has acted distant and weird since that first text of mine. He said he would call tonight.
What do you think this behavior means? Did I push him away?

2007-10-18 11:29:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well i've been getting on really well with this girl and i was thinking about asking her out tomorrow night. Problem is i can't see her but i wanted to do it befire she leaves for a week so i was thinking of phoning her. Any suggestions on what i could say?

2007-10-18 11:25:52 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Nobody knows about it but that's something that has always been on my mind now I'm 28 and strong and I don't want to tell the cops because I have no proof and my family is just going to be piss off with me because the guy that abuse me is my cousin, and all the family loves him. But now I'm a grown man and it would be really easy for me to kick that shi% out of him, I feel like destroying him, I feel like I want to make him suffer for the scar that he gave me for all my life. And to those people that would say something like you need to take it easy, or don't do something stupid, well if you only knew the pain of being abuse you'll know the way I feel.

2007-10-18 11:24:40 · 3 answers · asked by gavera 1 in Family

There's this girl who spread a rumor that I like this guy, who nobody likes, he's not nerdy, but kind of like a b-lister, so anyway the girl said that i liked him just because I am planning a winter dance 4 our school with him, when i went to go confront her about it NICELY she replied with "i don't know you" "get out my face" etc... I don't want this to go any farther, i don't know her, but i want this to stop.... NOW .... I'm new and just becoming popular and ui don't need her to ruin my reputation, what should i do?

2007-10-18 11:23:17 · 1 answers · asked by Miss K 3 in Singles & Dating

Is your husband the greatest lover you've ever been in bed with??

I love my husband, and I know I married the right guy, but I can't honestly say he's the "very best" in bed of any man I've ever had sex with.

On a 1-10 scale (1 being the best, 10 being the worst) where would you rate your guys performance in the sack overall (taking into account all the other sexual partners you may have had in your life). I figure alot of women will say "1" but I don't really buy it in most cases. They probably just don't have alot to compare it to. I think I've only had like one partner in my whole life that I could really say was a "1". I've had sex with 12 different men in my life, and I'm 28 years old. So it's not like i've been THAT promiscuous. LOL!!

2007-10-18 11:22:06 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

that he is looking for a serious relationship & he seemed very genuine. I have had doubts recently so I checked on a local dating site and saw him on there. It had his picture but another mans name on his profile.
If he was interested in me surely he wouldn't still be going online dating?
How can I tell him that I am feeling hurt by this?

2007-10-18 11:18:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well after dating for 2 months we broke up .........after breaking up like 1 month later he was dating some other girl but this girl(his girlfriend) calls me private i answer but nobody answers usually when that call comes in i dont pick up cause i know its her......but one day she called me telling me not to call her bf meaning my ex again but i told her whatever ........what do i do if she calls private again and no one answers......until this day i have not told my ex that she called me.......

2007-10-18 11:15:51 · 11 answers · asked by camacholilac 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm seeing my boyfriend soon but i know that it will be 'that time of the month'. We havn't been intimate yet other than touching and kissing. We're both frustrated now but i, being such a giving gf, want to take him to the edge even though i cant get much in return. Apart from the obvious are there any lil sexy, sensual things i can do?

Guys, what drives you wild? Girls, what do your men love you doing?

He knows whats up btw. Doesn't expect anything but i want to surprise him. I have my own techniques etc that i know work. was just looking for something new 2 make things a lil different on my side

2007-10-18 11:15:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my boyfriend have this trust issue and he said he could not trust me because of what his dad put his mom through when he was younger but i told him i trusted him with everything i had ok.............well i told him if he didnt have anything to hide to give me his password to his myspace and he gave me one similiar to it but it wasnt the write one was he hiding something? well i got his paasword off the internet because i am reallly smart and can get anyones password but anyways i went on to his myspace he was talking to some girl and i wasnt aware but he cheated on me with her and i found that out after i read them emails but he found out i knew some how and he asked me through our myspaces ( so what are we through now or what )and i told him no but after i told him i might be pregnant with his kid he is now trying to denie it and i wont see him till saturday wich is our 3 month anniversary so waht should i do believe hm , just forgive him and talk it over and just let me know.

2007-10-18 11:15:08 · 12 answers · asked by lovergirl_82 1 in Singles & Dating

Its considered good for a man to have sex with loads of diffrent women but when its the other way around the woman gets a bad reputation, how come?

2007-10-18 11:11:54 · 12 answers · asked by Deano 2 in Singles & Dating

So my boyfriend recently just broke up with me. I've been taking it pretty hard. We've had our problems but there was never any doubt that we loved each other. I admit that at times i would pick fights with him over dumb stuff but we would always make up. We saw each other all the time so he missed out on some of the things his friends did but thats a given when you get into a relationship. He friends however would always tell him how lame he was for missing this or that. During one of our fights i broke up with him thinking we would get back together. Come 2 weeks later were not official but were still acting like were dating. one of the days we were haning out he told me he kissed another girl. I was so upset and he told me how bad he felt. Next day he has a change of heart decideds he doesn't want to be with me. he says he wants me to be happy and not cry. i decided i never want to see him. That day he goes out to a party and kisses another girl. Whats the deal.

2007-10-18 11:11:51 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer C 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-18 11:11:05 · 15 answers · asked by Susie2 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

:( he always talks about his ex tisha
how shes ruining his life
and he wants to beat the **** out of her new bf :(
and he says he loves me and he has no feelings what-so-ever for her anymore..
but why the hell does he talk about her so much?
i tell him that if he wants to be with her then he should go be with her and i wont be upset or anything..
but he keeps saying that he loves me and he doesnt want me to break up with him..
i love him.. :(
what do i do?
im so confused..:(

2007-10-18 11:10:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For example the most important day in my life was June 25, 2003. That was the day my mom went to the hospital which forced my family to stay 4 months in Europe. So that is mine in a nutshell. What's yours?

2007-10-18 11:08:45 · 18 answers · asked by California Dude! 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this exchange student who is now my older brother's (one year older) best friend. He came in August. Now he comes over every day to my house. He LOVES coming here, I guess it's because his host-family dosen't like him. Well, and so like more than a month ago he started looking at me a lot at school (he's in my class, because my grade and his grade of high school united this year) and such. My family likes him a lot, cuz he's very sweet and nice. Also, the boy he stays with has had a crush on me since we were kids, so I dunno if this boy's so happy about me being interested in his house-partner (the ES). By the way, that boy has a GF, so he has no right to come between us.
On Sunday my brother went to play some tennis, and his friend stayed here with my family and me. He was so cute. And that day my grandfather came over, so I sang on the karaoke, cuz he wants me to. I also was with a nice dress and all. My mother said the ES (exchange student) LOVED me that night.

2007-10-18 11:05:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just want to know

2007-10-18 11:02:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does anyone else Find it wrong that your wife goes out with other guys. explain. Movies, Dinner? Jsut wondering what ever one take is. Thanks

2007-10-18 11:01:06 · 23 answers · asked by divingstephen 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am getting married in about a year. It is the first marriage for him, second for me. I want to know if it would be tacky to register for gifts since it's my second? I have been divorced for 8 years and have been with this guy for a year. We live together in my house but are looking to get one together after marriage. Thoughts?

2007-10-18 11:01:03 · 14 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Weddings

My guy and I are both coming out of bad marriages! TRUST is HUGE between us, and we are both having issues with it because of "other people" .

Well now we have been fighting because I talk to other guys. Not that there are a lot of them, but my best friend happens to be male, who likes to flirt, so Gary ( boyfriends name) found this out and is all bent out os shape about it, keeps asking me "have you talked to your guys today?" This has gotton us in so many fights I dont even want to speak to another guy anymore!
He makes me feel AWFUL! And I understand that he doesnt talk to other girls ( that I know of) but COME ON!!!!
I'm home with him all the time, and if I'm not then I'm at my job. ( which I have also quit to be with him more!!!
Help Me!
Is there anything I can do to make him know I want only him? I'm stressin with him mad all the time, cant take it! And dang it I love him!!!

2007-10-18 10:59:38 · 2 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Singles & Dating

One of my best (but relatively new) male friends sometimes seems to be hinting at something amorous and flirting, and says things like "Let's travel together!" Then the next day (we work together) he will act uncomfortable and cold. Then invariably we will see each other again and he acts as if we are best friends bordering on something else. I have tried to restrain myself from encouraging a relationship because he has said several times he doesn't want a girlfriend (always talking in generalities, not refering to us directly). But even just being best friends is sometimes hard. You know how it is with a friendship where there are feelings and you can't pretend they don't exist--you're supposedly friends but you feel as wounded almost as if you were dating anyway. Hand on heart, I would be happy being just best friends but i don't know if that's possible with someone who's so 'hot' and 'cold'. WHAT IS HIS GAME?

2007-10-18 10:59:10 · 1 answers · asked by beatrice 2 in Singles & Dating

what do you think is gf material? and what do you look for most in a girl? (optional) would get mad if your ex gf was dating another guy? (opion) do you think most guys still have feelings for thier ex that would maybe wanna get back together?

2007-10-18 10:54:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-18 10:53:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We had a great chemistry, we both were drawn to each like magnets. He asked questions which indicated that he was looking for a wife. He made many attempts to get my affection and attention. Made me laugh & teased & offered gifts

Was seeing him informally helping with a few things and just was not the right time for me. I just was so overwhelmed and really needed to think things over. Asked him to keep in touch and he said has things to sort things out but would definitely want to see me again soon and he reiterated that he will be in touch soon.

It has been over six months and still no sign. He seemed to want to get many things over while there is an opportunity. He is going to be 40 in a few days.

I m growing fonder of him everyday, and just worried that he has gone, the more i think about him the more I realise how great he is. I just don't know what do? I want give him all the space he needs but wish I said what i felt when I had a chance to. Did I miss my chanc

2007-10-18 10:52:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friend can be really rude sometimes, and I don't even think she realizes it. Whenever I tell her that she's being rude, she gets mad at ME and I'm always the bad one. She's extremely stubborn, for example, a few days ago she promised me that she'd come with my to a club after school, and right when we were leaving our last class and walking to the room that it takes place, she changed her mind and just left me alone without saying anything, but eventually came back, but was really mad at me and said that I "owed her a lot". She's also very controlling! I feel like I always have to do what she wants, or I'm on my own, and whenever I ask her to do a favour for me I'm also on my own. I want her to realize that she's not being a good friend, but without her losing her temper. I have another best friend who I barely ever see anymore. I'm trying to make friends, but I'm really shy.. is there any way I can change her?

2007-10-18 10:51:16 · 4 answers · asked by ☼ kayla ☼ 5 in Friends

okay....so there is this guy that i like and i kno likes me but i haven't talked to him in over a week! i wouldnt care that much if i didnt like him the way i do. but the last time i talked to him he said he'd call me back but he didnt!then i heard he broke his collarbone or somethin ni football.......i had called him(even though i swore not to call him so i didnt seem desperate.....is that dumb?)to see if he was ok.....but he didnt answer so i left a message.......HE STILL HASNT CALLED ME AND THAT WAS LIKE 2 DAYS AGO!!!!!(opps....i hit the caps lock key.....hehe!)wat do i do?....do i just get over him or do i keep going after him?(if i go after him, im scared ill seem desperate!)PLZZ! HELP!

2007-10-18 10:50:37 · 16 answers · asked by AWO USN Airman 2 in Singles & Dating

or believe her? By the way, you slept with her only once.

2007-10-18 10:50:18 · 8 answers · asked by NYGIRLMIAMI 2 in Friends

There is this girl that thinks i am her best freind and stuff i have no problem being her freind. but my real best freinds hate her and they dont want her hanging out with us. what should i do???

I want her to know that i need my space how should i say it without her getting mad or sad?????

2007-10-18 10:49:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I broke up with my live in boyfriend of almost three years. He and I share mutual friends. Now my good girlfriends that he was friends with as well are hanging out alot. One even went on a double date with him and his new chick. I was really hurt and felt betrayed. A few have also stayed over at his house(they did this before when we were dating) and two even slept in our old bed with him. What do you think?

2007-10-18 10:49:03 · 8 answers · asked by Kelli H 1 in Friends

kthanksbye.

2007-10-18 10:48:55 · 5 answers · asked by Feverflavor21 1 in Marriage & Divorce