There is this girl that thinks i am her best freind and stuff i have no problem being her freind. but my real best freinds hate her and they dont want her hanging out with us. what should i do???
I want her to know that i need my space how should i say it without her getting mad or sad?????
2007-10-18 10:49:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you set time aside to hang out with her alone, without your other friends, this may help give you space, w/out hurting her feelings. Why don't the others like her? Does she pick her nose in public? This dislike they have may be an underlying problem w/ your "friends," and there lack of self-esteem. What are they worried about, losing you? makes ya wonder, right?
2007-10-18 10:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Phillyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, evidently she's wrong about thinking you two are best friends, for you're letting the others dictate your actions toward her. If the others are more important for you to be with, then you need to cease letting the girl feel that way. Sounds as if you're not much of a friend to her; so don't use her. You never ever let other people dictate your life for you, or you're in for a lot of trouble.
2007-10-18 18:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by srbyn1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with yourself without thinking about your other friends how do you personally feel about this girl. If you really like her and she is also one of your friends you should not worry what other people think of her. I would tell her that for some reason the other girls do not want her to hang out but because she is your friend that you will make time to hang out with her one on one because you do value her friendship.
2007-10-18 17:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmm difficult question but really the only way round i see is to avoid her i think even she doesent likeu but she acts like that bcoz there is no 1 else to be with her just tell her to her face or avoid her dont pay any attention on whatever she says and dont talk to her
the main thing is who is more importent to you ur best friend or this girl who has no1 else to be with why dont u test both of them and see who is more usefull to u when u really need it and decide who tobe with just ask for a pen or for some lunch money saying u forgot to both of them and see who helps u and u be with them
or even a better way would be tel your best friend u cant hurt her feeling and tell the this same question what to do and tell them to help u out after all they are your friends
2007-10-18 17:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by therealitypace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just start telling her that your other friends want to do something just girls. or just tell her you need to do things with other people that night. Give your self space if she doesn't like the fact that you have other friends. Then just plain out say I need some space, I need time to myself right now.
2007-10-18 17:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest is good ! be honest with her tell her that u sorry but u need some space to ur self ! and try to set her up for a hangout with friends u think they will get to gather,, and believe me being honest makes u Really a great friends
2007-10-18 18:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you're busy when you're hanging out with your other friends, but always end it on a positive note like, "but we can hang out such-n-such day" or "I'll call you later and we can talk about blahblahblah" and do it.
If you're sick of her too, you can introduce her to someone else who is as needy, then they can feed of each other and be each other's best friend.
2007-10-18 17:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have your own life and it doesn't revolve around her. Tell her that you appreciate her being so kind, but ask her if she can lay off a little and leave you to have some space for a few days. I hope this helps..XxOo
2007-10-18 17:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm... i think u should just pull her aside and say "listen, I have my own BFF'S and i would like 2 spend time w/ them.... I dont want 2 hurt ur feelings but, thats that.
then you can ignore her 4 da rest of the yeer.
hope my advice works
p.s if it doesnt, dont sue me!
LOL
2007-10-18 17:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♥FuNnY bEaUtY♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that your other friends are jealous and youd prefer to hang out with her 1 on 1-before this maybe you can vouch for your friend to your real best friends and see how that works and find out why they dont like her and if its something that she is doing annoying just tell your friends to tell her with tact.
2007-10-18 18:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋