:( he always talks about his ex tisha
how shes ruining his life
and he wants to beat the **** out of her new bf :(
and he says he loves me and he has no feelings what-so-ever for her anymore..
but why the hell does he talk about her so much?
i tell him that if he wants to be with her then he should go be with her and i wont be upset or anything..
but he keeps saying that he loves me and he doesnt want me to break up with him..
i love him.. :(
what do i do?
im so confused..:(
2007-10-18 11:10:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he still loves her
but it's your choice
do you want someone who talks about he's ex constantly
oh and plz help me
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2007-10-18 11:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by ??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you are over someone you don't really care about his or her love life anymore.... so as a result he is not over her. But, that doesn't exactly mean he doesn't care for YOU. People can like more than one person at once. He just isn't over her yet. Here is what you can say............
"I don't think we should see each other until you are completly over her, no matter how long it takes. I really like you though, and I really want to be with you. But I can't do this. Maybe in a while we can get back together"
Also... if you do this, than he will most likley realize what he is missing. Good Luck.
2007-10-18 19:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pretty obivious that he still has feelings for her[ the way he has to justify the reason why he is not with her now], as u can tell, prehaps its better if you took a break from him for awhile so he can sort out his feelings for her and for you, that way he can get over her
or prehaps its better to try and help him understand his feelings, a friend before being his girlfriend, it will be difficult
whether or not he will still want to be with u
its obvious you care very much for him or you wouldnt consider the idea of helping him deal with his ex
you are a great person and truly a great friend he is very fortunate, there will be other opportunites for you and him to be together in the future
so what ever you decide have hope
2007-10-18 18:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Christianna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring him to a private place where your alone and free to talk to him. Be serious and do not joke around what so ever. Ask him if he likes her anymore. I mean, sound so serious that it will definatly make him see that your not comfortable with him talking about her. And if he says he loves you, dont just let that be the end of that. Question him about it. Ask him why. You need to get the point across so he really knows that you just dont feel right when he talks about her. That should really make him concernd if he does love you.
2007-10-18 18:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Echo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does have feelings for her sorry to say. i mean, he sounds like he hates her right? that's usually what's left out of a breakup, HATE, if a person can't get over that, then they are not over them. trust me, i've gone through that. my ex would talk **** about his ex too and i wouldn't think much about it, until i found out he loved her still. he cared about me too i know but i guess she loved her. and i was like that too, i couldn't let go of my ex and i would tell my current bf how much he screwed my life up and i was still in love with him. so i dont know what to tell you, hopefully his reasons are different.. good luck!
2007-10-18 18:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get over this Tisha girl. He keeps talking about her and he has the bizarre idea of beating her new bf.
Tell him what you feel for him and how it makes you feel when he talks about her in such a way. It´s not showing respect... you are his gf now and he tells you about her. Only a jealous guy is tempted to get involved in fighting with another guy over the same girl.
As long as he is not willing to commit his heart to you (or rather get this girl out of his head), he´s not the one for you. I´d feel like a gap filler.
It´s his turn to choose or your turn to leave.
2007-10-18 18:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Bianca W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, actions speak louder than words, and his actions are telling you that he still does have feelings for her. Maybe you just need to tell him that you need him to resolve what ever issues he has with her before you can continue the relationship. I'm sure he does love you or at least has feelings for you, but he obviously has feelings left over and he needs to get them resolved before he can give himself completely to someone else.
2007-10-18 18:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by DM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid and keep listening to that crap. If he really loved you, and only you - nothing else would matter. Especially exes ... wtf. Obviously he's still hurting from her & does have feelings though he denies them to make you happy. That still doesn't mean he loves you though. You deserve better than this. Dump his a s s.
2007-10-18 18:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by faith♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him why he hates his ex so much if they used to date...
But then tell him that you don't like how he always talks about her.
2007-10-18 18:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by rijii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him until he is over her.He wont go back to her because she wont have him.She has a new guy and this is why he wnats to beat him up.He is still licking his emotional wounds.
2007-10-18 18:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking obsessively about one of your exes and see what he does.
2007-10-18 18:14:13 · answer #11 · answered by ♥katie♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋