Why doesn't he trust me?

Question

My guy and I are both coming out of bad marriages! TRUST is HUGE between us, and we are both having issues with it because of "other people" .

Well now we have been fighting because I talk to other guys. Not that there are a lot of them, but my best friend happens to be male, who likes to flirt, so Gary ( boyfriends name) found this out and is all bent out os shape about it, keeps asking me "have you talked to your guys today?" This has gotton us in so many fights I dont even want to speak to another guy anymore!
He makes me feel AWFUL! And I understand that he doesnt talk to other girls ( that I know of) but COME ON!!!!
I'm home with him all the time, and if I'm not then I'm at my job. ( which I have also quit to be with him more!!!
Help Me!
Is there anything I can do to make him know I want only him? I'm stressin with him mad all the time, cant take it! And dang it I love him!!!

Answer 1

Honey the reason your "best friend"(who is a guy, flirts with you is because he WANTS you and your b/f KNOWS this.If he were out of the picture your "best friend" would be all over you like stink on a skunk.The reason Your B/F is mad is because you are encouraging this guy to hang around.
If the other guy is your "best friend" , you need to dump your present b/f and hook up with your best friend.BecauseANY 2 people can get along in the bed room, its after youve had sex and put your clothes on is what will determine if you staytogether or not.
You will NOT be able to make him accept you talking to other guys but as far as making you wuit your job, let me tell you this , he is a control freak and has jealousy issues.
If he DID talk to other girls who flirted with him like your guy friends do you, youd want to kill him and those girls, dont say you wouldnt, you know you would, be honest.
You 2 need to separate and quit dating until you both mature some.You are both getting divorced and jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire.You could both use some counseling instead of trying tomake each other change to suit yourselves.You need someone who accepts you as is and you also need to realize your behavior would cause mistrust in any guy after a while.You need to change too, but so does he.

Answer 2

ya i know that feeling... trust has to be mutual, and you have to let him know, "If you don't have trust in me, then we have nothing." the things needed to make a relationship survive: TRUST, COMMUNICATION, LOVE, compromise and faith. If you're lacking in one of those departments, you need to sit down and tell him what you just told us and how you feel, if he still doesn't trust you, there's nothing you can do; you can't force another person to put their part into a relationship.