GUYS AND GIRLS: What do you think of this behavior?

Question

My guy and I were talking on the phone yesterday and I said I was having doubts about whether or not our relationship would work. (Long distance, was going to move to his state soon but now not so sure) I asked if he had any too and he said, "Yeah of course. I wonder if it will work, just like I would with any other relationship."
Later that day I texted him and said, "Based on your feelings for me do you think we could last longtime?" He didnt answer. I called him later and he said he didn't get the text. After we hung up he texted and said, "I lied. I got it. It made me scared." I texted him today and said we needed to talk about it because he has acted distant and weird since that first text of mine. He said he would call tonight.
What do you think this behavior means? Did I push him away?

Answer 1

If what you asked pushed him away, he wasn't there much to start with. What your questions did was give him "food for thought", and yes, that can be a bit scary at times, but that doesn't mean it's not worth doing. It's dialogue you need to have (particularly before you endeavor to move out of state), so make your peace with your stance. However things turn out, it was the right move.

Answer 2

Do you want it to work out? If it doesnt work out what would it matter? You will never know unless you find out. I live with my boyfriend that I met on Myspace, it was sort of an accident, I wasnt looking to meet a guy on there, he was from Cali and I was in Minnesota. I was constantly unsure of wether or not I wanted to be with him, if it was meant to be. I freaked out a bunch. But I finally made the move and love him more everyday.

My best friend told me once that I worry to much about wether the guy im with is the one or not, and that I should be living in the moment and enjoying my time with him instead. So try and do that

Even if you did sort of freak him out just say sorry and if you trust him go for it. Stop making him deal with your back and forth emotions, he is in no way going to be able to help you figure it out, only you can and if your gonna end it, end it. Stop wasting his time. If its meant to be its meant to be....if not....I am very glad I decided to move, we have fights and sometimes I really want to move home but thats normal in any relationship. Good Luck

Answer 3

GUYS... well,..MOST GUYS don't wanna hear "so, do you think we'll last a long time? are we gonna get married? do you LOVE me?"

They just don't like committment. Maybe he's just unsure of his feelings for you. HE KNOWS he likes you. no doubt. But he's not sure if he's ready to tell you, "we're gonna last. we'll be together forever"

STOP PUTTING PRESSURE ON THE POOR GUY!! haha.. =)

just take things as it comes. If it doens't work out, at least you got to be in love. ^_^ And you wont' regret ANYTHING


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Answer 4

It probably just scared him. He is thinking of the now instead of for the future. Just give him a little space and talk about other things for a day or two and then bring it up then.

Answer 5

Sounds like he is as insecure as you are about the future of this relationship. This is NORMAL my dear. No one really knows what the future holds. Slow down and see where this goes. You are only responsible for doing your part of the relationship.

Answer 6

No, you didnt. You made him think seriously about the direction that your relationship is headed. Trust me, you would rather he think about this now than after you move there.

Answer 7

i wouldn't say you pushed him away as much as brought him to reality. reality often scares people.

Answer 8

hell yeah... "i dont think this relationship will work" blah blah blah.... you expect him to not feel pushed away???!

Answer 9

no