My male friend, whom I admittedly have feelings for, alternates between affection and coldness. Can we go on?

Question

One of my best (but relatively new) male friends sometimes seems to be hinting at something amorous and flirting, and says things like "Let's travel together!" Then the next day (we work together) he will act uncomfortable and cold. Then invariably we will see each other again and he acts as if we are best friends bordering on something else. I have tried to restrain myself from encouraging a relationship because he has said several times he doesn't want a girlfriend (always talking in generalities, not refering to us directly). But even just being best friends is sometimes hard. You know how it is with a friendship where there are feelings and you can't pretend they don't exist--you're supposedly friends but you feel as wounded almost as if you were dating anyway. Hand on heart, I would be happy being just best friends but i don't know if that's possible with someone who's so 'hot' and 'cold'. WHAT IS HIS GAME?

Answer 1

Tell him in the least accusatory possible way how this makes you feel.

Just do not, not, NOT accuse!