So my boyfriend recently just broke up with me. I've been taking it pretty hard. We've had our problems but there was never any doubt that we loved each other. I admit that at times i would pick fights with him over dumb stuff but we would always make up. We saw each other all the time so he missed out on some of the things his friends did but thats a given when you get into a relationship. He friends however would always tell him how lame he was for missing this or that. During one of our fights i broke up with him thinking we would get back together. Come 2 weeks later were not official but were still acting like were dating. one of the days we were haning out he told me he kissed another girl. I was so upset and he told me how bad he felt. Next day he has a change of heart decideds he doesn't want to be with me. he says he wants me to be happy and not cry. i decided i never want to see him. That day he goes out to a party and kisses another girl. Whats the deal.
2007-10-18 11:11:51 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships aren't a game. You can't expect even the best of relationships to work out if you're playing "we're together, we're not together". All it's going to amount to is a lot of frustration on your part. It sounds like he's either A. Already moved on, or B. Trying to make you jealous. If he's moved on, then there's not much you can do but deal with the pain of it, accept it, and move on yourself. If on the other hand he's trying to make you jealous, then is he really all that worthy of you anyways? I'm sorry yours isn't a case of "boy likes girl, girl likes boy, they live happily ever after". But if this relationship is officially over, remember to look for that scenario in your next relationship, and not get back into a pattern similar to this most recent one of "boy likes girl, girl likes boy, girl dumps boy, girl gets back with boy, girl dumps boy, boy moves on..." Hate to say it, but men aren't playthings. They have emotions too, even if they don't like to show it. Hope it works out for you!
2007-10-18 11:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by mxyzptlk20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really, you're just growing up and growing apart. At times we tend to think that the person we are with at the moment will be the person that we will be with forever. I can tell you from my own personal experience, that is not the case. People come into our lives for a reason, and each person we meet are like seasons. Meaning they have a set period of time in your life that you're to be around them, learn from them, and grow either with or without them.
Once a person’s season has passed, you move on. I'm not saying throw people away like old used shoes. But you have to be able to learn when a person’s time in your life is over. You make friends, you lose friends, you find boyfriends/girlfriends and you break up with them. But either way it goes that cycle of meeting people will never stop. And as you get older you'll be able to learn the difference between someone who's meant to be in your life, and someone you where just meant to learn from.
Let him go, if he thinks he can do better with out you don't try to hold onto him. Let him do his thing and you do yours. From what I've read so far, I can tell you're still young. You have your hold life ahead of you. If he wants to be friends, that's cool, but don't get so hung up on being with just him. There are a lot more fish in the sea that you're going to meet. I think its time that you find another catch of the day. Trust me, we all go through it. You’ll live and move on, and one day you’re going to look back through your scrap book and be like “What was his name again?”
2007-10-18 18:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Deity of Peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get mad at him for kissing someone when your not together. I mean of course it is a little bit upsetting to know that he didn't wait that long after you guys broke up, but you can not technically be mad at him, because you guys are not together, meaning he can do what he wants, and doesn't have to answer to anyone.
2007-10-18 18:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are in love do not pick fights over dumb stuff and they go to parties and kiss other girls.
You both need to move on.
2007-10-18 18:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just another player
he dosen't want to lose u but he can't help himself
there's alot more girls out there that he can kiss and make out with
i think what u want is a serious relationship which he does not so u should just 4get about him
2007-10-18 18:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by luck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and to eat it too. My opinion? Trade up!
2007-10-18 18:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋