My boyfriend left my 14 month old daughter and I two days ago. Today is my birthday.
He really didnt give me a very good reason. All I care about is the baby, I dont keep the house clean enough (it is very very clean)
Now what?
How am i supposed to share my baby with him? How am I supposed to be without her on holidays?
How am I supposed to be nice to someone (for her sake) who just stomped all over my heart?
Will anyone ever want me again? Will I ever want anyone again? No one will have my childs best interest at heart so how can I be with anyone else (eventually)
anything from other single (gulp) moms?
2007-10-18 12:06:32 · 4 answers · asked by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey you picked a bad guy to make a baby with.
I am sure there is more to this story tahn meets the eye, but yes, other guys will want you and a DECENT man WILL have your daughter's best interest at heart , IF you pick a decent man.A decent man doesnt ask for sex before marriage and he marries a girl BEFORE living with her.
Try church, the LORD will help you if you will turn to HIM with all your heart.Try the United pentecostal church,theyre great.
2007-10-18 12:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard but this is just what happens when a child’s parents are not together. You have to share holidays. Like someone takes her for Thanksgiving, the other gets Christmas (or whatever you celebrate). Unless you have a good enough relationship that you can be civil towards each other or even friends for the child’s sake. I realize this being a fresh wound you can’t imagine that. However in the future you might feel differently.
You do know that there are loving step-parents/ significant others who love their spouses/significant others children just as much as if they were their own. Sometimes they turn out to be even better father/mother then the biological father/mother. I’m sure one day you will find a great man who will love you and your daughter with his whole heart.
2007-10-18 13:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
Sorry about your situation though. Your boyfriend was using the house keeping thing as an excuse to get out of the relationship. And as the MOTHER of a such a precious baby,your not losing her at all. You don't have to hand her over on holidays..but you can pop in to visit his family if they wish to see her. If he just up and abandoned you both it shows he isnt very responsible to care for a child. Now if he is a responsible father and is paying child support and is loving toward the baby, sharing parenting duties isnt such a bad thing. This will give you some time to yourself and don't worry about finding another man right now. Of course there are other men out there for you! But right now just concentrate on you and the baby. You will heal from this. Your baby is young still and you both can move on..better this happened now then say 10 years from now.I know because this happened to me..I was married to a jerk who did the same thing, but he did me a favor and later met a wonderful man who I have been married to for 11 years. You will heal and this will make you stronger. Just be cordial when you see him. You both will be in this childs life forever. It does get easier. Makes it easier on the child if parents get along.
2007-10-18 13:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up by the boot straps and go on he is a jerk and doesnt deserve you or that little one hold your head up high and yes in time youll find someone who wants you youll just be more aware of what to look for in the next guy just dont rush it good luck
2007-10-18 12:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by kayme42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋