How do i get more confidence with girls?

Question

im a 17 year old male and some times i dont know what to say to girls .... like what do i talk to girls about?
and i feel like up tight or something

why do people say to act with girls like you act when ur with ur friend thats stupid cuz we cant talk about videogame,porn,and you know guys stuff?

Answer 1

Just be you.

Answer 2

Confidence in talking to girls comes from a little preparation and checking out some basic facts.

#1 - Girls are like guys in that they have interests, are open to a lot of ideas and are willing to try new things.

#2 - Girls want guys to approach them and be decent, talkative and comfortable/confident

#3 - Girls are a lot easier to approach when not in a group or already doing something important

#4 - The best approach is to talk about a mutual interest or to ask for something easy (like homework help or a creative idea... girls always think they are more creative than guys)

Thus, from this, the best time to approach a girl is to catch her after class, after school or during lunch (preferably without her group of girlfriends).

When you go for the approach, smile a bit (showing that she interests you) and look at her (in the eyes). When you say hi, ask her if you can talk to her for a minute (this shows respect and gets her curious... she'll prolly give you at least 30 seconds to explain yourself)

When you talk to her, start with something simple like you've seen her around and you were wondering if she could help with something (prepping for a test or homework... she''ll probably figure that this might be a story but if you can show her something you've prepared in advance, then you might get at least a 2nd meeting). If she brushes you off, then just ask her if one of her friends could help you (maybe it was bad chemistry but hey one of her friends might think you're cute)

Once you get that 2nd meeting, be prepared by having that difficult homework or upcoming test handy. During the whole tutor 1 on 1, if you botch it and she looks at you and says that you made it all up... tell her honestly that yes you did, but you did that because you think she's attractive and you couldn't think of any other way to get a chance to talk to her (flattery, works almost every time, just don't go overboard).

She'll either ask you why you just didn't ask her directly, or say outright she's not interested. Either way, you've got your answer and if she's willing to spend time with you then just talk to her. Ask her questions about what she does after school, has she travelled anywhere, what does she want to do when she finishes school (girls love guys that listen to them).

And by the way, some girls love video games, sports, cars and other guy stuff...

When you get her talking, you'll find that both of you will relax a bit as you'll get to know each other (and feel less nervous). After the 2nd or even 3rd meeting, then you can try asking her if she wants to go do something together (try to stay away from the "date" idea and go for something fun, like go kart racing or ice skating... anything where you can go together and laugh and be positive without getting too close or intimate... that's for date 5)

Answer 3

The best thing you can do it just walk up to them and say, "Hi, my name is ____________. How are you doing?" It's gonna take a lot of courage, but for a lot of girls its gonna come across as nice and confident. And for those girls who don't take it that way, or maybe turn their noses up, or do something negative, you don't wanna know them anyway!

You are gonna feel uptight, nervous, and kinda funny about doing this, but you're gonna feel that way about a lot of things over the next few years and you just have to man up and get through it. There is no other way, and there is no magic potion (well positive one anyway) that can help you, BUT once you do it a few times it get's a little bit easier each time. Not easy, mind you, but easier, and you are able to approach someone better the more you do it.

You can talk about anything and everything in the world, or in your imagination, just don't bring up those imaginary friends, or voices that only you can hear.

You can say:

How are you doing today?
How was your evening, and what'd you do?
How's school going?
How's your grades?
What's your favorite class?
Who's your favorite teacher so far?
Who do you have for English/Math/History etc., and then expand on that "oh she's a *itch." or "oh yea, she's one of the cool teachers." or "I didn't/don't mind that class."
or you do mind it.
You can ask about movies, music, tv shows that she might like and that you might like also, and if you don't, DON'T tell her bluntly, just say that it didn't/doesn't really interest you, but if you're smart you might fake a little interest.

And make sure you have a response for each of your questions also, as if someone was asking you, so that you have something to build on in the conversation when she does answer.

Give a compliment, on anything, make it sincere, on almost anything about her: clothes, hair, hair style, shoes, nail color, just don't get to personal or it will come across as creepy.

Remember, if you do approach someone most of the time they are going to think you are cool and confident because you made that first step. It also let's that person know you are interested, because more than likely she can't read minds. And there might be someone else out there who is interested in her who is willing to talk to her, you have to throw your hat in the ring to, so she'll know you are there. And if it get's stepped on then so what, you tried and that beats wandering what would have happened, and you can talk to the next one.

Go over in your mind what you are going to say. And it doesn't have to be anything to intense or the beginning of a 3 hour conversation. Let that stuff develop slowly and it will get there the more times you stop by just to say hi and see how the day is going.

And when people say act like your talking to your friends, they mean to relax, as much as possible anyway, and just be yourself, just don't be cocky, obnoxious, or immature and you'll do fine. Relax, be yourself, don't stay too long at first, and say good-bye with confidence. I'll see you later or I'll talk to you later or something that will let her know that you want to talk later. Good luck.

Answer 4

you know, if I had a guy come up to me and say something like, "you know I think you might be really cool and I might like to know you better, but I'm not good at talking to girls and I don't want you to think I'm some kind of arrogant jerk". I'd think that he was really very confident indeed. Girls don't know what to say to girls and girls can be tough to approach and we know that. Girls aren't so weirded out when guys reveal that they have a feeling or two. When a guy opens up just a little like that it's a BIG turn on.

Answer 5

I found the best way to talk with confidence to girls/women is to talk with them straight. Be direct and to the point. Try not to be juvenile and talk with them about porn and that you know guy stuff. Try to find out what they enjoy and let them know what you enjoy. Talk to them and listen to them too.
You will have to master the art of knowing how to seperate bullshitf rom actual real stuff that is happening in both of your lives. DO not Lie about anything. It will always comeback to haunt you. You are in a transition phase where you must learn to believe in yourself and your potential. In other words you are doing something very different and it can be scary at times. Do not put the girl you are attracted to down. Learn what she is interested in and learn more about it together.

My Godson was 17 years old when he met this girl in his spanish class. He wanted to ask her out but didn't know how to approach her. SHe was good in Spanish, so I told him to ask her if she would toutor him in Spanish. THey became the best of friends and seven years later they were married.

So treat the girl like a lady be a gentleman. NEVER hit her and both of you will find yourselves exploring the world together

Answer 6

Start by asking something about her and sooner or later she will ask you about yourself then go on from there. Talk about things you're both interested in. It might help if you treat a girl more like a person, not just a girl. That should help you relax and talk more easily. And remember, always be confident around girls and anyone else.

Answer 7

The main thing is getting her to talk. Just ask them how their classes were, how they did on tests, and just respond to it. Pick out little things in the conversations and ask them on that. Just practicing this will help you gain confidence with women and don't focus too hard on it. Just be relaxed with and not worry about the consequences. Hope this helps!

Answer 8

true points. i am 11 and went through the same stuff u were talking about, never knew what to say to them stuff like that. i tried to pay closer attention to the girls and try to listen to what they r talking about and i kind of just moved into their conversations. i have lots of friends that r girls right now after what i did. so try my advice see if it works. if so great, if not sorry.

Answer 9

The best advice I was ever given about girls was this.

Find out what they like.... learn a little somthing about it.. and then talk about that.

They will be extra comfortable cause they are talking about what they know... plus they are impressed that you are willing to talk about what interests them, instead of being arrogant and making it all about yourself.

Good Luck

Answer 10

that's why you feel tight,you cant talk to a girl talking about boy stuffs,it might offend her or something,just act normal,don't stress, don't think about messing up or brag about anything it will just make the situation worst.

Answer 11

when sum1 says talk to a girl like ud talkl to a frend,
that means a frend thats a girl!
juz talk about sumthin funny that happend, u'll have her laughn
and she'll relax, which will help u relax
Or ask her about sum homework
lil stuff like that will get u to start a conversatiuon
GOOD LUCK