Ok, so theres this guy whos in a couple of my classes and he is SO cute! I really like him but he is such a jerk! He thinks he is all that and he really acts like he thinks that guys are superior to girls!! He is soooo beautiful tho, with kinda long but not too long blonde hair and a beautiful face! I hate him as a person but I just melt when I look at him! It is sooo hard to hate someone when they are DROP DEAD GOURGEOUS!!!! What should I do?!? It is so confusing, because at times I hate him becaus of the way he acts and then at other times I just cant stop thinking about how beautiful he is!! What should I do?!?!
2007-10-18 15:14:55 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first of all, please don't play into his hands! Thats what has gotten him on this pedestal he is on now. Girls, melting like the blob all over him, I am sure of it. I have known too many in my day... Its okay to imagine how gorgeous he is, I am sure he is. But I am sure you are beautiful also. You can beat him at his own game, but you must be good at yours too. You can be a tease, but dont let your mouth write any checks your *s* can't cash. You know? Don't put yourself out there and say or do something you will regret. Women, even young ones are smarter than guys. They are all macho and no charisma, but women are sly and cunning and manipulative also, smart and stunning, and genius at the wit. So put yours to use. When he starts doing that macho stuff, let him know how silly he looks and when you do, be prepared to say something that he will try and retaliate with. Have a plan B. If he says this, I could say...., or whatever...
He is used to getting his way, if hes a jerk, and he thinks he the Mr Hot of all Hot seems. Therefore, let him know how childish he sounds when he sounds childish... guys like it when girls dont fall for their stupid tricks. They know other girls will allow them to have their way, but the ones that defy them in such a way, they don't quite know how to handle them. So, be the one where he has met his match, yet you have to do it in a way not to rough up his ego too much. He would probably just feel inferior if you lay it on too hard and inside be frightened to even say so, therefore would lead him to try to embarrass you to cover his true feelings infront of his male cohorts.... See its a chemistry method that works on the males. You gotta know what to add and how much as well as when to add and when to subtract a little, like when their egos have been bruised... it takes a little practice, but sure will help you out in the long run with men...
2007-10-18 15:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sistah Flow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that sucks, but that's how it goes. We tend to like the jerks for some crazy reason. You will either be that girl that gets treated horribly or you will get enough of it and find you a nice boy for real life and you can melt and ooh and goo over the jerks as you pass them by and dream about them here and there, but you will be thankful you have a boy that loves you in the end. Try it out with one of those good looking jerks, so you can see for yourself how it feels to get treated that way, only then will you know what to do. You can then appreciate a nice guy once you have had a few rotten apples.
2007-10-18 15:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Angela S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's into you, PLAY HIM. Sounds like a guy that has done the same to other girls. You can get what you want but get out before he drops you which is bound to happen. All the good looking ones are A**holes until they grow up. In the mean time have fun, but in the future, only go for the good guys. There are the true ones that will melt your heart!
2007-10-18 15:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say you really like this guy because of his looks and not his personality, then I would suggest that you move on. Beauty is found on the outside, as well as the inside, and if you cant stand being around a person, and knowing their personality, then they just aren't for you. After all, BEAUTY fades, but liking a person for who they are and not what they look like is the best way to go. You can stand to LOOK at a beautiful person all day, but can you stand to be in their presence all the time? I would suggest you look at someone who has something else besides their looks going for them. Good luck!
2007-10-18 15:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♫i luv♥♫juicy fruit♥♫gum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go out with him. Let him live with you, nearly go insane... then when you finally get rid of him, spend months on end hating yourself for the wasted time knowing that you knew in the first place it was the wrong thing to do.
That's what I did. And you will get to a point where you will looking at him thinking "I don't really care how good looking you are, you are a really ugly guy".
2007-10-18 15:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liking a guy because he is so gorgeous and a jerk, makes you shallow.
For Raindo: No sweetheart, it makes her shallow. A girl who likes a guy because he is gorgeous means she only looks into material things. If this guy wasn't such a jerk/off then, it would be a different story. Do you really want a guy, who thinks he's better than you?
2007-10-18 15:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remind yourself that looks go away, but the 'jerk' will always be there.
Just because he's pretty doesn't mean hes going to be worth investing any love in. You know full well what he is inside, don't do yourself the self confidence harm by thinking it's not going to be any less jerk-ish behavior just because you want to be with him.
Looking is free. Investing time, effort and love to be rejected is not useful.
2007-10-18 15:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything lol
I was a sucker for cute guys too but you gotta just look past their looks/body and think that behind that gorgeous face they are just the same human being just like the ugliest guy in the class!! And he seems like a jerk yeah, but... you could always try to change that girl!!
*wink*wink
AND no Dirk it does not make her shallow, it makes her a normal girl attracted to cute guys.
2007-10-18 15:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Flair 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
och thats a peach, your falling for aesthetics, search your soul sugar- be a bit more spiritual, yes he's georgous but you obviously disagree with the way he acts and some of the things he says-does he see this and do it all the more ? theres a fine line between love and hate¬¬¬¬as there is between sanity and insanity, you cant fight the pherimones his body releases if your receptors are open to them......think carefully about what you say and how openly you react-are you yourself likely to attract his attention-could it be that he fancies you and doesnt know how to express it ? thats my guestimation of your situation only time will tell, its interesting though.
2007-10-18 15:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by sonicsniper@myspazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would be a case where you should hold out for someone who is cute AND nice. trust me there is such a thing.
its not worth dating a guy whos a jerk just because hes cute.
2007-10-18 15:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋