I'm tired of being the good guy...should I be?

Question

I regret just about every decision I've made throughout my life. I wish that I could redo it all knowing half of what I do now, but I know that that won't happen. Anyway, I'm sick of always being the good guy. I've always gotten good grades, followed directions, listened to my overprotective, psychopathic mother, helped out those in need, stayed out of trouble, etc. I may be on the path to success in life, but I never have any fun. I also believe that people chose to take advantage of me based on my good guy reputation. I'm sick and tired of it. I have a lot of friends but we never do anything. When we hang out, we just sit around and watch time go by. I want to get out and just go crazy rather than being cooped up in this house for the rest of my life. Am I right or what?

Answer 1

Why is it either or??? I totally believe you can be a good person and still set boundaries. You can help people, but not allow them to take advantage of you. And so on.

Sounds to me like you might just need to build on parts of your life, not throw it out and start again, especially since it sounds like you are doing a lot of things right. Just work on the parts you are unhappy with, and might not be a bad idea to figure out why you are so unhappy with them. What are you missing or what is upsetting you?

If you want to do more with friends than come up with some ideas and suggest it. If they say no convince them to go if just for you. If you feel like someone is taking advantage of your generosity then like I said set new boundaries and stick to them. Remember when you change folks won't expect it so be patient.

But sorry, i don't think the answer to happiness is "going crazy," and bet it would be a case of the grass always being greener on the other side --cept when you get there you'll see it's no greener than what you have. You can change parts of your life without totally changing your life. Sounds like a good start to me.

Answer 2

There is nothing to regret here.
Making the right decisions and cultivating a good reputation has a real value.
Just get through school and out of your mother's house as soon as you can.
It sounds like you have outgrown your current crop of friends. Find some people with a hobby or other interest you can hang out with. Meetup.com has all sorts of groups listed per geographic area.

Answer 3

Maybe you could add a bit of spice to your life without going overboard. I don't know how old you are, but if you are legal to go to pubs, try having a clubbing night with your friends. Or just raised the issue "Why don't we ever do anything?" They might be just as board as you are. Have you thought of trying out a new hobby? What about photography or making videos? Sounds like you could use a creative outlet.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are ready to venture into the dark side. Okay, fair enough. It might help you appreciate more things in your life like your overprotective, psychopathic mother. Maybe she is that way because she has been there and know what it is like. Go ahead, take what you want. But be ready to pay for it. Because you will.

Answer 5

I think you shoudl go check out your birth chart, seriously. It told me a lot of really relevant, helpful stuff about what I needed to do wiht my life to fix whatever problems i was dealing with (it actually describes the problems you most likely have, actually...lol) for exmaple I have sun opposite saturn and what that means for me is that i choose one side of the opposition and reject the other. In this case i chose the sun or self-expression and individual identity (rules over Leo) Over Saturn (responsibility, duty, and reputation) which rules over Capricorn. What I need to do to get Both is own the fact that I am responsible over many things and to feel a sense of duty over those things and to work for my reputation...instead of complain about it and complain about how my individuality is repressed (b/c of low-self esteem resulting from neglecting my duties.)

Sharing your experiences with others who have the same placement really leads to some Interesting insight! Dang! For me, I found that person on http://astrologyweekl.com/forum Good luck.


Edit: Oh, and btw, it sounds to me like you may have the same placement...except you chose Saturn. ;). Good luck!

Answer 6

wow.... id like to meet you.

ive always lived a life where i did what ever i wanted, got suspended at least once a year of my highschool life,
didnt have much, so id take whatever i wanted, sell porn and weed at school, rolled the saint pauls kids at the station,

*****ed about, fu*ked around, but now i find myself wondering where everybody went. wondering y i exist. like a void inside me. its so empty, heartless and pointless

i always lived a life wanting no regrets, and here i stand regreting it. i guess regreting is part of getting mature or something.

living a life of regrets is worse then not living at all
but it aient ever to late.

i now wonder how much better my life woulda been if i had listened more to my mother, and played alittle wiser, instead of wilder.

so yeah, ur right, get out there and go crazy man, ima sure ur gonna ab-so-fu*kin-lutely gonna love it.

and me ima gonna lead a life more like yours. kukukuk
good luck N have fun

Answer 7

stay a good guy!!! you can take risks and have fun while still being a good guy! good guys are a dying breed and we need those who are still left to stay!

Answer 8

you sure are!
now go cut your wrist because you are gonna go emo! lol im jk