Help, i'm loosing my best friend!?

Question

So my friend useed to like this guy for like a week, so nothing big. But then he started flirting and hanging out with me and now i really like him but my friend freaked out when she found out and now shes all mad at me. She liked him for a few days and now that me and him are getting serious she claims to HATE him eventhough i know shes just jealous. Now she's giving me a hard time and turning all my friends against him and she's starting to treat me so bad. What should i do? Is this my fault?

Answer 1

You're in a no win situation.
You will have to choose between your new love, or one friend (possibly lots of friends).

Answer 2

That doesn't sound like much of a friend.
She is a total drama queen and control freak.
At some point, people will get tired of being manipulated by her. She should have no say-so in who to like or whatever.

Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.

Answer 3

If your friend only had a little thing for this guy that only lasted a couple of days then I probably would have went for it too. But you have to stop and think about it, your friends would normally be there forever, how long is the guy gonna last? And if you and this guy really like each other, then your friend should see this, and respect it. If she starts to turn all of your friends against you then I would say that she's not the friend you thought she was. You just need to sit down and talk it out. That's what me and my friends have to do when there is a lot of drama going on, and I live in a very small town, so trust me I know what I talking about, we have that kind of drama all the time! When your friend talks to you about it, don't try to jump down her throat, no matter how much you're going to want to at the time. Talk to her really camly and then when she finishes you tell her your side of the story without getting aggravated and without causing it to turn into a bigger fight.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

If she was youre best friend, she would be happy for you. Best friends are always there for you and i think she should know that by being YOUR best friend. The guy chose to be with you and not her, and its not your fault. He made that decision, if he wanted to be with her then he wouldve done something, but he chose you. It is really childish that she turned your friends against you, thats not right. They are youre friends too. And she doesnt hate him, its only that she is quite mad that you and him are talking, when she thinks it should be she and him. Talk to her about it and let her know how you feel, she'll probably understand. And anyways, theres someone out there for everyone, so she'll get her someone soon. :)

Answer 5

she is jealous, yes. It would mean a lot to her if you didn't mention him, or flirt with him in front of her. Maybe after a little time has passed you can pursue him, but wait until your friend has gotten over him. She'll appreciate in the end, and things will work out.

Answer 6

She's choosing a guy over you. That means that she ain't a "best" friend anyway. It shows that if this guy asked her out, she's be all over him, and forget about you the next minute. Ignore her...perhaps you should find a best friend who actually cares about you no matter wut. I know that with my best friend, even if we liked the same guy, she wouldn't get mad at me at all. I know it's hard...and sometimes, you have to go through multiple best friends and so much drama before you actually find a good best friend. But you'll get there, don't worry! =]

Answer 7

talk to her try to get a better understanding on why shy feels this way, because she was late on making a move on him and you got thier first its not your fault in a sense. you knew she liked him and she didnt know that you liked him also . so you know what. to stop all the drama leave him alone because thier is nothing like two woman fighting over a man. you are friends and you should try to keep it that way good luck.

Answer 8

hi
i think u should talk to ur gf and see why she realy doing this to u?and u should tell her thats not the right thing that is she doing with u and ur friend and all off ur freind u had to ask her stop acting like that if she respect u alittle she wouldnt do it ,and if she didnt i think its up to u to choose ur freind or ur gf....its all up to u to o the right thing...good luck

Answer 9

i WAS in ur friends situation
i liked a guy for more than aweek maybe 2 weeks
and my friend liked him 2
but he liked my friend more
asked her out
and they went out
of course i was jealous for a day or so
but i would never blame my friend
its not your fault
its not his fault
i just think ur friend is being selfish and she doesnt want anything good to happen
to her friend just to herself

FRIENDS & FAMILY B4 YOURSELF PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!