All of my friends are married and have kids. I am single with no prospects of marriage and I feel that I am being left behind in life. I spent my entire 20's killing myself in college instead of going out and focusing on my personal life. Now it seems I just woke up and looked around to find everyone my age has a husband, kids, and a minivan. Do you think I am getting too old and are becoming a spinster. I don't want to be the old cat lady. I need advice!! HELP!
2007-10-18 14:40:00 · 20 answers · asked by LenaRose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and I have no problems getting laid...that is not my concern. I hate clubs cause I did that my entire 20's and just found losers that wanted meaningless relationships. I want a meaningful exsistance....
2007-10-18 14:47:35 · update #1
Go out to places e.g. go clubbing. You just might find what you're looking for.
2007-10-18 14:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pyro 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Don't worry at all. 26 is a fine time to start the rest of your life. Just because you chose to do the hard part of life first (education and standing out from the pack) doesn't mean that the best won't come.
Perhaps you live in a traditional area where everyone marries young. In bigger cities and often in many areas of the US, people marry later.
Why not toot your own horn? Be proud. Show off your intelligence. Go with your career...and make yourself look great at the same time.
Minivans are not what life is about. It is about doing what makes you happy and creating a pathway to getting there. Seems you have done your homework.
Now live! If the town you live in is already married and with children,...then maybe you need to live somewhere else. 26 is a perfect age to start looking. Men are barely mature at that age anyway. So flaunt your stuff. Make your money. Be proud...and you know what...
The men will come a knocking. Why? Because everyone loves a self confident successful lady.
It is hard being the head of the pack...but that is what you are. Don't look back and wish you were less. You are great!!! Now just let others know it...in a humble but fabulous way.
And don't forget to look attractive. Go to NYC or some big place to keep up on looking hot. That way every man will notice and you won't feel left out. You don't need but one...but having a lot interested won't hurt.
Smile...the good part is about to start.
2007-10-18 14:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
You are not 30 something and left on the shelf to collect dust.
I did feel the same at 24, now i just recently met my first bf and in a relationship.
Even though it was hard because i work full time and study part time, always concentrated on my work.
Use to get tease by allot of people, because everyone my age was either in a relationship, engaged or married. They made me thing that there was something wrong with me. But it turned out that most of the guys i came across where immature, jerks, players and only after women to have a good time with and to have sex with every woman they could get their hands on.
Good luck
Do remember, to stop looking but keep your eyes open. Then you will find your night in shinning armour.
There is no rush. When the right one comes along, your whole world will change.
My friend was with her fiance for 2 and a half years, engaged for 6 during that time and they broke up. So i suggest do not rush into things just to please others.
2007-10-18 14:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Glamourous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not too old, it's great that you're independant and know you can take care of yourself. Alot of people your age has been married and divorced more than once and have kids by 2 or 3 different guys. I think you did the right thing and now you're ready to get serious about someone, just don't jump in maybe your friends know some single guys you can meet, coffee shops, maybe church? Be careful about the bar scene though, you might meet somebody descent there guess it's worth a try. You still have time to meet Mr. Right
2007-10-18 14:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 30 and I have 1 son and I am not married. I own my own house and make morgage payments and will forever. I have raised my son since day 1. I always thought that I would be the first one married in my family but my friends have married and yesterday my little sister told me she is gettin married in May. I do feel the same way that you do too. But at least you went to college. I didnt. I didnt even finish High School. I have went from job to job and now my current one I have been there for 8 years. I struggle everyday even though it is just my son and I. I have done everything on my own and it has been hard!
I dont think that you are getting old, you have just been securing your future with school. I would give anything to be able to go to school again. Maybe some day I will be able to.
What you have done by going to school has given you insite into life. If you are done with school now then you can go out and have some fun. Its not all it is cracked up to be married and have kids at a young age! There is someone out there for all of us and maybe in your profession you will meet the man that is ment for you and that is why you havent met him yet. You just have to be glad that you have what you have and take things day by day. Alot of people out there would love to go to school again but you already did and you should be proud of yourself!!!!! Take care
2007-10-18 14:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by grebcrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Those things happen when the time is right. I feel like you but i'm only 22. I was so focused on college and making a great career for myself that I totally missed out on dating. I'm now with a wonderful man and my whole life's perspective has changed... I have other dreams and goals that i'm exciting about pursuing now. If you currently aren't in a position to meet many people, try online dating. I never thought I would be the type of person to do it, but it's worked out so well for me. Don't be discouraged, it will happen when the time is right. Good luck!
2007-10-18 14:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you just have the right perspective of what you're suppose to being doing with your life. Believe me a man, let me reprase that, men will flock to you because we appreciate a woman who can handle herself financially and has some education. I am 26 year old man with friends my age, who can't seem to find women who are as educated and focus/goal oriented as they are. It seems to be a shortage, and for that reason they haven't found the right woman. You will found what you need all in due time.
Just be patient and don't judge the progress of your life on the status of your friends life right now. Your life status and stage will be different as everbody elses is. Just sit back and relax. Go out and meet different people and I bet you'll find that you are not the only one like what you have explained. There are eligible bachelors out there who would love to be with a woman such as yourself. You just have to be patient and take your pick.
Peace,
The Truth
2007-10-18 14:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i said the same thing when i was 26
28 now amazing what 1 year can do to your life!!!
don't rush it..
I found my mr perfect we plan on having kids but we are waiting untill we both are ready what ever that means!
Just think your not even close to half your life and we both are still very very young..
BTW you won't be the old cat lady!
you never know what will knock at your door tomorrow! most of all it's when you least expect it!
just too funny i said the same damn thing and seeing this really makes me appreachate what i gained in the past two years!! So thanks and
don't worry everything will fall into play!!!
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oh btw did your friends marry their puppy love, or best friend?
do you think any of them just settled with what they had because of they fear what you typed? just a thought
2007-10-18 14:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do any of your friend's husbands have great guy friends? Think about asking.
Consider hanging out at a specific spot quite a lot, it tends to be the best way to meet people.
Smile, Laugh, and Enjoy life. Confidence is key. Don't try too hard to make it work. You're not left behind, you sound like a great girl who has her life in order. Just put yourself out there!
2007-10-18 14:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey please, you are so far from by yourself it's not even funny. I am 25 and all of my female friends are either married or in a happy relationship with at least one child. I too feel the same way you do at times, but what you have to learn is that everyone has a "season" or at least I believe so anyway. It is not your time to meet anyone or to do any of those other things. Your time will come, just concentrate on yourself and the things that you like to do. Get to know the real you and when you least expect it, that special person will show, but you have to know who you are and be complete by yourself..love yourself first, he will come, you will walk right into your "season"
2007-10-18 14:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by monique0928 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your freedom while you can and count yourself lucky that you havent got 4 kids, a heavy mortgage and a lazy beer swilling husband! Get out and enjoy life!Think of something that you'd like to do or learn and join the appropriate club. Doing different things will give you plenty of things to talk about when you do meet men. And above all dont go looking for men, just go out and enjoy yourself while you got time.
2007-10-18 14:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋