Ok, so my inlaws (i need to say OUTLAWS ) bec i cant stand them, live in Delaware, we live in Nj...i had a baby in May 2006. I said i would go with my hubby and the baby to visit them during XMAS....Our son HATES car rides, I dont want to put him through this...last year i asked my OUTLAWS to come up here and she gave me the HARDEST time....i am getting very anxious about it now.....i really dont want to go.........i also have to say that my inlaws have NOT been nice to me for this entire year...thye have found fault and all i did was marry thier son and have his baby...HELP!!
2007-10-18 15:19:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so its really about YOU, not the baby. get over yourself and stop whining like a child, they are your husbands family and i am sure he wants to see them just as much as you want to see yours. its 4 hours. we live in NY and it takes 3 hours for us to get to delaware, i really doubt it would take you 4.
2007-10-18 16:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried getting him some type of toys to play with that attatch to thier carseats, maybe this would make the car ride easier on him. If that don't work and he really hates being in the car i wouldn't suggest making him ride for 4 hours he will be so crabby by the time you all get there won't nobody including the inlaws enjoy the trip.
2007-10-18 22:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by dcdaniel1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Plan to do the driving during the night, this way he's sleeping through it. Your inlaws should understand. . .they've obviously raised children already, they know kids have funny quirks. The next time they give you a hard time, simply joke that your baby wants to go about as much as you do. Probably not the right thing to say, but from the sounds of it, very well deserved.
2007-10-18 22:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a two-way street. While I'm sure they are difficult for you to get along with, they probably feel the same about you. You are different people, tied together only by the insanely strong love that you both have for your husband/their son and, now, your son/their grandson.
Think what your husband & your son would want you to do. They love both of you. Wouldn't they want you to try to find a way to love (or at least find some joy in spending time with) the people who they love, too? Swallow your pride. Look at them through the eyes of the men who you love. Try to find out what it is that they love about them. Then, create your own relationship with them yourself - devoid of any past feelings of anger & resentment. Try starting over again, for the sake of peace in your family.
I think though, that, for me, what it would come down to would be honoring the promise you made. You say, "I said i would go with my hubby and the baby to visit them". So, now it's time for you to figure out how you're going to do that.
For your son who hates car rides - bring some stickers & pipe cleaners for him. He will make a mess of the back seat with them, but they will keep him entertained. You might want to spend part of the ride in the back seat with him, too. Make frequent stops. Plan snacks for him. Try to have a large part of the trip during his naptime. Doing that will ensure that he's fully rested when he gets there, too.
Give *yourself* a nice break at a playground or McD's playplace about 10 minutes before you reach your final destination, too. Give yourself a little time to breathe, shake of the road & refocus on being the person who you want to be for your family.
2007-10-18 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I felt for my in laws the way you feel for yours...I wouldn't go either...but I also wouldn't use the baby as an excuse to not go...I have a 10 month old that I take by myself to go see my family...on a road trip that takes 10 to 12 hours.....
2007-10-18 22:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they have never come and visited you they have no ground to stand on ( unless they re sick or something) put your foot down NOW and tell them if they want to see their grandchild they will get their butts in a car and drive ... it is not that far from Delaware to NJ and drive to see their grandson and tell them you demand some respect from them to and not to treat you bad( unless you gave them reason) otherwise you demand a cordial acquaintance with them
2007-10-18 22:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live 6 hrs from our daughter & her family. They have a portable DVD player. Kid loves watching Elmo DVDs. Will watch same one over and over and over. Parents get tired of Elmo, but kid travels well.
2007-10-18 22:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take you inlaws flowers...be nice...stop this war before yo lose everythingand let your hubby know yor feelings...he should support you in how his parents are treating you and he should know...let him handle it
2007-10-18 22:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋