Family & Relationships - 4 October 2007

I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible: There was this girl I know, and her and this guy grew up together in this small home town. He was 17, she was 18 when they fell in love. They were ripped apart by the girls parents because of religious differences. Because of their youth, and immaturity and the girls desire to please her parents, she remained out of contact with the guy despite the fact that the guy spent years searching for her.

A couple years later,the girl met another man. Because of the same religious issues,they married. The girl didn't want to marry, but this man had committed some minor sexual indescretions with her, and told her that they had to either marry or tell her dad what they had done.

This girl had an unnerving desire not to displease her dad with this info, and thought she was in love at the time with this man, so she eloped with this man.

Years of unhappiness followed. After four years of unstable marriage, a child was born....

2007-10-04 17:39:10 · 4 answers · asked by lockedbeauty 3 in Marriage & Divorce

if i don't be back with him! hes going to cut him self! what should i do?

2007-10-04 17:38:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What should I do when my husband ignores me and perfers to be alone? I dont think he is seeing any one else but the distance sure is making me lonely.

2007-10-04 17:36:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband looks down on me and my children now that he makes alot of money,everything is his, and he always tells me what he had paid for, his money this,his money that. A real control freak, and he calls the 800 numbers for singles all the time, he lies about everything. He makes everyone in my family thinks that he is such a good husband. He moved me and my children to another state and told me that we all needed a fresh start and he never move at all, I thought that this will help our marriage out -not, he had proimiosed that he will move in 3 months because he had a contracting job that he had to finish but he never moved in, didn't pay the morage, my children and i had to move into a townhouse with money that I got for pawning my wedding ring. This all was 10 months ago. Now he is asking me to move back home (Ohio) but now I'm in love with someone else and I want a divoied, Because I don't love my husband anymore,because of the lies, and wrong doing.

2007-10-04 17:36:19 · 11 answers · asked by MELISE M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If you found out that your spouse had an affair for 2 years and possably a child came of the relationship, could you forgive? What if they seem genuinly sorry...are they be sorry you found out or trully sorry for screwing you over for two years? Would it make you feel any better if the woman was about 60 pounds heavier than you and looked like a troll?

2007-10-04 17:31:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 23 years old. My Mom recently found out that I wasn't a virgin. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 5 years and we've only been together with each other. She know hates me and tells me that she is slowly cutting me out of her life. She is also making my family choose. If they talk to me, then she'll cut them out too. I don't think I'm a bad person. I'm a college graduate and live on my own with a good job. She's very old fashioned and doesn't believe in premarital sex. I know that I've done wrong, but I don't understand why she would cut me out of her life. I want to make it right, but I don't know what to do. Has this ever happened to anyone? Did it ever get better? They did they eventually get over it and talk to you again or did you just stay estranged?

2007-10-04 17:30:37 · 6 answers · asked by imsad123 1 in Family

say you were a girl and the teacher was ina guy in his his late twentie - you notice he always stares at you and pays extra attention to you, one day he asks you to stay after to talk about a report...when you do, he asks you to pull your chair over to his desk and when he's talking he puts his hand on your hand and leans in for a kiss...you jump up (knocking the chair over) and back away then you say "i gotta go" and you leave....should you tell someone or just let it go? Say you're not a someone who tells on people...but its been bugging you alot and making you feel weird.

2007-10-04 17:28:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im not married, but when i am i hope we play allllll the time

i had heard a lot of couples dont play...and theres NO way i could handle that

2007-10-04 17:23:34 · 16 answers · asked by Greg D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been talking to someone on the phone long distance for the past 2 months and it feels like I have feelings for him and he does for me.. We even started saying "I love you".. Is this possible..Without even meeting in person ? Is online dating unhealthy?

2007-10-04 17:21:58 · 20 answers · asked by sweety_8402 1 in Singles & Dating

im embarrased by it...i have small boobs...im just skinny and muscular...i guess ill get my belly button pierced?? i dont know...i want to do it..but im scared my boyfriend wont like my body. and then he will probbaly break up with me.im just not up for getting breast implants either...i think its gross. it sucks cauz my body is whats getting in the way of it and im scared about telling him...this always happens and then i feel like i have to break up with them cauz of it...what should i do??

2007-10-04 17:19:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok so i've known this girl since the 2nd grade ever since then we ever like best friends. Since the 3nd grade she would ways open up to me and tell me ALL of her problems and I would listen n help her resolve them. I would always look after her and make sure nothing wrong happened to her. I was their in her tough times in Elemen. and Middle school

In high school I decide to go to a different one then her, at first we remained pretty close. Then one we just stop talking. And we both found new friends. I would see her at friends parties and I would talk to her but it just wasn't the same.We both eventually found "Replacements" for each other and didn't see each other. 1 day I remembered her birthday was coming up so I was going to ask her how she was. Come to find out she was moving the next week. I tired so hard to get back in contact with her but it didn't work

This week something happened to her and I managed to cheer her up but she forgot wat i said and went back to my replacement

2007-10-04 17:18:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm curious about how girls view their breasts...both before and after they have kids. I'm not asking about breast size or whether you're satisfied with your breasts. Rather, I'm curious about whether you view your breasts more as objects of sexual desire or more as a natural provision for feeding your babies. Obviously, these aren't mutually exclusive. I'm just curious about your feelings. I'm curious to know if you have been pregnant or had kids...and then, maybe a percentage...like 60% desire, 40% feeding...something like that. Thanks!

2007-10-04 17:17:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does she want me? when she hears some one call me by my nick name she will repeat it sometimes and she walks pretty close and sync with me. I walked really close to her one day and as i walked by out of the corner of my eye i could see her eying me down and she constantly fixes her hair and clothes when im near. Today she hid something on me and i still cant find it but i know she is the one it moved it but she hasnt told me. I was sitting next to her and she kept brushing agiasnt me and she would keep her arm touching mine more a while like it didnt bother her at all we were touching. ME make eye contact quite often with blank expressions in croweded places

im 18 in high school this is all pretty subtle and we know eachother but not really good


she generally ignores me though

2007-10-04 17:15:27 · 4 answers · asked by dhfdfg 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it a good idea in order for a couple to see or find out if they can really live with each other and get an idea of how married life would be?
Or is this a bad idea?
Just wondering what your thoughts are.

2007-10-04 17:14:29 · 6 answers · asked by . 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am 23 and am married to a man - after 2 years of courtship. After almost 2-3 months of marriage, i was looking for some stuff on his PC and suddenly found a few pictures of another colleage of ours.

After a little questioning, he admitted that he went to dinner with that girl one day and took that photo. This was during the time that we were together as BF GF. He said that it a farewell party dinner (She was moving to another company) and he didnt tell me bcos he felt I will unnecessarily shout at him. I'm sure he was not in a relationship or anything with her - they were just friends. Now she is in in another country and married. But why did he not tell me?
Another time I found the email id of a girl in his pocket. He said that he had met her on a bus and had got talking to her and got her email id as they are both in the IT industry. These incidents were 1.5 years before marriage.
Can I trust him again? Should I take up this topic during our fights as a weapon against him?

2007-10-04 17:14:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If starting today, you could be paid $500 a day for every day that you refrained from touching your lover/significant other, how long do you think you would last?

2007-10-04 17:13:49 · 23 answers · asked by Been here before 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiancee and I had an argument the other night. He was offered a considerable amount of money to go out of town this week for his job. He said that being separated from me for so long was worth it because he would be making so much more money than he would make if he did not go. I accused him of caring more about money than he cares about me, but then he argued that we needed the money. We're definitely not rich, but we get by on what we normally make. Why is making more money that important to him??? Is it just a guy thing?

2007-10-04 17:12:25 · 19 answers · asked by Been here before 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a boyfriend he is 6years younger than me, he is a sinor college kid, I have a good job still looked young. We had very good relationship when we were together, but he went back to the college we are not in the same city rarely talk and see each other. I love him but sometimes I don't know what is he thinking about. Recently he is very cold to me even no textmessages I think we have problem now, but I'm older than him should I take action first?

2007-10-04 17:09:44 · 4 answers · asked by AAPP 2 in Singles & Dating

I got into an fight with a guy, i like. Two days later i went to him and told him that we need to talk, he said wait until after work, (we work together).But we didnt cause he had to go to school, so now im waiting for him to call me.

2007-10-04 17:07:54 · 15 answers · asked by Honey b 4 in Singles & Dating

I am 36 and the Marine I have been dating for a year now is 30. He is in special forces and is pretty much a loner (he has a handful of close friends). He recently opened up to me drastically and told me he wanted me to be the last woman he is ever with and me to be the mother to his children. He says he has never had the feelings of completeness till he met me and he has never been able to talk to anyone as he does to me. Everything he talks about is in "us" and the future and he is very considerate of my feelings. He wants me to move in with him so he will never have to be without me. So my question to you is, does it sound to you as if he will be proposing to me soon? I mean that would be great but I do not want to rush it yet I would love for him to...Any real men with a good answer out there

2007-10-04 17:06:57 · 6 answers · asked by one Life to live 3 in Singles & Dating

We've been together for a year and I'm a broke college student and he makes about $9,000 a month and I'm a broke student struggling to pay bills. If he doesn't help me out does that mean he doesn't love me?

2007-10-04 17:06:28 · 26 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Singles & Dating

I mean are there any signs that you can tell if a guy has been talking about you with his friend. Will his friend act weird??

2007-10-04 17:05:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was told by a girl on one of my classes that most people, men included, have throughout their life had at least one homosexual thought, or at least thought about it. Is she blowing smoke up my a$$, or is there anyone out there who is comfortable enough with their sexuality that can vouch for her.

2007-10-04 17:04:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Fathers, lawyers, attorneys, law students, custodial dads, PLEASE HELP! My husband is going to be going to court next month to try and get custody of his 12 year old son. I need ANY information I can gather on what we need to do, not do, and know before we go to court. Any secret Texas laws about custody? Just a brief history: My now husband was with the mother of his child on and off for the first 8 years of the childs life. It was not a good relationship. They often broke up. Now they have been separated for about 4 years. I am not married to him. During the course of the last 3 years the mother has moved around a lot, been fired from several jobs, gone through several short term relationships, and is now living with her mother. My husband and I have been together for 3 years. We both have stable, well paying jobs. We feel that he would be the best custodial parents because the mother is not very responsible. She does not spend time with him. Never buys him new things, or clothes, and never takes him places. She is not responsible with money and will more than likely never be able to send him to college when the time comes. She often comes to my husband for "extra" money in addition to the child support her is already paying. i.e. for clothes, school supplies, birthday/christmas gifts, etc. His son has openly admitted that the child support my husband pays her goes directly to her mothers bills because she also is apparently suffering financially. Sorry for the lengthy posting but we are DESPERATE. The child and I also have a really good relationship even though I am only the step-mom. I love him dearly and want nothing but for him to come live with us. I worry about his future if her doesn't. Thank you to any one that can help me. :) Leah

2007-10-04 16:52:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i got about 10000 saved n i keep an apartment in texas, am i a loser?cause im not married n have no kids,

2007-10-04 16:45:21 · 13 answers · asked by lrr 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been in a relationship with a man I love for nearly a decade. An old fling has asked to meet up for lunch to catch up. It would be nice to have a friend to chat with, but would this be weird of me?

2007-10-04 16:40:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i like this guy and i want him to ask me out i please need help!!!

2007-10-04 16:39:47 · 17 answers · asked by Tess W 1 in Singles & Dating

I dated my ex for 8 and a half years. He was my first love. We had a lot of irreconciable differences. That's why we broke up. He actually broke up with me. We were engaged and I knew there was something wrong so I kept putting him off. He kept telling me toward the end he was going to meet someone else if I didn't marry him and that's exactly what happened! He could be mentally abusive. This was the bad side of him. But he was also so unbelievably funny and fun to be with. Also I never felt so close to anyone in my life. I could really be me, sometimesI felt like we were one person. He would always say to me you're lucky because he said he knew me like the back of his hand. I thought I had moved on. Not that I've met someone else but just was able to forget him. Not totally but almost. But it's been 3 years and I find myself thinking about him all the time now! Wondering if I should've married him. And will I ever love someone like that again!!!!

2007-10-04 16:38:58 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

kids?

2007-10-04 16:38:16 · 19 answers · asked by sissy 1 in Family

I have a boyfriend and when we were just friends before we always had something to talk about, but now that were going out there is absolutely nothing to talk about! its really wierd... i know that people always say if youre a good couple there should always be something to talk about...but thats not its just cuz we are both EXTREMELY shy!!! how can i find something to talk about that is interesting and will keep a conversation going for a while???

2007-10-04 16:36:04 · 8 answers · asked by loving bunny 1 in Singles & Dating