How important is SEX in marriage?

Question

im not married, but when i am i hope we play allllll the time

i had heard a lot of couples dont play...and theres NO way i could handle that

Answer 1

I think its vry important...Me and my hubby play all the time and we've been together 13 yrs... I loooooove play time. Those who don't have sex often are vry vry vry bored w/ their sex lives and that totally sucks to be them.

As long as u keep it interesting and fun and different u'll have sex every chance u can

Answer 2

Then don't get married. It's right up the alley of the answer by Heather B. Women don't understand that men need sex. You will get rejected more times than you will ever be able to fathom. I believe I know the answer to why that is, but it is a very long explanantion.

Point being, a wife will limit how much sex you have. You can pamper as the day is long, and that will prolly make it worse. You can become the hero guy in a Harlequin novel that she's reading all the time, and that will prolly make it worse. The women here on Y! Answers who say there giving their man a good time all the time and never turn down sex, are most likely lying, or they're delusional. I don't say that lightly.

A lot of women will point blank state they have a good marriage, they get along pretty good, but their man is hitting the strip clubs every chance they get. The lady that answered here that she tried what her mother suggested probably wasn't actually giving her husband everything he needed. Becuase she thought she knew enough of what that is/was.

For dudes, sex IS marriage. Of course I'm not saying 100%, but you're going to witness a massive change from the hottie you're dating to the wife you marry some day. I didn't believe it when literally TONS of people told me the same. Now I'm beyond the end of my rope, slowly dying inside. I'll leave you with one illustrative story:

You get a fat check from work for a retroactive promotion you worked your *** off for, all while not compromising the pampering time for your wife, and you proposed taking her shopping since she's been saying for a while that she never has anything to wear, and money has been tight, which is not going to be problem anymore. So she gets all excited and you go shopping. After trying on bras at Victoria's and picking out some really sweet thongs all while you're standing there in the store and she's asking you what you THINK you go on to clothes shopping. She comes out of the dressing room with the NICEST pair of jeans ever put on an *** (an *** that defies the fact she's delivered three kids), and the rock solid you've had in your pants for the last two hours starts to move some more, you finally whisper to her what you want to do with her, and she gets pissed off, which ends up ruining the whole god-damned day, just becuase "all you ever think about is sex, you sex-freak. Maybe you need to see a threapist"

That's a true story and that's what you're in for. Unless you are one of the luckiest bastards on the planet, and your wife gets drunk at your wedding, and the part of her brain that registers long-term memories never registers the fact she got married, so she never starts denying you sex.

Answer 3

You do not sound ready for marriage, if that is what is on your mind. There are lots of times when sex goes out the window, like when you are under alot of stress, death in the family, raising kids, financial things going on, etc. You have to be a partner in other ways other than in the bedroom or your relationship will be hopeless. Many emotions are shared between a married couple, and sexual feelings toward each other are just a fraction of the whole.

Answer 4

Sex is what connects my partner and I and is vital 2 maintain our relationship. Its not all marriages that end up sexless but I do think it happens in the bad ones. Of course don't forget about those certain times when sex cannot b the priorty like when a womans just had a baby and is up all night with a screaming child. Even in those times communication and love will always overcome those situations, just doing a little more around the house is a surprising aphrodisiac

Answer 5

sex is important in a marriage because you and your partner connect as one just like when you took vows,if you are panning o n spending the rest of your life with someone then sharing intaminte moments making love will only help the relationship grow stronger,

Answer 6

Marriage without sex is quite the opposite of heaven.

Answer 7

My mother always told me to keep a man happy you need to do two things and they are, give him all the sex he wants and keep his belly full. Boy did i found out that, that isn't true because i did what my mother said and he still went after a skunky b i t c h .

Answer 8

Sex is extremely important in marriage. Sex (before the days of promiscuity and sex and living together before marriage) resembles closeness, intimacy, and love for one another. To be blunt, men NEED sex. They are wired differently than women and just physically, mentally, and emotionally need it, which women don't seem to really understand. BUT...men need to understand that in order for us to relieve their need, we need to be pampered, taken care of, spoiled, loved, and romanced in order to fulfill this need in men. I think sometimes marriages lose that adventure, romance, and pampering of one another...which hinders the sex life as well. So guys...ya want a good sex life? Keep your woman happy.. :-) and keep things spicy

Answer 9

Depends on who your are. If you are a guy who can't think past his pecker, then it is probably pretty important. If you are totally impotent, then it proably isn't nearly as important. Then I bet bet you wished you picked the girl with a brain insted of the girl with the DD's.

Answer 10

What do you mean by 'play?' You mean have sex?
Well, in my opinion, sex is VERY important in MY marriage.
If my husband were to stop wanting to have sex with me, I would be very hurt, think he isn't attracted to me anymore, and probably divorce him.
I love sex.