My fiancee and I had an argument the other night. He was offered a considerable amount of money to go out of town this week for his job. He said that being separated from me for so long was worth it because he would be making so much more money than he would make if he did not go. I accused him of caring more about money than he cares about me, but then he argued that we needed the money. We're definitely not rich, but we get by on what we normally make. Why is making more money that important to him??? Is it just a guy thing?
2007-10-04 17:12:25 · 19 answers · asked by Been here before 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he wants more for the two of you than to just "get by". Maybe he wants you to have savings and security. He doesn't care more for the money than you, he is just thinking about your future together. And yes, men do think about money more than women do. It is important to them to feel like they are a good "provider". Not a bad characteristic in a fiancee.
2007-10-04 19:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately life and society makes it so that money is more important. Love doesn't pay the bills.
On a side note, what's wrong with being gone a few days? Some women like to throw that 'you care more about...than you do about me' junk so unless it does become a habit where it's every week or something. I'd try to keep that accusation to a minimum because it gets old real quick.
Then he'll be glad to get out of the house for a few days and it becomes your own self-fulfilled prophecy.
Another thing Yes, guys like to make money! Security is important and taking care of family. Money is a great way to do it.
2007-10-05 00:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, some men are more practical and women more romantic. If it is only for a week, let him go this time but make sure that if it gets to be a habit he understands that you will not like it unless he is making enough money that you can quit work and be free to go with him each time. Is there any reason that you can't go with him for that week? I think the money may be part of it but the fact that it is his job another part. Think of all the bands and singers who are wealthy but still travel and are on the road for periods of time without their spouses or children.
2007-10-05 00:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Money is important. With a secure future, you can have a nice life.
2. Going out of town for work shows commitment and therefore can lead to a promotion and better jobs later.
3. You're very selfish and/or immature to have a fit about a man wanting to work and give you a better life.
2007-10-05 00:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer to your question would be love. But, after reading the rest of the question, I would have to say you need to grow up. Your fiancee is trying to make money for the two of you. Whats wrong with that? Its only a week!
2007-10-05 00:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Jen♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man makes a lot of money It comes at a price. He is away a lot. Does not mean he thinks money is more important than me . It is a job. and sometimes a little extra money can make that the relatiosnhip is better It is nto an either or sitiuation. The money may give you a bigger wedding
2007-10-05 01:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go girl!! Maybe he wants to buy you something nice! Or maybe he wants to give you a better future. No need to start a fight about it. I let my boyfriend go away for a week to Hawaii to visit with his best friend (who is a girl) and just to go have a nice vacation. I missed him like crazy, but I NEVER pitched a fit about it. I should tell you that he had open heart surgery two weeks after he got back from that trip.
Grow up and get over it. It's a week! You're getting married! You have the rest of your lifetimes to be together!
2007-10-05 00:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Freke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't picking the money over you. And he realizes that just getting by isn't a very secure way to live. You are wrong to try to make him pick his job over you, when there is no telling what doors going on this trip could open up for him at work.
2007-10-05 00:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are those who work away from home for extended periods on fly in/fly out positions.
If their relationships can work, I dont see why yours cant either.
After all it's only one week that he'll be away for.
And that's coming from someone who has worked in remote environments for over 10 years.
A relationship isnt about submerging yourself in the other person...its a partnership!
Perhaps he wants you to have more in terms of material things about the house. Perhaps its to save for a special holiday or night out of some sort.
I wouldnt be too quick to jump to any conclusion.
In my case, I hate being separated from my partner...but I trust her and she trusts me.
We work together to make our lives together that much more enjoyable. We still do our own things...and its those things that make us who we are as individuals. But it's when we're together that sparks really fly!
I guess what I'm saying is talk to him about it...it cant be that hard to find some sort of compromise solution.
Good luck :)
2007-10-05 01:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Rygar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee you love is more important if its mean't in a genuine way. Money cannot buy love as many think, actually love is a decision one;s make, to like that person who s.he is, what he does, etc. even if you have all the money, you cannot force a person to love you. so with love and after love, comes money to do whatever you can do with it, rich or poor or etc
2007-10-05 01:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋