I have a boyfriend and when we were just friends before we always had something to talk about, but now that were going out there is absolutely nothing to talk about! its really wierd... i know that people always say if youre a good couple there should always be something to talk about...but thats not its just cuz we are both EXTREMELY shy!!! how can i find something to talk about that is interesting and will keep a conversation going for a while???
2007-10-04 16:36:04 · 8 answers · asked by loving bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It'll come with time. I'm also an extremely shy person, epecially in situations where I fel uncomfortable, and hanging out with my boyfriend for the first couple of times definitely counts for that!!
Anyway, the best advice I can give is be willing to laugh at yourself!
I made a fool of myself a lot in front of my boyfriend, being nervous it's expected, and I just sort of laughed it off, poked fun at myself.
It really made it a lot less uncomfortable! We both sort of opened up.
And as conversation, not every moment has to be filled with talk. If you're comfortable just sitting there in silence with your own thoughts, I think that shows a lot more for a relationship then those who have to be constantly filled with conversation in fear of awkward silences!
Humility my friend!! learn to laugh!
2007-10-04 16:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples come to this state. I'm not sure that anything in particular can be done except to address the issue. When a couple is settled in a relationship, it is regular for them to say little or nothing at all. It doesn't mean that they do not love each other, but rather it is an impasse and they have already talked each other out.
2007-10-04 16:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when dateing always go with the opposite so yall equal each other out. two shy people dont work well.but if you realy think you can do it then ask questions about what he's iterested in and what is the worse thing that ever happened to you or the best,what are your hope and dreams exc.hope i helped. jusr remember there a ocean full of beautiful rainbow fish.
2007-10-04 16:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by myffab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just talk about whatever comes to mind.
Say you're with your boyfriend, and notice a scar on his hand, you could say " Hey,how did you get that scar?"
And that leads to a whole new conversation that you could tie into anything, then you could start talking about how something similar like that happened to you etc.
2007-10-04 16:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by thats it 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife used this trick when things were "weird" between us before we got married. we weren't exactly "shy" but we were nervous--neither of us wanted to be dumb, you know? we were friends for many years before we became a couple.... so anyway, she wrote down all her conversation ideas, then taped them in the bathroom under the sink.... when she needed a new idea, she'd excuse herself to the restroom and look over the list. she always came back with something new, and that's what we did until we felt comfortable talking to each other again in our new role as "couple."
2007-10-04 16:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kurt H™ FC Steaua Bucureşti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going out you already know a lot about him. Just think about what he likes and have him explain it to you. Guys love doing that no matter how boring it may be to you.
2007-10-04 16:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by jake_in_iowa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do things together so you can talk about experiences you have had together...go to a museum or art gallery and talk about what you see
2007-10-04 16:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by lovednotspoiled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about things you talked about when you were friends.
2007-10-04 16:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by bettyaboop510 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋