say you were a girl and the teacher was ina guy in his his late twentie - you notice he always stares at you and pays extra attention to you, one day he asks you to stay after to talk about a report...when you do, he asks you to pull your chair over to his desk and when he's talking he puts his hand on your hand and leans in for a kiss...you jump up (knocking the chair over) and back away then you say "i gotta go" and you leave....should you tell someone or just let it go? Say you're not a someone who tells on people...but its been bugging you alot and making you feel weird.
2007-10-04 17:28:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure he did - he took me aside the next day and asked me to forget it happened.
2007-10-04 17:37:00 · update #1
Report him. If you need to write an anonymous note.
2007-10-04 17:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a case of 'dobbing' on someone. What happened to you is called sexual harrasment and it's even worse because the man harrassing you is your teacher. Your teacher committed a crime against you and you need to report him. Tell your parents, your friends and your principal. The adults will take action on your behalf and your friends will know to avoid being alone with that particular teacher.
Don't feel weird about it, theres no reason you should feel ashamed or guilty, you did everything right by getting up and walking away and now you have to tell someone what he did. If he's done it to you, what makes you think he won't do it to another girl somewhere down the track?
2007-10-04 17:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE he was leaning in for a kiss? If you have any doubts about his behavior, I wouldn't do anything. Just be watchful for anything else inappropriate.
If you're sure he had dishonerable motives, the person to tell is the principal. Tell his secretary that you need to schedule a meeting with him/ her. You should probably actually tell your parents first and then all meet with the principal together. You won't have to confront your teacher at all.
Just be SURE. It could very well mean this guy will be fired and ruin his career (and it should be ruined if he really did make a move on you). But if you're mistaken, it's not something to play with.
2007-10-04 17:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so, so bad!! Tell someone immediately, tell your Mom, or even if you are too shy to tell your Mom, tell a friend you can trust, or the school counsellor - the counsellor won't say who told them - they are good at resoving these type of situations - they know how to approach the teacher without him even suspecting you've said something.
Has the teacher tried anything since? If so, he won't stop unless you do something about it.
If he looks at you, I would just glare at him with an angry - dagger eyed look. Girl, you have the power here - don't let him get away with it.
2007-10-04 17:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG THAT IS 100% IN THAT CLASS..DO IT..after you have done drug so you cannot remember..now if you do not want the high marks i think you should wait till you have proof of what is happening an bring it up to the head of your school, in that way you may be able to sue him for money=p
But if you feel harmed in anyway go tell a grow up asap because you never know how whack a teacher might be.
Hope this helps
2007-10-04 17:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK..good thing that you started with "say you were a girl"
because 80% and above of guys from 14-25 are just gonna ask before anything else..
is she hot?
that said...the dude made an advance at you...YOU NEED to report this...and DO NOT WAIT..THE LONGER YOU WAIT..THE BRIGHTER HIS CREDENTIALS WILL SHINE..
it is a you vs. him situation unless you findanother girl who went through the same..
2007-10-04 17:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult. It is bugging you and it is not okay that he did that. You feel weird for a reason - what he did was not acceptable. He is an adult, he is supposed to behave in a professional manner as an educator and PROTECT his students. Please, tell an adult. Your mom, dad, school counselor or anyone else you feel comfortable with. Do not keep this to yourself, it will continue to bug you and you don't know if he is being inappropriate with other students. Good luck.
2007-10-04 17:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell your closest friend bout the whole story.i got the same story with you.i was a transferee during college.they wont let me in coz my school papers is not complete yet.so one of the professor there(guy)helps me all the way.i got myself enrolled.the class just started and the guy always ask me out for a lunch.i always told him that i still have something to do. i dont wanna have lunch with him.teacher-student affair is not allowed in our school.so i drop my subject on him and transfer to other school coz he wont get rid of me.but your story is quite different.the guy was so fast that he even leaned u a kiss on your hand.just tell your closest friends first.
2007-10-04 17:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by mitchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell, it might make you feel bad to tell but thats just something to serious. You have to think if you don't tell the next girl he makes stay when she tries to run off it could end in rape or worse.
2007-10-04 17:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by The Decoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is probably pretty embarrassing but you should tell your parents. Let them help you handle it.
He could get fired for this, and never teach again. This is very wrong because he is an authority figure to you, and in power over you.
2007-10-04 17:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by prairieprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18 or still in high school or middle school, call the police and report him.
If you are in college or over 18 this is still very unprofessional behavior and he should still probably be reported to the university.
2007-10-04 17:35:19 · answer #11 · answered by The Red One 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋