Family & Relationships - 4 October 2007

so i was casually seeing this guy. lately though everytime i ask him to hang out he's doing something. i brought it to his attention the other day and he kinda freaked out and said he wants to hang out still and it was because he had work to do and couldn't hang. but everytime i see him with other girls or the possibility of him hanging out with out girls comes up, he acts like i'm going to be upset with him. like i saw him with 2 of his girl friends yesterday. i was with a guy pal of mine. his friends recognized me and told him. he turned around and did this awkward wave. i want to tell him that you can hang out with other girls...i can't get mad. i mean i could but he's not my bf. what do you think his deal is?

2007-10-04 01:49:23 · 11 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Singles & Dating

maybe thats because I am. I saw the writing on the wall before it even happened. I ignored the signs and in my stubborn Taurean nature did what I wanted and now the sh*t is biting me in the a s s. I'm scared, but I'm going to do it. Lord willing by the end of the month, I will have enough money saved up to get my own place with my son. I know what I have to do because I know what happiness is supposed to be and this isnt it. I know that I deserve way better and even though I was wrong, and I take full responsibility for my actions, I'm still a good woman. I have so much to offer and I'm not even concerned with another guy, its just that this man is not the one. He wont change and I see that now. I've changed. I've become less and less tolerant, patient, respecting, trusting, etc. I'm tired of taking care of him and his drama. I feel like if I let him go, then and only then will I get this weight off my shoulders. thanks for letting me vent on here. your comments are welcome

2007-10-04 01:48:45 · 8 answers · asked by teri is ambience 5 in Marriage & Divorce

theres this girl i kinda like she told me that i was a really good freind like a brother to her what does that mean do i have a chance or no

2007-10-04 01:46:02 · 11 answers · asked by eggz11 1 in Singles & Dating

My bf is divorced w/2 boys, I think he feels obligated to their mom because thats the mother of his kids. I don't understand this. Is it suppose to be like this, he use to say they have cordial relationship or they try to get along for the kids now he was saying they are friends and if she need something or he does its ok to ask each other. they are clearly over each other she lives with another guy and is engaged I think. he was devasted when she didn't want to be with him anymore. I think he was not ok when I met him cause he use to defend her. I ended up developing so many insecurities when it comes to them. What can I do to feel better. Is this ok for him to feel this way. How are divorced people with kids suppose to interact when they have new significant others.

2007-10-04 01:42:14 · 21 answers · asked by Smile 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 01:40:42 · 14 answers · asked by sudheer k 2 in Weddings

Look men, please help me understand you. Now I know not all guys are like this, but I know some who are and so please advise: What if you meet a woman you're really attracted to and you get friendly with her over a period of months and then you realise that she too is attracted to you! This is where your 'fear' seems to start. Then you 'get together' you know have a kiss. She's NOT coming on too strong. You really like her but you kind of act really casual even if she asks to meet you again, you can't give a direct answer. You keep contacting her by the way but sort of 'friendly' as opposed to heavy love affair. Are you in shock? Please explain this! Are you afraid of love?

2007-10-04 01:40:40 · 7 answers · asked by gentle girl 1 in Singles & Dating

Me and my ex partner (my son's father) are going through the court about contact.. he is trying to stop me from moving away.. he see's his son regularly.. he used to be very controlling in the relationship which was my reason for leaving him.. he is still doing it, using our son.

My son says things such as "Mummy you're nasty" and "I don't love you" and when asked who says these things, he says "Daddy said it."

My son is 3.

My son has also said "I'm gonna get one of my friends to smack you!" and then stated again that "Daddy said it, Daddy's gonna get one of his friends to smack you!"

My son head-butts me alot, and hits me.

I have spoken to my solicitor, she told me to seek professional advice.. but I have no idea where to turn!! I feel very intimidated by my ex. I'm in the UK.. are there any organisations that can help me?

Thanks.

2007-10-04 01:37:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

me and my gf have been dating for almost a year and a half. I really do love her but it isnt like we r marryed or anything. Now i know some people r going to say "if you really loved her you wouldnt of cheated" well the girl was really hot and she told me it was just one time sex, no strings attatched. Well i was week sorry. my question is , should i tell my gf, who dosent even suspect it ever happened, about it and risk losing our relationship or really damaging it. Or should i not say a word as long as it was a one time thing. and go along with my life like it never happened???

2007-10-04 01:37:04 · 30 answers · asked by joshua d 3 in Singles & Dating

I am 33 yrs. old, male and have been married for over 11 yrs. I am bi-polar and manic depressive. I have alot of issues that I am trying to deal with in my life right now. More than what is usual. A lot more!!! I am in such a rut and trying and trying to dig myself out and go back to being the "some-what" normal person I am. Am I going through some kind of a "mid-life" crisis?

2007-10-04 01:27:08 · 12 answers · asked by venicedrowningme 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am married 2 kids. ages 1 and 5 boy and girl. I leave for work at 5:30am get home around 4pm. My wife does not work but she feels when I get home its my turn to take care of kids .
But I ussually am tired at that point. So how much free time is normal for me to get after work.

2007-10-04 01:26:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have a three month old baby. We lost our babysitter and since I make more money, he stays home with the baby. We are having a hard time paying all of the bills. Well, he "needed a vacation" so he went with his brothers to go fishing in NY! (We live in OH) Keep in mind he made sure he had a babysitter for that instead of finding one so that he can work and help with the bills. Not only that, but how fair is it that I'm busting my butt and he's on vacation?

2007-10-04 01:23:00 · 11 answers · asked by Rosie aka Rosie 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I feel like I am married to my brother. We are not intimate at all. I have asked him several times what can I do to spice things up or make him desire/be attracted to me. He constantly blows me off and say he don't feel like talking about it. But yet he has cheated NUMEROUS of times. The s*x is horrible. I NEVER have an "O" and it's like he don't care. I really do love him and never thought I would feel this way but, all I can think about is being w/another man that will satisfy me in that area. What should I do? I am very attractive, and guys hit on me all the time EXCEPT my own husband. It's like he doesn't even notice me. No hugs, no kisses, no love notes, nothing other than come home and go to sleep. He said he pays the bills, provide for our family and come home every night, what's the problem. Please any advice will help me!

2007-10-04 01:21:59 · 21 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Marriage & Divorce

When your doing the bussiness with some one (sex)?

Do you prefur if the girl has her eyes open or closed? or make a noise or silent?

2007-10-04 01:21:36 · 8 answers · asked by Pinkywinky 1 in Singles & Dating

She is not the type of person I won't him around mainly because she is 50 and still going out late night staying drunk and high all of the time. Can the courts make me let her see him.

2007-10-04 01:21:30 · 2 answers · asked by Ginger G 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I kind of felt like we had moment. lol He is shy and he brings what little shyness that I have out. So I'm kind of thinking we are just having truoble breaking the ice. I walkeed past him and told him I liked his shirt that it looked nice on him. Then I walked off...

2007-10-04 01:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by mama_05 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been in love with a woman for 20 years. Yet in mid life I am finding it difficult to love her any longer. Has anyone been out of love and yet been able to re-kindkle things or is it just too late?

2007-10-04 01:18:27 · 10 answers · asked by mystery639066 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been with my man for almost 2 years and still have not had sex with him (his choice). He's been living with me since day one and not once had a job. He always seems to come up with these different excuses, I really don't get. First he said I don't listen like I should, so I changed and I was a really good woman. So of course I was expecting sex, but NOTHING! Ok...then he says I should let him hold my money, because Im bad with it. So I do that and still NO SEX..I know its not me becuase I've never had this problem, and he gets aroused even if I don't touch him....what is wrong with him or me? So since he hasn't held to his word, I've been a *****. Now he doesn't understand why Im being this way and now he's using my bitchiness as yet another excuse for not having sex with me. HELLPPP!!!! what should I do???

2007-10-04 01:18:22 · 18 answers · asked by MONIQUE P 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't think i got my point across in my last question, my dad we left when i was 7 now 8 yrs later he is back, all he ever talks about is women he wants to sh*g and he keeps tryin to get with my mom, he hasn't grown up at all, he tells me what i can and can't do what to wear ect, he has a court order to stay away frm me, he was controllin when we lived with him and he is doin it again, he lets me down all the time, says he is comin and never turns up and doesn't get in touch to tell me. he basiclly calls me a slag, he ignores me when he is here he just talks to my mom and bro, he doesn't stick up for me ever, he asks to see my mom on her own without me, goes mad as i apparently follow them everywhere, seems to me that my so called father wants more to do with my mom than he does me? he wants us to move back in with him but said if we do he will make my life a living hell. i didn't give u all the details in last question. so here they are. now do you think i should chuck him???

2007-10-04 01:16:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am in mid my 30's and what I want to know is does anybody know any one who has left what appeared to be a good marriage (before mid life crisis) got together with a younger chick or continued in a swinging type lifestyle after the divorce and actually confessed to being happier and fullfiled.

2007-10-04 01:16:12 · 4 answers · asked by mystery639066 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i want to be with them on the moment

2007-10-04 01:13:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-10-04 01:09:48 · 6 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Marriage & Divorce

For Me it's Eyes, Smile and Shoulders!

2007-10-04 01:02:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just a response to the English woman who believes I haven't been outside of my wigwam for many moons...

2007-10-04 01:00:39 · 5 answers · asked by Chiksita 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 01:00:03 · 11 answers · asked by gfreeau 1 in Family

Is it ok to go to bachlor partys as long as nothing happens.
but there are naked women?

2007-10-04 00:57:05 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am writing this book to help woman and men understand sex from a different point of view, I am not a girl around thats for sure but I have been in different relationships and wanna write about it. Thoughts???

2007-10-04 00:56:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What can i do when i see people who just take from me and then they laugh behind me?

2007-10-04 00:48:49 · 9 answers · asked by Paco 4 in Friends

there is a guy and he is 13. he is on our road trip because his parents are away. he is really wierd. lately he has been sitting next to me alot and trying to talk to me.

I AM REALLY REALLY NOT INTERESTED. EW EW EW

1 im 14


2. i just dont like him!

he is realy starting to get on my nerves so if you could give me some advice on what to do!?!?!

just remeber

he is 13 and is away from his parents and an only child who is a step behind everyone else in trends and stuff.

i mean, i am too, but thats not the point

HELP EW

2007-10-04 00:45:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-04 00:35:23 · 1 answers · asked by whoopeedoodeedoo! 4 in Friends

my mom just embarrasses me so bad. her appearance, living style, talking (and no, we're from chicago, not the south) and just everything. i always just want to stay at other peoples houses instead when i hang out with friends and all that. how can i avoid her?

2007-10-04 00:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family