My boyfriend and I have a three month old baby. We lost our babysitter and since I make more money, he stays home with the baby. We are having a hard time paying all of the bills. Well, he "needed a vacation" so he went with his brothers to go fishing in NY! (We live in OH) Keep in mind he made sure he had a babysitter for that instead of finding one so that he can work and help with the bills. Not only that, but how fair is it that I'm busting my butt and he's on vacation?
2007-10-04 01:23:00 · 11 answers · asked by Rosie aka Rosie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We just lost our babysitter, so he isn't working but is looking for night work. Obviously, he can't look while he's in NY, though! Thanks for the answers, keep em coming!
2007-10-04 01:56:24 · update #1
Not fair at all. He sounds like he's irresponsible and doesn't understand the meaning of priorities. Selfish and thoughtless also comes to mind. If you want to make it work, try getting into counseling, otherwise, show him the exit door. If you're paying pretty much everything anyway, what's the difference if he's in the house or not? With a child, and him out, he'll have to get a job to support himself, then will have to pay you child support which could cover a sitter and/or daycare.
2007-10-04 01:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might get a lot of guff from this, but if me and my husband were in a rough patch with the bills (which we virtually always are) and he just up and took a road trip to NY spending God knows how much money in the process, and he went without me or the baby because he "needed a vacation"?
Oooh, he'd get it. If he needs a vacation, he can take one WITH the family to some place we can AFFORD.
And you're saying he doesn't work either? Isn't there a way that you can work during the day and he can work at night? That way you both get half a day to care for the baby? That's what my friend did with her first child.
That whole situation makes me mad.
2007-10-04 01:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a vacation? Sounds like you need one. No way i would put up with that.. He can't find a babysitter to go to work but he can to go off somewhere. That is so unfair to you. And you are having trouble making all the bills, what is he spending on this vacation? You need to talk to him and let him know this type of childish behavior wont work. Good luck
2007-10-04 01:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be so ticked off right now if it was me!! He needs to grow up and get his priorities straight!! Making sure there is enough money to pay the bills and buy the things that are needed for the baby and to put food on the table should be the first priority!! Please don't allow him to continue to do these kinds of things to you, give him a timetable to find work, it would help if it was a different shift so that you could take turns caring for the baby and be able to save money by not having to pay for child care!! If you're going to be doing it all alone, then tell him you are not going to support him in the process!!
2007-10-04 03:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ginny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this babysitter is good enough to use whilst he's on vacation, then he can use the same babysitter whilst he goes back to work and YOU go on holiday.
2007-10-04 01:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Blink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are now raising 2 children. It is not fair, but you need to let him know how you feel, and what you expect. Let go of the anger, and forgive him. Maybe next time you will be the one on vacation while he is working.
2007-10-04 01:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Barbi W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take matters into your own hands. Line up a babysitter and tell him to get out there and find a job. Otherwise throw him out.
2007-10-04 03:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfish....even a fishing trip to NY costs money
2007-10-04 01:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by sjhoover2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your young enough to carry on without him!
get another life before you are used more and that child grows up to think thats normal!
2007-10-04 01:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Numb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need vactions
he got a vaction and now it is your turn.
do something that you enjoy; either you should to to ceder point, do your boyfriend(use a condom), or surf yahoo anwers or better yet buy a FPS game.
you might also try to do charity work. it will help other people as well as help your self cope w/ ur siuwation
2007-10-04 01:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by JZ Price 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋