I've been with my man for almost 2 years and still have not had sex with him (his choice). He's been living with me since day one and not once had a job. He always seems to come up with these different excuses, I really don't get. First he said I don't listen like I should, so I changed and I was a really good woman. So of course I was expecting sex, but NOTHING! Ok...then he says I should let him hold my money, because Im bad with it. So I do that and still NO SEX..I know its not me becuase I've never had this problem, and he gets aroused even if I don't touch him....what is wrong with him or me? So since he hasn't held to his word, I've been a *****. Now he doesn't understand why Im being this way and now he's using my bitchiness as yet another excuse for not having sex with me. HELLPPP!!!! what should I do???
2007-10-04 01:18:22 · 18 answers · asked by MONIQUE P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 years - no job??!!!
Run like hell and don't look back
2007-10-04 01:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your money back!!!!! First and second get him out of your life.If the man is sleeping beside you every night and won't have sex with you he is gay!If he won't work he is a lazy gay man.He may come up with a million excuses but in the end that's all they are is excuses.
How do guys find women like you?I can't work but draw disability so I have an income.I haven't had sex in 4 years but I can.The woman I was dating when I was hurt said since I couldn't work anymore I was of any use to her or any other woman and I guess I believed her.I live in a really small town so she told everyone in town I couldn't work so I was useless.That's the only thing women here want is a guy with a paycheck.Sorry I got off track.Get away from him,fast.Get all your money back that he hasn't spent.Good luck.
2007-10-04 08:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh mo! this is CRAZY!!
It's rare when you hear that the GUY is the one that doesn't want to have sex.
I find it weird especially the fact that He has been living with you. Another weird thing is HE'S a guy and if your saying that he gets aroused then TRUST me he would be F**** the S*** out of you.
Does he pertain to a relation that prohibit sex before marriage?
Because if he doesn't then Girl sorry but he's most likely getting it somewhere else and just using you since he lives with you. And he doesn't work and you make the money and actually give him your money.
Never!! give a man that has no job and especially if your not getting anything in return to hold your money!!
YOu need to kick him out! You need a man not no man feeding off you. The only feeding off he should be doing is going down on you and he ain't doing that. So out he should go!
2007-10-04 08:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all your thoughts and problems down on paper, be very very honest with yourself, give him the letter as his last chance. Get him to think about it and take the letter away, chat to him later about it and see what he says. If he's not willing to change his ways, get a job and man up then throw hisAss away. Is it maybe some religious reason why he's not having sex with you ie. no sex before marriage. If not and he's had sex in the past you're really gonna want to find out if he's cheating on you or not, 2yrs is too long if you have a g/f, and not have sex with her if you're fine with sex before marriage.
2007-10-04 08:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by JamieJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a really good relationship. Oh my, I think it is time to move on. Your relationship does not sound healthy at all. Sex should not be a huge factor, but it sounds like he is playing games. Hopefully he is not getting it anywhere else. Two years, wow, you are a strong woman. I would not stay with a man who makes excuses for not having a job, wants no sex, and who wants me to give him my money, that I earn, that he has none of.Sounds a bit strange, I think it is time to move on to something that is healthy.
2007-10-04 08:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by kelso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart what you are dealing with is a lying, cheating, *** hole and you need to get out of the relationship before he takes more from you than he already has. You won't hurt as much if you do it now. You have not had sex with him yet, which I find Very suspicious....but you have to make the decision...stay or leave. No one can make you do either.
2007-10-04 08:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you have stayed with him this long? You said he becomes aroused even without touching you. So, what does he do? Masturbate? Do you really need someone to tell you what to do? Leave him or kick him out.
2007-10-04 09:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by teatotler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. You need to kick this bum to the curb. He has just found a person to use so he doesnt have to do anything. Why would you give him your money? Hurry up . Do it today. Start cutting him out of your life.
2007-10-04 08:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. This guy sounds like a nasty, lazy piece of work. Living in your house, no job, controlling your money...Wakey wakey! This guy is in it for a free ride, not a relationship.
The problem with this relationship is that there is no communication - but I wouldn't waste my breath.
2007-10-04 08:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Gem Gem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all of his stuff in a box and set it in the front yard, then change the locks.
He'll get the point.
2007-10-04 08:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put his STUFF in a garbage bag and set it out for the garbage man and tell "him to get it before the garbage man does!"
2007-10-04 08:38:35 · answer #11 · answered by book writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋