Is it ok to go to bachlor partys as long as nothing happens.
but there are naked women?
2007-10-04 00:57:05 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Extra details wife does not know and would not be ok with it. But I would have no problem if she went to strip club with her friends and nothing happened. ITs allinnocent fun. Wifes don't like fun.
2007-10-04 01:09:53 · update #1
Hey married people still need to do things away from there spouses....If going to a strip bar for few drinks with some buddies hey that is OK a lap dance with the Rules that are in place (NJ/NY) that is ok......Bachlor parties have a tendecy to get out of hand real fast......much quicker then a Lap Dance at a Shaker Bar!!! As long as you use your big head not the little head you should have nothing to worry about...Unless your wife finds out via third party then you might have some explaining to do maybe a few nights on the couch slient treatment for a few days.....IF you want to avoid the arguements then sit down and tlak to your wife about the issue of going to a go go bar or a bachlor party...never know she might go to the bar with you!!
2007-10-04 01:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
One could be so bold to assume that since you are even asking this question reveals you already know the answer - you are just hoping for a little justification - cause you like it and dont want to have to give it up
If you go there and you feel you have to lie about it to your wife or justify yourself in some way then your moral compass is already telling you its wrong.
It also depends on your beliefs, and also the standards you and your wife have agreed on in your marriage.
One may also consider, how your wife feels about it. Even if you do not think it is wrong but your wife does, then out of consideration to her and in order to help maintain your marriage then you should leave it out. - if nothing happens at these places then you shouldnt have too much problem not going there.
Also keep in mind by enjoying viewing these women in such degrading circumstances you are directly approving to the degredation of women. It should reveal something about your character. Keep in mind these women are someones Mother/sister/daughter. If your mother/sister/daughter lost their way and decided to take up such a degrading profession, I am sure you would be pretty discusted with those people encouraging her to continue. ie the paying punters.
2007-10-04 01:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is OK .... but I am not your wife! If she has a problem with it then you have a problem that needs solving before you attempt to go.
Forget trying to lie about going or any lame story. Those darn strippers like to wear perfume that will linger and stupid glitter crap that will leave evidence that you can't get away from!
You are in a tough situation if the wife has a problem with it. Either you don't go or you make your stand for some freedom and take the consequences. Good luck!
2007-10-04 02:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married life were more engaging (no pun intended), I highly doubt you'd be relying on exotic dancers to fulfill your sexual needs. Keeping your relationship exciting takes desire and effort from two people, and this is what a successful marriage requires.
If there's something you feel you're missing, you should communicate this to your wife instead of going behind her back to the clubs. This isn't only an indiscretion on your part, it's dishonest, and you have to ask yourself if this is the kind of thing that's truly worth doing if you know how much it would upset your wife to know about.
Fantasy, and the need to keep your sex life with your wife spicy are totally normal. Selfishness and dishonesty are simply not what marriage is about.
2007-10-04 06:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by GroomGroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you, a bachelor party for a friend is one thing. You don't really have to interact much with her since she will pay more attentiont to the groom. However, I personally don't condone men having strippers if they are about to marry. I'm under the impression that this tradition started in cultures with arranged marraiges where the man is basically considered single until the wedding. No dating involved. No romantic relationship.
What I don't understand is why married men feel as if they need to see strippers. If it's just for fun, then why is it so necessary? You shouldn't get lap dances and if you're married, you shouldn't want any from another woman.
2007-10-04 01:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he goes to a strip club with his buddies on normal days then it's not okay. It's okay if I'm there with him!!! or go to a place where women turn how to be a stripper and then let you be the one give him the lap dance not those girls.
Bachelor parties... Ahhh, well it's okay I guess... before he goes questions will be asked... Like how many strippers did they hire? just one? or everyone gets one? Normally, strippers or escorts go to bachelor parties they'll tease the groom than other men. Unless your husband takes the next step wanting to cheat.
If not, in the end no matter how much jealousy, anger you have you still have to believe and trust him.
2007-10-04 01:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by vintage_springs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not "innocent fun" if your wife does not know about it...and obviously you already know she would NOT approve. You are going behind her back, doing something you already know would hurt her. That is wrong.
If your wife were ok with it, and said "Yeah, sure, go ahead", then no...it would be fine. But obviously this is something that she isn't ok with. You are cheating on your relationship by hiding and doing something she would be hurt by.
In my case, I'm fine with it...In fact, I go with my fiance to the strip clubs..I enjoy it. But, if I was against it, he would not go. That is what a trusting relationship should be like.
~Kat
2007-10-04 02:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's not ok with it then don't. Thats a no brainer.
On the other hand, there's a lot slimmer chance of you cheating in a strip club than anywhere else. Those women just want your money, not you.
2007-10-04 01:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tall Chicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no issues with my husband attending a bachelor party and going to a strip club, I would have objections to him having a lap dance though
2007-10-04 01:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 00:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋