me and my gf have been dating for almost a year and a half. I really do love her but it isnt like we r marryed or anything. Now i know some people r going to say "if you really loved her you wouldnt of cheated" well the girl was really hot and she told me it was just one time sex, no strings attatched. Well i was week sorry. my question is , should i tell my gf, who dosent even suspect it ever happened, about it and risk losing our relationship or really damaging it. Or should i not say a word as long as it was a one time thing. and go along with my life like it never happened???
2007-10-04 01:37:04 · 30 answers · asked by joshua d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you open your mouth to her your are an idiot and should be kicked out of the Man Club. How can you even ask this question.
In fact, maybe you should be kicked out for even considering telling her. Grow some bigger nads!
You will note a trend that most of the women will say tell her. If you do, just keep in mind that the relationship WILL end, and not nicely. If you want the relationship to continue .... keep it a secret til you die!
2007-10-04 01:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should tell her. Whats the big deal?
I mean you said it yourself...
quote "me and my gf have been dating for almost a year and a half. I really do love her but it isnt like we r marryed or anything"
Why won't you feel comfortable telling the person you "love" and have been with for a year 1/2 that you got some cheap lil ho to put out ..no strings attached.
I'm sure she would be cool with that.
I'm sure your girl friend would love to know that the next time she has sex with you that she is being exposed to all the (very possible) STDS that you just casually picked up!
I mean after all this girl you slept with sounds like someone who really checks out the dudes she sleeps with also.
2007-10-04 08:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell but I would ask yourself a serious question, is empty sex that could give you disease, loose a woman you love, maybe destroy your life worth it? I would really ask yourself if you truly love your gf. If you did it once and got away with it you will likely do it again. You do not sound guilty. What happens if she found some hot guy and said well he was good for a one time romp? Then she told you like you told us here. You would be crying like a baby saying you had a loose woman in your life and that she hurt you. Whats good for the goose is it good for the gander? And why bother being in a relationship.?
2007-10-04 08:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. and why did you have sex with that girl??? jus because she was hot is not an excuse!!! if your girlfriend and you do not have sex that would of made more sense rather then saying she was hott. but really if you feel guilty you should get it off your chest but if you dont then dont but that would be really messed up and how would you feel if she cheated on you? would you want her to tell you? if you both really love each other she should forgive but that dont mean she wont forget. in love their are many rough roads but hun thats what makes it love, if she not their then apparently she's not the one. you both need to get an understanding in your relationship. weather you want it to be a long term thing including that person maybe the one you want to marry and all that. but if its not that then whats the point of it all??
2007-10-04 08:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by livin_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you exposed yourself to something u need to be tested and make sure your not passing it on to the innocent in the situation, your gf. Then you need to decided if you really want to be in a relationship where you feel comfortable cheating & not having on honest relationship with you gf. Not judging, i'm just saying maybe you need to re-evaluate. It isn't fair lead your gf on if you have no intention of being trustable after a year & a 1/2...
2007-10-04 09:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by JPC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself some questions:
Is it even remotely possible that your girl can find out some other way? Does the girl you slept with know anyone you know? Did she know you had a girlfriend? Could this have been a set up?
How does your conscious feel? Do you feel guilty?
If your girlfriend slept with someone else would you want to know?
If you don't tell and she finds out you might end up losing her anway. If you do tell she could still end up leaving. I would be afraid that she would find out some other way. I would want the information to come from me so I would tell and face whatever consequences that followed. But of course the decision is yours to make. Good luck.
2007-10-04 08:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real man admits their mistakes. And pays for the consiquences. As to if a women does the same. She should admit to her wrongs and mistakes. Also I feel you may really care for this woman But honestly it isnt "Love" if you lie cheat and aren't honest with her in the first place. Tell her but don't expect the best trun out inless shes either real forgiving or gullibull.
2007-10-04 08:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Suspicious/wonder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you live with the guilt? She might find out later from someone eles, but if you tell her you could really hurt her and possibly loose her. It depends on what you are ready for. The only thing is what is she finds out later? Are you going to be ready for that? Looks like you have alot of thinking to do, and honestly you should had done that long before now.
2007-10-04 08:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see how you can say you love her and do what you did . You dont love someone and just because someone is hot you do this ? I dont understand this , Think about it if it was the other way around would you want to know ? Think real hard would you ? Im not going to tell you this you have to use your own mind to answer this one .
2007-10-04 08:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by janice a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how well you can keep a secret. if you one of those that have a consicence that always bothers you, you might sould tell. I wouldnt tho. Thats what no strings mean. Just between the two of you.
2007-10-04 08:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋