Family & Relationships - 4 October 2007

The fact I am about to ask this is basically an answer to my question, but I would like an outside opinion.

My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. He has never been affectionate which is completely opposite of me. However, I have expressed to him that I would like him to make more of an effort to notice me. My question is, does the fact I have to ask him to kiss me, hold me, look at me, talk to me, or tell me he loves me, mean he is not interested. It is a literal fight almost daily, because he honestly acts like I'm not there, he always has an excuse as to why he is this way, he knows it bothers me, yet does nothing to change the situation. He is very talkative to other people, and he used to be to me when we were just friends. He swears up and down he loves me, but don't his actions speak for themselves? I love him, but I feel like we're one of those old couples you see that eat dinner in silence, never speaking to each other, ugh.

Any advice is much appreciated.

2007-10-04 08:41:25 · 24 answers · asked by Excellante 3 in Marriage & Divorce

If a married woman leaves at 1pm on a Saturday... then meets up with another woman and 2 guys.... then goes out on the town in Dallas, TX.... then when the night is over the four of them get a double hotel room..... she & one man on one side.... the other woman and other man on the other side..... what r the odds that she didn't sleep with the guy. she came home dressed very hot (tight pants, skimpy shirt w/lots showing) and also had new clothes purchased for the night out that consisted of some netting type material and a skimpy shirt and some new high heels. Didn't even come home until sunday about 5 pm. what r opinions or odds on this scenario?

2007-10-04 08:40:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My new Boyfriend's baby is turning 1 in acouple of weeks. The mother of his child told him she is throwing the baby a party but he can not bring me. He got mad and now he wants to have a separate party for their baby. I have never been nothing but polite and respectful to her. My biggest problem is that her reason for why she doesn't want me at the party is that she still has feelings for my boyfriend and she doesn't want to have to see a girl that he is " messing around" with. ( those are his words). My question is Should I encourage him to just throw the baby another party like he wants to or should I encourage him to comply with his baby mama's wishes and just not go to the babies party? I just would hate to see her get her way at my exspense but his little girl is so cute, I want her to enjoy her 1st B-day and have both her parents there and in good spirits. I feel like if me and my BF give in to her it will ultimately ruin our relationship. Hmmm...Don't know what to do??

2007-10-04 08:38:05 · 24 answers · asked by HONEY 2 in Singles & Dating

Would you move a couple in your house if you had ??
Would you move a couple in your house if you had a one night stand with the man ? They would be moving in so the girl can watch my son while i am at work

no one knows but me and him . It was a onetime thing , though their may still be a bit of attraction . And i might be pregnant by him
Thats the thing i dont love my husband . I think I stay out of conveniance . I do love my boy though . and this one time my result in pregnancy i take the test next week

2007-10-04 08:36:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what would u want your girl friend to give u a kiss a shower together sex or other things

2007-10-04 08:36:29 · 12 answers · asked by shatavious g 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-04 08:35:38 · 22 answers · asked by Miss I know it all. 1 in Marriage & Divorce

tonight ;what would it be .

2007-10-04 08:35:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband & I split 11 months ago & have recently been talking about reconciliation. We've been going over our history & have been trying to get to the "friends" level. He's admitted he wasn't a great husband - emotionally abused me, cheated on me when we were trying to work things out, took me for granted when I was at home. He's alienated me from my friends by telling them lies & now they don't talk to me anymore.

This morning, I found out that he has recently struck up something with my former best friend. My 4 year old son was telling me about a sleep over his dad had with his auntie (he's always called her auntie because we were so close) under the same covers. I have evidence to back it up. She has recently left her husband. This is the ultimate betrayal. I'm already hurting over OUR break ups - both of my friend of 20 years & my 10 year marriage. I'm seriously considering telling her husband on Facebook b/c he's still trying to work things out with her. Am I bad?

2007-10-04 08:33:50 · 28 answers · asked by Shannon H 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Not to sound like Cinderella, but they basically destroyed my self esteem growing up because I was considered the 'pretty one.' Now they are both more successful than me in life and I hate them. They are friends with eachother and only deal with me a handful of times per year. Friends of theirs don't even know I exist. They both have children and I don't. I don't even really want to bother with their kids. I hate my sisters for what they did to me and that they are so petty and jealous. I always think about it and it depresses me. I am very often depressed. How do I get over my sad feelings?

2007-10-04 08:32:33 · 6 answers · asked by lovebird 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'll try to sum this up as easy as possible:
My father has never really been in my life or brother and sisters..until my mom started inviting to family events and holidays. Overall..I basically don't know him. Then all of a sudden for my sisters birthday this year he bought her a 2007 mercedes benz. He said exactly this "this is for ALL THE MISSED BIRTHDAYS". That was in January. My other sisters birthday was in May and he said he wasn't going to give her anything. The thing is is that my father works for my sister. She owns a military store and he will work there when she doesn't have anyone else to work. And to keep him happy she invites him over for dinners and drinks. So the mercedes was kind of like a payback for all that (that is what my brother told all of us since he worked for him)...well that would be fine but he said the benz was for all missed birthdays so my sister and I believe he now owes us something...hold on I gotta write more..

2007-10-04 08:30:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Brian and his wife are waiting at the bus stop. With them are their eight children. A blind man joins them after a few minutes. When the bus finally arrives, they find it overloaded and only the wife and her eight children are able to fit in the bus.

So the husband and the blind man decide to walk. After a while the husband gets irritated by the ticking of the blind man's stick and says to him:

"Why don't you put a piece of rubber at the end of your stick? That ticking sound is driving me crazy!!"

The blind man replies: "If you had put a rubber on the end of YOUR stick, we'd be sitting on the bus right now!"

2007-10-04 08:29:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

(Ladies) What would you do Or what would you want him to do? If you found him so attractive and ur type of guy.

2007-10-04 08:28:49 · 25 answers · asked by Jamaal H 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been married to my husband for 5 years and known him for 15. I didn't find out until a couple of years ago that he likes to crossdress. I accept this and give him his space and time to do it. I take the kids and leave for a weekend. However this isn't enough for him. He wants me to be a part of it. How do I get past my uneasiness about seeing him dressed, as I have yet to see him? This is all he has been talking about lately. He desparately wants me to see him dressed. But I don't know that I am ready. Is anyone else going through this?

2007-10-04 08:27:40 · 7 answers · asked by cj2002 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Or can lead to divorce.

2007-10-04 08:25:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ive known this guy for a while and i've had the hugest crush on him, but ive never made a move for two reasons. One: I had a boyfriend of four years that I ended six months ago(for reasons other than this guy) and Two: Hes MARRIED!! So, once i was single and not grieving anymore, we decided to hang out a few times and i never made any moves on him, he did me. After going out a few times, our "relationship" got a little more serious, and when he or his wife was out of town, he would come over and spend the night. Im afraid ive fallen very hard for him, and im not sure what to do. He is the most perfect guy, and he has even said things like "you never know whats going to happen in the future"...but i dont want to be the one waiting on nothing. And its getting to the point that i cant think of anything else when he isnt around. Do i clearly draw a friendship line between us and keep it strictly platonic?

2007-10-04 08:25:37 · 11 answers · asked by Kimberly 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-04 08:24:04 · 28 answers · asked by knightsangeleyes 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

my uncle just commited suicide and his wife is now bombarded with all sorts of problems because they never talked about it. They are younger and now this happened. Just wondering how many people think about it.

2007-10-04 08:22:51 · 5 answers · asked by Tessie 2 in Family

How do adults stay away from abusive parents when broke and partially disabled. The abuse causes me be to be so hurt I cant work. The lack of money causes me to get help from my parents-abusers. When getting money they just know or say "See we told ya so, You cant work cause youre crazy". So then I or any victim gets more sad and really cant work. Hands start shaking panic attacks start in. The you are really in pain so much you hardly move. Its really hard to work under these conditons when you feel faint all the time for hours. Getting a gun and ending it all would be so much easier no wonder you hear about it on TV so much.

2007-10-04 08:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by theroadwetake 3 in Family

If someone says to you "Are you guys going out?!" What kind of answer supposes that the person does want to go out with you? [Please note that this isn't a question to find out signs of affections/feelings that she/he has for someone.]

2007-10-04 08:22:22 · 2 answers · asked by Rawrzors 1 in Singles & Dating

She got served with harassment charges last week and since the has been a complete ***** about me seeing my sons, calls me every day telling me "I will drop those charges" getting her faimily to threaten me, ect.

I am 85% sure I am going to be moving 1.5 hours away. I think the harassment will stop then. My therapist, the prosecutor, and the city attorney all think it is a bad idea. She has went and hired an attorney for herself for a charge, at least first offense, that rivals jaywalking. I don't want to hurt her financially at all, all I want is the no contact ( restraining) order against her. All the attorneys tell me this is the only way, but on the other hand, I do have to raise kids with her for 16 more years, and if this is going to hurt the "friends" relationship, then it may be to much.
By the way, if I go through with the no contact order between now and it's experiation, if she violates it once, it is a year in jail, if she gets out and violates it again; it is a felony

2007-10-04 08:18:25 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. Barker 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 08:13:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was really close to my great grandparents and my fiance was really close with his grandfather. We want to do something in their rememberence for our wedding but not sure exactly what.

I have a really old picture of my great grandparents wedding from the 30s and would somehow love to incorporate it, I'm not sure how I would do that (any suggestions welcome) but i'm wondering if that's appropriate to mix in there.

His grandmother is remarried, so I was thinking maybe flowers in honor of his grandfather since I'm not sure how his grandmother would feel about an old wedding photograph of herself and her late husband since she's now remarried.

Is this a good idea? or does anyone have any other suggestions?

2007-10-04 08:09:14 · 35 answers · asked by Courtney 4 in Weddings

Okay people..... If you found out your spouse was having an affair and had told their new lover that they were divorced and lived alone would u file for divorce w/o thinking twice? Also.... if you were the new lover of somebody for lets say less than 3 months and found out they were not really divorced, but married w/2 kids and living at home with their spouse.... how would u feel about that person after that?

2007-10-04 08:08:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I live in PA. I'd like to get full custody of my child from my previous marriage. With these facts, do any of you with experience in this think I can get custody?

-I have a nice home, and a job. The X, going to school, never realyl held a job, has a live in B/F who makes all the money.
My wife, also full time student, part time worker, but when all is said and done, both of us with be able to provide for the child far better than my X is.

- My X plans on moving out of state in the neer future with her new guy. From what I understand, she can not do this without permission from me. I love the kid too much to see her go anywhere, but in oreder to better provide, they feel they need to move to another state. This is not becaseu of anything the X is doing to improve her own life, it's the guy she's with.

2007-10-04 08:06:44 · 18 answers · asked by Frustrated Hubby 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My new boy friend wants me to wear a short skirt, and a certain color of underwear when we go to the mall. Is there a reason for this?

I am 24 and never had this happen to me before.

2007-10-04 08:05:39 · 44 answers · asked by candy_johnston 1 in Singles & Dating

If not then why & who

2007-10-04 08:05:09 · 10 answers · asked by debbiedeb 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 08:04:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my husbands X-wife showed up at this family gathering thing (she didnt belong there & I told her so) so my step-sons g/f got snippy w/ me (because she didnt like me telling the X -wife she didnt belong there-it was put on by another family member Not the g/f)...I apoligized to my husbands X-wife & my step-sons g/f....my step-son will be getting married soon....so what does that make me to her? We kinda got into it one other time...I know she HATES me....she never makes eye contact or talks to me when she is MY home & avoids me whenever possible! How do I handle this???????????? Ugh!

2007-10-04 08:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by east2west92 4 in Family

I'm 17, she's 24. When she was 14, she made mistakes, joined bad crowds, lied, was mean to me. Our parents ended up giving her a harsh punishment, though she apologized and promised to change. She got devastated because they said she had lost their trust and their trust was very important to her. I remember this broke her spirit, she suffred a lot but my parents were firm and it took months for them to trust her again. She changed, ended up being a great sister, made our parents proud but never made up w/ them, even today she thinks they were cruel, unforgiving, broke her spirit, didn't act as loving parents. Their attempts to make up with her didn't work. Today she's graduated, has a good job, still a great sister but hasn't talked with our parents for more than 2 years. She's about to get married and her in laws love her. Unfortunately mom is dying and wants to see her but she refuses, says it'll be kinda painful for both. I begged but she refused, see no point in this.

2007-10-04 08:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Family

2007-10-04 07:59:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating