How do adults stay away from abusive parents when broke and partially disabled. The abuse causes me be to be so hurt I cant work. The lack of money causes me to get help from my parents-abusers. When getting money they just know or say "See we told ya so, You cant work cause youre crazy". So then I or any victim gets more sad and really cant work. Hands start shaking panic attacks start in. The you are really in pain so much you hardly move. Its really hard to work under these conditons when you feel faint all the time for hours. Getting a gun and ending it all would be so much easier no wonder you hear about it on TV so much.
2007-10-04 08:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by theroadwetake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life long abuse 30 years, all details are not mentioned.
2007-10-04 08:24:12 · update #1
No its not tough love . They did verbal physical and sexual abuse. As well as having me locked up for saying that I was possibly abused to their face.
2007-10-04 10:34:02 · update #2
STop taking their money. Get help from other sources and cut them out of your life. You'll be amazed at how quickly you'll be healthy enough to work...
2007-10-04 08:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might need a therapeutic "parent-ectomy". Could be a toxic parent situation. If this has been a 30 year pattern you will have to have professional help. Being broke will help you get some "inexpensive options" for counseling.
Be prepared to hear some "reality therapy" and you have to show some strong desire/willingness "to own" some of the problem yourself...or you will be wasting your time and energy. Don't be a whimp...disabled doesnt mean helpless...but, you might need some organization and direction.
Mother Nature provides for you to get so miserable, angry, hurt, depressed and have "physical symptoms"....that you are motivated to do something about it. Only YOU know when you have reached that point. There is a possibility they might be trying to play the "hard love" routine but failing at that (as it just feels abusive to you). That is why you need to get some direction from (someone other than family). Sounds like you are hitting rock bottom here. Consider calling the Psychology Dept. of a local large college...see if they have any counseling services....might be free!
GET THE PHONE BOOK AND DO IT RIGHT NOW!
(If you don't you must need to wallow some more)
2007-10-04 08:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
have you ever considered therapy? even if you don't have an income or insurance, many counties offer free or redudced cost mental health services... you can check with your health department if there isn't a telephone directory listing for Mental Health Clinic under your County's listing.
Also, sometimes private mental health clinics can apply for financial aid in your behalf. You probably need to contact their business offices for more information on what is available.
Because of what you describe here, you might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder... it sounds very similar to what i went through.
Therapy is great once you and the therapist get started and get to know each other -- this could take a few sessions. Your therapist will help you to develop some good coping skills and show you ways to move forward.
Your parents obviously have some ISSUES... or they wouldn't treat you so horribly. I guess mental illness runs in families!! That's how i feel about the parent i have who abused me... because it's true.
it takes work to recover in therapy but it's worth it.
I have also listed some sites for you.. i hope they will be helpful.
2007-10-04 08:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that bad parenting really can wreck a good part of someone's life - like nothing else can.
You need to get out of there as soon as possible. You had better find a way. Living pretty much anywhere will be better for you.
You need to claim your life. They may have gotten the first part but you will win because you are a survivior. - You're big enough to know there's a serious problem and by asking for help you are doing something about it. Do not let them destroy you.
The first steps are bold. Go get a paper and read the classifieds to look for a room to rent. If you have no cash, ask a church for help.
Good luck to you. You will be better for having gone through this crap and you will be able to help other children that have been abused.
Hang in there. please. Life gets better, somehow.. When and how you least expect it.
You can do it. I swear to that.
2007-10-04 08:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by srsly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're not from now on a minor. you're an adult. extremely actually, it now no longer concerns in the adventure that your mothers and fathers want you to be "powerful and chuffed." it is your duty now. you want to get on incapacity, SSI, inspite of training you are able to so that you'll get out of there. Why are you putting up with this? they ought to were awful mothers and fathers formerly your coincidence as well. i imagine you would possibly want to be interior your rights to call the police, or a minimum of take them to court docket. If this situation were reversed, and a grown newborn replaced into abusing elderly mothers and fathers, there might want to be criminal expenses. i do not see the way it is any distinct from a criminal point of view. because you've using a computing gadget, use it to study your concepts. locate what help there is for you, and get it. i wish you're not from now on a troll. i come across it troublesome to believe that an wise adult might want to bear such circumstances.
2016-10-20 05:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop complaining and go on disability support like most people with severe disabilities do.
If you live in my jurisdiction, you can apply easily if you have medical documentation. Just go to your doctor and get support for your disability. Make sure you've tried any treatments that are available, and get your prescription medication needs documented. Then fill out the forms, mail them, and wait a couple months.
Also, if your current medications aren't working to control your mental health issues, go in and get a stronger dose.
2007-10-04 08:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by drusillaslittleboot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't work because of physical problems, you can get on disability. Once you do that, you can get psychological help. Just so you know, I have panic attacks too, so I know what that's like. There are support groups online. Also, have you thought about going to college? You can get grants and loans.
2007-10-04 08:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by it's me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once i discovered a friend of mine take an overdose on Christmas day, i spoke to his folks on the phone impartially and with no prejudiced opinion.i knew from books that there is a phenomenon referred to labeling and the self fulfilling prophecy.i really could see that this guy was a barometer of whatever level of rejection the parents would lay on him any given day.it was then i started to take psychology as a serious science.talk this over with an independent relative who can be objective in tandem with a qualified family therapist.that might prove helpful to you all.and best wishes.and ill thank you now for the best answer points please
2007-10-04 09:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by TREVOR B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek free help at mental health clinics, if you poor as you say you should have no problem getting in. They can help you deal with your parents control on you so you can get out on your own. Basically you need to stop acting like a beat dog and wimpering in the corner, you need to turn and fight back (but not with violence!)
2007-10-04 08:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋