Ive known this guy for a while and i've had the hugest crush on him, but ive never made a move for two reasons. One: I had a boyfriend of four years that I ended six months ago(for reasons other than this guy) and Two: Hes MARRIED!! So, once i was single and not grieving anymore, we decided to hang out a few times and i never made any moves on him, he did me. After going out a few times, our "relationship" got a little more serious, and when he or his wife was out of town, he would come over and spend the night. Im afraid ive fallen very hard for him, and im not sure what to do. He is the most perfect guy, and he has even said things like "you never know whats going to happen in the future"...but i dont want to be the one waiting on nothing. And its getting to the point that i cant think of anything else when he isnt around. Do i clearly draw a friendship line between us and keep it strictly platonic?
2007-10-04 08:25:37 · 11 answers · asked by Kimberly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, please do not alow him to have his cake and eat it to. I did it for 3 1/2 years and yet it was fun while it lasted but it was hard accepting the fact that he was not going to leave his wife when I decided that I wanted more than just a friendship or nights spent together. It can be an emotional roller coaster, especially if you want more. If he cant make it clear that he wants you and only you- leave him alone. you deserve so much more.
2007-10-04 08:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by bird 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
To be honest the phrase "you never know whats going to happen in the future" sounds a bit freaky. How well can you really know someone? Especially when you don't live with someone. People treat those that they love the worst. They come home have a bad day and take it out on something little or had the last straw when something else happens, but they wouldn't do that to a stranger or co-worker or even someone on the side that they are thinking of maybe hooking up with.
Second lets say that he eventually gets divorced. Our you going to be able to handle the you were the cause of his marriage ending. A lot of 2nd marriages of a lot of trouble not because the guy feels guilty for ending the relationship but because they feel guilty for doing it to someone else. (Like you won the prize but you actually cheated to get it). Your relationship with him is already doomed for failure.
I wouldn't draw a line at friendship. Just end everything. Friendship with someone your obsessed with is just terrible. Eventually he might tell you that you can't be friends, then where would you be at.
2007-10-04 10:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"You never know whats going to happen in the future" is the biggest bunch of B.S I have ever heard. This guy is stringing you along for sex. I am pretty sure you are the one who is in love, and he is in it for a thrill.
If a guy is married and he is hitting on women, I can probably tell you that he has probably cheated on his wife before. These men are called "womanizers". He has not made you any promises has he? Nope.
I feel really bad for his wife. What if you were married and your husband cheated? You are the whore in this situation. That really isn't something to be proud of. Now keep your panties on, get some self-respect, and stay away from the guy. Why would you even need a friendship with him anyways? He is obviously not as great as you think since he is a cheater.
2007-10-04 08:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fall in love with a married man, you have to be willing to come second to his wife and family. You must never believe that he will leave them for you. You have to be willing to not go out in public. You need to agree to keep your relationship secret from other people. If all this is true, and it is not important to you to have someone with you every day, and it is OK with you to spend Christmas and his birthday apart, than it could work. If you want someone to be devoted to you and be there for you all the time, than a married man is not for you. It's time to move on. It is possible he truly does love you, but loving you and being in an exclusive relationship with you are two very different things.
2016-03-19 05:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be with him when he's married, how would you feel if you were married and your husband was doing that to you, pretty bad right?
I know is difficult now that you're with head and toes in this guy, but you got to find a way to get out of it and make it stop because like this it's destroying you...
2007-10-04 08:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Akullore 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the first place you are committing adultery with this man. You need to run as far away from him as you can. He has no integrity or he wouldn't be cheating on his wife with you. He is getting his cake and eating it too. Why do you want his wife's seconds? Yeck! He will tell you anything to keep getting free uncommitted sex from you. Have some respect for yourself and stay far away from this lying cheating adulterer.
2007-10-04 08:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-Z guys, she just wants advice.....Choose who you love very carefully.. Married men usually just want something strange. If he were so unhappy, he'd of already left. He wouldn't need you as an excuse. He may be just bored sexually with his wife, but may always find someone like you to help him thru the hard times. Divorce, probably not.
2007-10-04 09:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are there kids in the picture? If so, he might not ever leave....
If he doesn't have kids, it's possible he will end it but, if I were you I would date other people so you have other things to think about and if he really cares or loves you he wont like you hanging out with other men..... You sound like you are falling in love and that would suck if he never leaves her. .
2007-10-04 08:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Meeks 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your a.s.s will get broke by the wife
and then lead to the wife divorcing
and the man left with no one
and then he would get mad at u for interfering in a relationship
2007-10-04 08:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never fall in love with a married man, not unless you want your @$$ kicked!!
2007-10-04 08:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋