Family & Relationships - 4 October 2007

I've been in a relationship with my gf for about a year and half now. When I told her I cared about her she told me that she sabotages things, but I didn't listed. Now after all the things that she has done, and believe me she has hit me with everything but the kitchen sink, I'm beginning to see it. For all this time I would get sad thinking there was something wrong with me (her criticism of me didn't help). Now I'm seeing that everything that was bad that she has said were to sabotage this relationship even though she tells me she loves me (in tears sometimes. This is new and completely ridiculous for me so I'm here. My question is why would anyone try to sabotage a relationship that they claim is SO good. Why if you love someone would you try to sabotage the relationship. Is this a girls thing or do guys to it to. All the help will be appreciated.

2007-10-04 07:57:38 · 15 answers · asked by TheT 2 in Singles & Dating

have you ever told someone you didn't want to be with them anymore but yet you still want that person around and still want to kiss or hug them??? ...and have sex with them??? if so why??

2007-10-04 07:57:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Without being traced to him or without any harm to his children

2007-10-04 07:56:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and how do you tell that someone you like her?

2007-10-04 07:55:59 · 3 answers · asked by james c 2 in Singles & Dating

Also, what happens if you have sex before you are old enough to do it by law. Do you go to jail? im a kid so i dono this stuff..im not planning on having sex if you're wondering that im just confused about if people get arrested cause this one girl in 7th grade had sex and she didnt get in trouble.

2007-10-04 07:55:35 · 13 answers · asked by james s 1 in Singles & Dating

have you ever told someone you didn't want to be with them anymore but yet you still want that person around and still want to kiss or hug them??? ...and have sex with them??? if so why??

2007-10-04 07:55:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is in love with the "whipped cream bikini" idea and Im up for surprising him with it, but I was just thinking...couldn't that cause a yeast infection or something?

2007-10-04 07:54:37 · 25 answers · asked by must<3dogs 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex told me he "just wants to be friends for now" yet he always contact me, always suggests we hang out, and always compliments me and flirts with me. We're seeing eachother this wknd "as friends". Now what is he thinking? Does he regret his decision? Is he trying to stay on my good side? Does he want to hook up? Does he still like me? Any feelings at all? I know most of you will say "move on" but I don't flirt back or contact him...I was just wondering how he feels about me regardless if I still like him and don't show it?

2007-10-04 07:53:00 · 19 answers · asked by shanamoakler 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-04 07:52:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Rite. he cheated on her so she wont talk 2 him...bt now he keeps askin me 2talk to her bt i wont cos he hurt her really bad. bt he wont stop and he is convinced that it isnt his fault

2007-10-04 07:51:42 · 16 answers · asked by »-(¯`v´¯)-» Petal »-(¯`v´¯)-» 2 in Singles & Dating

i am under shock, we just got back together again 5 weeks ago ,and now he left me again, to go back to his co-worker whom he left me for the 1st time. yes i took his sorry behind back and was willing to try to make it work, (we been together for 6 years) . i knew he saw this girl everyday at work and called her a lot but i was hoping and praying he would stay with me. i am devestated and can't go to work tonight, how do i deal with this mess, i am in tears and atthis moment feel like dying. he left me a letter explaining it was all my falt and he is in love with his co-worker that hurts! help somebody

2007-10-04 07:44:48 · 24 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

they said i act stupid this girl call me stupid all the time i don't like it how can prove them wrong how do i act smart i know im smart im just lazy i don't really do school work how do i act smart.

2007-10-04 07:42:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I read it a on a friend of mine's blog...I thought it was very interesting. I agree with some things on it and I disagree with other things

lemme know what you guys think?

"Don't hate me because I am white.

You pass me on the street and sneer in my direction.

You call me "Cracker", "Honkey", "Whitey" and even "The Man" and you think it's OK.

But when I call you, "******", "Kike", "Towelhead", "Sand-******", "Camel Jockey", "Beaner" or "Chink" you call me a racist.

You say that whites commit a lot of violence against you, so why are the ghettos the most dangerous places to live?

You say that you want to make a change in this country.

How? By protesting everything that we believe in? By trying to change everything that has made this country run fine for centuries?

You have Martin Luther King Day.

You have Cesar Chavez Day.

You have Yom Hashoah

You have Cinco de Mayo

You have Ma'uled Al-Nabi

If we had a White Pride Day you would call us racists.

In the Million Man March, you believed that you were marching for your race and rights.

If we marched for our race and rights, you would call us racists.

You enjoy the thought of Driver's Licenses for illegals.

We enjoy the thought of people obeying the laws of the land in which they reside. No negotiations.

You are proud to be black, brown, yellow and orange, and you're not afraid to announce it.

But when we announce our white pride, you call us racists.

You call each other "******", but when we call you that, you call us racists.

You rob us, carjack us, and shoot at us.

But, when a white police officer shoots a gang member or beats up a drug-dealer running from the law and posing a threat to society, you call him a racist.

We work hard to preserve our history.

You come along and try to re-write it.

We want a safe environment for our families and children.

You want to bring the ghetto to our neighborhoods.

I am white.

I am proud.

I am an American.

But, you call me a racist.

2007-10-04 07:40:38 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i got divorced 4 years ago. 2 years after my divorce i met who i thought was Ms. perfect. she seemed great with my kids, seemed to be the perfect woman: watched football, drank beer, beautiful, intelligent. then 2 months into the marriage she started getting real jealous, moody, argumentative using incredibly foul language, and then like a switch turned off her feelings for me and left after she had an affair and then had an abortion. she told me i was the love of her life and to never leave her then turns around and leaves me. it's my 2nd divorce and i thought i did it right the second time. i was careful. she was so good in the beginning but was so ugly on the inside after something switched inside her. her family always told me "she'll cut you out of her life in a second" and "she needs to be on her meds". i'm heartbroken because i loved her and gave her everything else i had left after my first divorce.

2007-10-04 07:39:45 · 28 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Marriage gives the husband control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property.

If one side withholds sex would that be a breach of contract?

Would such a breach of contract justify the other party to withhold any income received from their labor, and/or property?

2007-10-04 07:37:37 · 23 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Marriage & Divorce

He is in the Army and we live on base so paying for houseing is not a problem. We have been married for 8 months and we seem to never have money. He got paid Fri, and with out paying any of our bills we now have $30. He spends atleast $50 to $60 aday. He wants kids but how can I have kids with him while being scared that we wont be able to take care of them. I only have enough food for dinner to last 3 days and payday is more then a week away.

This is making my life very hard. I have been depressed and it is hurting our sex life. I sold my car to move out here with him and I quit a great job. I left my whole life behind and he tells me things will change. I am very limited to where I can work because of old injurys I got while in the Army.

My heart is telling me to stay with him. But my stess level may be killing me. I dont sleep any more except maybe 4hrs aday. Im sick after eating. Im already on Meds.

What do I do???

BTW I dont spend any money other then grocreys.

2007-10-04 07:37:24 · 9 answers · asked by This Sucks 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 07:37:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Marriage gives the husband control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property.

If one side withholds sex would that be a breach of contract?

Would such a breach of contract justify the other party to withhold any income received from their labor, and/or property?

2007-10-04 07:37:18 · 4 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-04 07:36:29 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i had a affair with my husband co-worker who is black and found out that im three month preganet and i don,t know what to do since im from mexico and i have two little ones with me ! and i don,t know how to tell my kids or my mother in-law.

2007-10-04 07:35:22 · 16 answers · asked by carmen g 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Tradition has it that when you get married go with the brides parish, which would mean C of E, do you think this is right or should I get married catholic for my husband? Please don't say it is up to us and how we feel, I would like your opinions of this matter thank you

2007-10-04 07:31:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Hi! Where do I even begin. My husband has had custody of his two kids (13 and 11) for 6 years. We have been together for 2 years and I love them like they were my own. Their mom moved 6 years ago 360 miles away to be with another man. Now that I am in the picture, the claws are out. She is constantly claiming I am trying to be their mother and badmouthing me to the kids. The 13 year old boy blows it off, but the 11 year old girl worships the ground she walks on. My theory is this...Their dad and I are the ones that run them to all of their activities, games, campouts, and school activities. We come to their band concerts, parent lunches etc. We stay up and help them with 4H projects, study for homework, and other things. I am so frustrated though because I feel that if SHE was the mom they needed - they wouldn't come to me for all those things. I just don't know what to do. I am trying to be positive for the kids sake. But..I dont want to overstep my boundaries. Advice?

2007-10-04 07:30:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a Friend That needs a Divorce from Her Husband that she Fears For Her Life. How Does She Go about making this Happen without Him knowing where she Is???

2007-10-04 07:28:30 · 1 answers · asked by saintmichaelisme 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Can you list relationship problems that can destroy relationships? I'll give Best Answer (10 points) to the one that can give the most.

2007-10-04 07:27:41 · 9 answers · asked by Ryder 1 in Singles & Dating

i went to a church around my area and the pastor was not aware of the place i stay, one day he told me that he want to see where am staying when i went he saw that i was in an uncompleted building he ask me why am here becasue i have suprise him of been in that building, how come am here that day was the sad day in my life.

He later came to appoligise to me that he thought i was in nice house because he wanted one for his friend to stay there.

my people should i continue this church or stop, dont u think this pastor is after money and wealth.
i need ur help. please give me advice.

2007-10-04 07:22:46 · 10 answers · asked by stistimatically 1 in Singles & Dating

Im really really stupid I make mistakes alll the time,my brother is perfect he is at uni,whenever I make mistake like dropping my contacts the hit me and tell me I stupid and Im useless,whenever I do anything good they take no notice I try not to be so stupid but I cant help it and Im starting to hate myself for it and Im to scared to tell them anything what should I do?

2007-10-04 07:18:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i was staying with my boyfriend nd his mother cause me and my mom did'nt get alone ne day me and my boyfriend broke up and then i had to leave but i had no where to go now im going back and forth to y cousin house and bestfriend and don't have anywhere to stay

2007-10-04 07:18:36 · 4 answers · asked by shaunfaye 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I love him so much what do i do??

2007-10-04 07:17:06 · 16 answers · asked by Lc 1 in Singles & Dating

add a simple subject( For one thing, ------------- allow us to express affection openly).

2007-10-04 07:16:53 · 2 answers · asked by tuntuni11 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. We are even going to get married,,,If God has written it on our destiny. His brother lives in another apartment. My boyfriend introduced me to his brother. And I gave him my number. WE spoke in night as he had very hectic work shifts and could find time only in the night…He told me about his lost love, how she dumped him for another guy, etc… N I was trying to support him through bcoz I wanted to put a good impression on him as he was my boyfriend brother, so eventually he should feel I m a nice girl and fit to marry his brother and recommend me to his family. He said he wants to see me urgently so I went, He took me to his apartment. And there he told me he called me just like that. I got pretty mad. As I turned to leave, He locked the door. Then I tried to go through back door but he came from behind, caught my hand and took me his arms, I struggled back, trying to free myself, until my hand turned all red… finally he let go.

2007-10-04 07:16:45 · 12 answers · asked by goddess_of_fame 2 in Singles & Dating