My ex told me he "just wants to be friends for now" yet he always contact me, always suggests we hang out, and always compliments me and flirts with me. We're seeing eachother this wknd "as friends". Now what is he thinking? Does he regret his decision? Is he trying to stay on my good side? Does he want to hook up? Does he still like me? Any feelings at all? I know most of you will say "move on" but I don't flirt back or contact him...I was just wondering how he feels about me regardless if I still like him and don't show it?
2007-10-04 07:53:00 · 19 answers · asked by shanamoakler 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been on other dates and other guys hit on me all the time. I don't tell him this, though, maybe I should. I don't make myself too available to him but I don't make it seem like I fell off the Earth either.
2007-10-04 08:13:31 · update #1
yea, he is just keeping you in the stable until he finds someone else. He has moved on, but he knows he can still manipulate and affect you. you should just either cut him off of you know what, or even better, tell him you cant be friends and nip this in the bud right now.
2007-10-04 07:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by ron197192064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be one of two things. Firstly, it could be the "friends with benefits" routine - he probably wants the ability to see other people if he wants, but he still wants to have a good or decent relationship with you. OR, he wants to see other people and you could be a "safety net"; someone he could fall back onto if things don't go well for him. In either case, I believe that he want's to have more "romantic freedom" where he can see other people. This is not a bad thing, it just happens. You are doing the right thing with not flirting with him and not calling him. Step it up a little though; see other people also. Don't play the jealousy game, just see who else is out there. Moving on may not be the best advice. Maybe creating some distance between the two of you for a while might do you both some good. Who knows, if you still like each other after a while and want to get back together, it'll be worth it. If not, and you both find someone else more compatible, then that's all the better. Hopefully, both of you will at least still be friends. If not, don't worry about it. You've done your part. Good luck.
2007-10-04 15:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by kodiak155 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing the field and keeping you as a slump buster. After all, a guy needs to get his release when he's horny. Trust me, he knows you like him, even if you don't act like it. You are nothing more than a receptacle at this point. When you see each other "as friends" this weekend, he's thinking you'll be getting jiggy. He will also say anything to get you to take your close off. "Oh, baby, I just didn't know what I wanted", "Baby, I need you, I have always needed you". "Baby, I've been a fool, do you forgive me?" Whatever he says, it will end with, "let's get it on".
Sorry for being so blunt, but, it's over. He doesn't think enough of you. I have been guilty of this in my past and have seen other guys do the same thing. We want the comfort of that girl on the line in case we need a jump.
You are going to find a guy who thinks you are very important. That is, if you're not hung up on this clown. Don't blow it. Move on, you'll save your self respect and you will meet men who appreciate you enough to behave. Besides, I married my wife because she was the kind of girl who would have NEVER accepted this behavior. It opened my eyes about women. I became a fan of women because of my wife. Until I met her I just used them. BTW, she ain't ugly but she ain't no supermodel either. She is much more than that ;) You need to be the same. Get an education, get your self respect and get a good job. These things will make you much stronger and more appealing to men who are higher minded.
2007-10-04 15:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by james 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he does all this and you two aren't having sex anymore? Hmm, that's weird. This condition is quite common actually, but usually it is a girl stringing a guy along, using him as a surrogate boyfriend doing all the relationship stuff without the sex. I've never heard this complaint from a girl though. Interesting.
My advice, keep doing what makes you happy (if that is hanging out with him) but don't hold your breath waiting for him to make a move. look for someone else in the mean time.
2007-10-04 14:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
want to really find his intention. Find the best looking guy you know that doesn't know him... could be a co-worker. Meet your ex for lunch and have this guy walk-in... acting all surprised... "Hey Shana, how have you been?... I had a really goodtime the other night... xoxo... well I just stopped in to get a cup of cofee, I gotta run." If you ex gets really jealous and wants to go out again... it will all come out at that time. If he never talkes to you again... well you'll know that too... he just wanted some benefits, from a lonely girl who he thinks doesn't get any.
2007-10-04 15:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but he probably wants to "just be friends" because he likes another girl but is not sure if she likes him back so he is trying to get together with her. If she does not feel the same way about him, he will most likely get back with you...hence the reason he still wants "to be friends".
2007-10-04 14:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ron K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, you are there wanting him back but will not say a word to him about it. If you want it like that then tell him. If not, move on. You show him that you are interested buy going out with him.
2007-10-04 14:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex as in ex-husband or ex-boyfriend. If its the later its not an ex its a former. If its ex-husband why go to the refrigerator hoping the milk that was sour yesterday is suddenly fresh today??
2007-10-04 14:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by anothersomeonenew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is keeping u for back up because of u guys being just friends he can look and date other people and u can not say anything to him about it. if he gets hurt or does not find anyone he has u to come running back to
2007-10-04 14:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by schultzie2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is simply keeping all of his options open. He feels what the 2 of you had was meaningful, but he is hesitant to be commited and have to be tied down to the same girl.
2007-10-04 15:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by jonroboue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋