Family & Relationships - 27 September 2007

My soon to be ex and I do not agree on if he cheated before the seperation or after. June of last year he started working at this company. By july I caught him speaking religiously to this chic, telling her that he wanted to be with her and of course bad mouthing me like crazy. I go to NY for a two weeks because I just could not take the arguing ( pregnant with a 7 mnth old to care for) and I find out that he had her in my house and slept with her there ( trash I know, the both of them). According to him, because he did not sleep with her while he feels the relationship was over, I say he did becuase the intent to be with her was there when he was talking to her on the phone. More important, he's married!!!! I know this is a silly question but it kills me how he tries so hard to reason his faults, instead of just saying i messed up. Either way, Im through and will file for a divorce. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

2007-09-27 19:59:06 · 15 answers · asked by ready4love 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-27 19:58:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm in love with a righteous man (A) and we are getting married...yet someone whom we know (B) is bothering us and giving us hard times...and B has been blocking A from taking me back home to the States, with the reason given : he likes me and wants me to stay where he is right now...but I can feel nothing about him (B)...

I don't want A to feel discouraged by B's actions...so what should I do?

2007-09-27 19:57:06 · 12 answers · asked by superb2dmax 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating a guy for almost two years. we're both in college - he commutes and i live in a dorm a half hour away. everything was great until his dad said that i am "manipulative" and im using him. then he insisted my boyfriend only come see me every two or three weeks. my guy feels like he cant disobey his father, but hes 19 (a legal adult!) and he should be able to make his own relationship decisions. it might have been okay had his dad a good reason, but he just doesnt want him to see me. i want to either figure out a way to get his dad to back off OR make my boyfriend stand up to his dad without having to choose between me and his father. im really upset about this, ive never been away from my boyfriend for more than a week at a time, and when we are both done with school we might be at the point where we want to get married. i cant have his dad constantly telling him what to do, especially when he is already old enough to be responsible for himself. what should i do?

2007-09-27 19:55:40 · 2 answers · asked by ironic_chipmunkk 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

What I mean is I used to love to have sex and lately (past year) I just dont want to. Me and my boyfriend have probaly had sex like 4 times in the last year. He has to practicaly beg me. I hate that he has to beg me but I really want to know what I can do to make me want to have sex. SOMEONE HELP!!!

2007-09-27 19:54:07 · 12 answers · asked by megleg88 5 in Singles & Dating

i'm in a long distance relationship. i usually talk to her every night when i get home for work after getting off at 11. tonight my gf isn't around, her cell phone is off and she didn't pick up her dorm phone. is it right of me to expect she let me know where she is if she isn't going to be around?

2007-09-27 19:50:21 · 11 answers · asked by the w 1 in Singles & Dating

I want to meet some new friends online, chatroom and ICQ used to be the way to go, but now they are filled with inappropriate language and people.

Where can I meet new people on the internet who are not sullied?

2007-09-27 19:50:08 · 5 answers · asked by LifeisGoood 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-27 19:48:09 · 19 answers · asked by 3 Godz in 1 1 in Singles & Dating

I am in 11th grade right now and I have like/loved this certain girl since 8th grade. She is stunning, amazing and I would do anything for her. I don't think that she knows i like her and we both have seen other people. I am really close friends with her and I CANNOT jeopardize that because I value that more than anything, but I want us to be more than friends. So I don't want to make any moves until i know that she likes me back, i feel like she couldn't/wouldn't ever like me, but I like to hope. I don't know if i'm taking this the wrong way but the about a week ago for the first time she asked me to come over and help her with english which of course I did but I couldnt figure out why she would ask me other than I am relatively good at english. Also she recently broke her clavicle and I brought her some get well gifts and have been visiting her and collecting her HW this whole week because she has been sick. What should I do? I think i should flirt more but don't know what to do?

2007-09-27 19:44:32 · 8 answers · asked by Yo Yo Ma 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-27 19:38:31 · 13 answers · asked by WASIM 1 in Singles & Dating

Is this where I've gone wrong the last two times?

How long should I wait?

2007-09-27 19:36:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean... if she is having a hard time is it wrong to supplement her child support income and minimum wage job by offering to give her money for oral sex, or to bend over and let me hit it whenever I want? I hate when single mothers can barely get by, but if I help them out I either have to do it unconditionally or I have to make them pay me back. If I help them unconditionally, they never help themselves and they never will get a job, so isn't it OK to ask they pay me back... on their back? Hurry and advise me so I can catch up to the chick that was griping about her low amount of child support.

2007-09-27 19:36:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a junior in highschool and I moved here in Arizona with my family 3 years ago and I've finally settled in and things are going great. But I just found out that my dad has an interview or 2 and his company might move him to Dallas, Texas ofcourse with us (it's not definite yet..but he sounds pretty sure we might move) i want to be happy for my dad, but it's so hard just thinking about starting all over again, especially since i only have 2 more years left of highschool..what should i do?

2007-09-27 19:34:11 · 5 answers · asked by The Dreamer 5 in Family

I'm a college sophomore and I'm interested in this junior. We're friendly, know each other from a class we took together, se each other around campus, made small talk, etc. I've said in an off-hand way a few times that we should get dinner, and this girl said stuff like, "Yeah, Facebook me and we'll make it happen!" So we're going to make it happen next week - the only thing is that I'm now trying to figure out whether we should go to one of the "classier" dining halls or go to this (casual) restaurant close by. I don't want to scare her off this early, but I do want to drop hints that I'm interested....suggestions?

2007-09-27 19:26:43 · 8 answers · asked by timberwolf11214 2 in Singles & Dating

this has been going on for about 8 years...long story short:she let my daughter fall into a pile of burning leaves causeing 3rd and 2nd degree burns/now scars. that was when my daughter was 15 months old! i didnt let the grandma see her for 2 years until my husband and i got back together and was kinda forced. so she always does stupid stuff that i fight with her about..smoking around the kids, taking them swimming without permission...then i found out a few weeks ago that she LOST our 4 year old son at wal-mart!! she didnt tell me, i heard it from him. then last weekend she let my daughter make brownies by herself and my daughter got ANOTHER 2nd degree burn right by the other scars. my husband agrees with me right now about her not being able to see them w/out one of us there, but he always gives in. how do i get him to realize that it isn't okay, even though it's his mom??

2007-09-27 19:24:15 · 13 answers · asked by bef 2 in Family

Ok so i want to know all the bad things that could happen if i decide to run away. You know will i go to juvy foster care etc.. please i need answers

2007-09-27 19:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by hbkadam316 1 in Family

My girlfriend and I have done hundreds of things together, and we don't have any ideas left. I live in Phoenix, and we've done all of the major things to do there. I don't really know what to do anymore. Myabe something to do with a park, or a long drive by ourselves. But I don't know. Any ideas?

2007-09-27 19:22:35 · 11 answers · asked by GalacticaCag 2 in Singles & Dating

to attract the ladies?

2007-09-27 19:22:08 · 14 answers · asked by Peter 4 in Singles & Dating

I'm in the 6th grade... I mean, I'm really focused on studies, friends that's all. Then, these made my life a hell.

This guy who's really annoying did these. My best friend Katte knows my Friendster PASSWORD and also my other best friend Angel. Katte has a secret notebook which she writes all important things that we shouldn't forget. Then, this guy saw this secret notebook where my password is and ruined my Friendster Account. And this guy changed the Email Address and Password of my friendster. I don't know how to retrieve them. He makes my image to my friends bad by putting bad things in my account.

Can you help?

2007-09-27 19:20:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

he says how much he loves me more than anything & how precious i am to him, wants me to have his kids & get married but the actions are : hides his phone, so i do too, he doesnt answer half the time, the the last girl he dated when we broke up in january lives 4miles away from him & his friends say he wants his cake & eat it too... Why is he playing mind games with me? he said he loves me so much. we see each other once a week, @my house, he stays over which includes sex, but we're not an official couple. We havn't been in public in 9 months. Why does he do this to me? Im still in love w him but i know i should cut him out of my life. He blames me for staying away from me so much because of the mean words( which are accusations of being w the other girl, Lindsey) He blames me for everything. How can i be stronger and just ignore this craziness. (it's actually worse than words can describe.)

2007-09-27 19:20:07 · 6 answers · asked by ceecoffee 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i have been dating this guy for almost 7 months, i love him alot and i think he loves me,well i work all the time and never see him, he keeps crying b/c i have not been spending time with him, and talks about breaking up, and asking me if its what i want, what i want is to be happy he makes happy but relationships in my book cause too much pain. i mean i want o be wtih him but i cant handle this cry stuff i mean im 25 and so is he, and i think he needs to see a counselor, please help me and no insults just be for real!~

2007-09-27 19:12:49 · 9 answers · asked by dark_confession24 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, it was High School and no one there had a style or group that I would like to hang out with because we were a small h.s. Ok, I was talking to my "friend" on yahoo IM and he is telling me that we were never friends. That the peopel I talked to were not my friends, they were just talking to me because they felt sorry for me.

Ok, I graduated last year, and I told him...WOW! After all this time thinking you had a friend, saying that Im just someone to talk to. Ok, I told him if anyone elsetalked s*it behind my back and he said everyone! I told him if the girls did and he said that they still do!

It has been one frekin year since I graduated and still talking s*it about me. I told him on a scale from 1 to 10, how bad is it. he said that its 15! he said that its some really awful stuff. Ok, why would they still talk trash about me if its already one year off and why would they ever talk about me if I did nothing wrong to them??

How would you feel?
You think he might also talk?

2007-09-27 19:10:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its spring but realy hot here in aust what should i wear?
(havnt been on a date in years im outa practice lol)

2007-09-27 19:06:12 · 6 answers · asked by boris 3 in Singles & Dating

A lot of guys talk to me like I'm their therapist. They tell me their problems and then they compliment me about whatever, they say I'm a good listener, too. I want to talk about fun stuff though, and not how terrible you've been treated in the past. Does this mean something else, guys? Clue me in please.

2007-09-27 19:06:03 · 5 answers · asked by linda 3 in Singles & Dating

when she hears some one call me by my nick name she will repeat it sometimes and she walks pretty close and sync with me. I walked really close to her one day and as i walked by out of the corner of my eye i could see her eying me down and she constantly fixes her hair and clothes when im near. Today she hid something on me and i still cant find it but i know she is the one it moved it but she hasnt told me. I was sitting next to her and she kept brushing agiasnt me and she would keep her arm touching mine more a while like it didnt bother her at all we were touching

2007-09-27 19:03:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Any ideas............

2007-09-27 18:59:36 · 9 answers · asked by jtgot1 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been in a relationship with my husband for 12 years, and I found out for the first time that he cheated on me 8 months ago, he's been online trying to date other women, even though he sais it was just a game. He said that he will never cheat again, but I need facts now. I can't just believe in his words. So I checked his phone bills 2 days ago, and found some late night calls, one of them 72 mins at 11PM. So I just called the girl . They were just friends. He said it is a lack of confidence, self- esteem and trust. I had all that and it did not stop him from cheating. I guess that it has nothing to do. A check from time to time, should not hurt him. I just do not want to play the fool. Any advice?

2007-09-27 18:58:53 · 17 answers · asked by renaissance 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He has done this before and I tell him that I would appreciate that he does call to let me know he got home ok...and well, that he WENT home after being out at the bar. This is not the first time he hasn't called. Every time he says he's sorry. How many times can you "forget" and how many times is he going to be sorry?

2007-09-27 18:56:45 · 22 answers · asked by misshoney813 1 in Singles & Dating

I've told her 3 times that ive gone out of town for a week or two a time and shes still calling me repeatedly. Shes really nice and I dont want to hurt her feelings anymore then it already has. Whats the best way to end it and remain friends weve been hanging out for 5 months. She has some shady friends and i dont want to date her anymore since I found out about them.

2007-09-27 18:53:46 · 8 answers · asked by grind333ing 2 in Singles & Dating

just curious

2007-09-27 18:48:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating