i have been dating this guy for almost 7 months, i love him alot and i think he loves me,well i work all the time and never see him, he keeps crying b/c i have not been spending time with him, and talks about breaking up, and asking me if its what i want, what i want is to be happy he makes happy but relationships in my book cause too much pain. i mean i want o be wtih him but i cant handle this cry stuff i mean im 25 and so is he, and i think he needs to see a counselor, please help me and no insults just be for real!~
2007-09-27 19:12:49 · 9 answers · asked by dark_confession24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not going to work. He obviously wants more from the relationship then you can give him, and he's unhappy. He's only going to end up getting hurt. You need to be honest with yourself and him- you can't be the kind of girlfriend he wants. I know you want to keep him but it's not really fair to string him along when he is obviously upset with the state of your relationship and your not willing to change. I'm not saying you should change but if you can't then end things with him- at least then he can move on and find someone that can spend more time with him. If you really love him then do what's best for him- don't be selfish and keep him around if he's not happy and you know things aren't going to change.
2007-09-27 19:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's desperate to get your attention. I think maybe you aren't about the kind of relationship he wants and that is like a 24-7 tlc love session of sorts or something.... I duno he def. sounds immature and surely needs some counciling. but most importantly you say you love him but you're not sure if you love him for who he is? because he is going to change through counciling and the like, do you expect him to turn into the ideal b/f you have in mind?
You need to do what is best for you. Some people never change, and you can only do what you can for people who truely want to be helped. I would ask him why he is so upset all of the time and then tell him that you care about him a lot and don't want to see him in pain, think the source of his hurt is not only from missing you but something deeper. and he needs to bring it to light or this is going to chain him 'till kingdom come, and it may never come if he doesn't choose to do the right thing. but he may need your love and comfort along the way. I think it's beautiful that you are willing to put your heart into something like this ~ it's not easy, but you probably mean the world to him.
2007-09-28 02:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Floats_Ur_Boat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down with him and say to him look I am very busy with work and life right now for me doesn't have time for a relationship...I love you but I don't that it is being fair to you that I don't have time to spend with you...so on...then he will hopefully understand and let him know that the timing for you is wrong right now and for him to date other people if he wants a relationship...if you don't then let him go so he is able to move on...sounds like he really cares about you and your relationship but if he is crying you should let him down easy...
2007-09-28 02:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can take the prospect that your world will revolve around him and he does the same then drop your work!
but i tell you it won't work...
couples couldn't sustain a relationship when their world revolves around each other only...
to your man, hey dude! shouldn't you be looking for a job instead of wasting your time crying?!
2007-10-02 02:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Karol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is a baby. You should break up with him and find someone who doesn't cry so much.
2007-09-28 02:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by smokey virginia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him straightforward that you do not like a sissy.If he really likes you,then he wil do anything to change himself.Otherwise,ditch him.....
2007-10-02 02:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Henry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cry with him in love..and see his reaction..lol
try it , its risky but u may wanna see what may happen
2007-09-28 02:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by wiib4mii 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds more like he is trying to manipulate you into dropping your support network just to hang with him.
Is he planning on paying your bills?
Tell him to go find someone who is unemployed and has nothing better to do.
2007-09-28 02:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he maybe trying to test your love for him........if he really loves you,then i guess he should understand your situation.no BUT's,no WHY's and NO DEMAND!goodluck.
2007-09-28 02:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by drift 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋