My soon to be ex and I do not agree on if he cheated before the seperation or after. June of last year he started working at this company. By july I caught him speaking religiously to this chic, telling her that he wanted to be with her and of course bad mouthing me like crazy. I go to NY for a two weeks because I just could not take the arguing ( pregnant with a 7 mnth old to care for) and I find out that he had her in my house and slept with her there ( trash I know, the both of them). According to him, because he did not sleep with her while he feels the relationship was over, I say he did becuase the intent to be with her was there when he was talking to her on the phone. More important, he's married!!!! I know this is a silly question but it kills me how he tries so hard to reason his faults, instead of just saying i messed up. Either way, Im through and will file for a divorce. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
2007-09-27 19:59:06 · 15 answers · asked by ready4love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not really related to this question, but this is a man who blasted me like crazy on yahoo Q&A. While Im home recooperating for sugery ( a c-section and an abdominal tumor removal) he's blasting me becuase Im taking him to court for a divorce and he had to pay child support. While he's complaining about he has no money for his own child, he's trinking like a fool on this chic, her child and he mother by putting them in a house. How can he spit so much venom when he was with, he thought the love of his life? Then want me after he realize, he was made a fool out of because he tried to make a hoe a house wife? Ironic, huh?
2007-09-27 20:18:53 · update #1
Yes, he absoulutely was cheating. No question about it. He was cheating before he even slept with her. Then, by sleeping with her while you were gone. You were still MARRIED, whether he "felt like it" or not!
People that cheat come up with such pathetic excuses for their adultery. Truth is...there is NO ACCEPTABLE EXCUSE!
2007-09-27 21:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a big believer in emotional unfaithfulness. I went through a similar situation - he was going to a neighbor's house while I was at work and there was extensive talk about the two of them planning on getting together, but according to him (to this day) there was nothing more than talk going on- so he didn't do anything wrong ........BULL CRAP......of course he cheated on you, and in your gut you know it - good for you for having such a level head on your shoulders and getting the heck out of that marriage. I don't necessarily believe in 'once a cheater always a cheater' I think people make mistakes and some of them can be genuinly sorry and redeem themselves - but definately not if they can't even admit that they did something wrong!
2007-09-27 20:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by cdawn1980 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question,
and you say you are going to move on , then do
just that and it does not matter if he cheated or not
since you are moving on, and if you hesitate in
getting your life togeather, the question will always
linger with you, why becasue you would be with
him.
2007-09-27 22:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" you were on a break", this is how guys refer to it. Until you both have said it is over not out of anger, or frustration, but truely want it over. Then I say YES he cheated. He should of never been talking to another women NO matter how terrible your marriage seemed or became.
2007-09-27 20:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by Injunswife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is not true once a cheat always a cheat cause i was the same way and i met someone and never cheated again u just have to find that certain someone
2007-09-27 20:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by yessina_ojosazuls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good move, and take him for everything he has---spousal support and child support too. What a jerk. A 7 month old and you were pregnant? In YOUR home?? I hope she gave him VD!!
2007-09-27 20:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit him up for child support and tell him to go screw himself.
2007-09-27 20:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cheating....he would have done it wheather you went to ny or not. should have come to visit me....im dealing with a cheating x as well.
2007-09-27 23:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah he cheated. Good luck on your divorce, you don't need to be put through hell.
2007-09-27 20:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by poisonous_tree_frog 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep if you have to ask then he did, maybe not in a physical way like he is saying but emtionally he did and he betrayed you.
2007-09-27 20:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by jaimie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋