What I mean is I used to love to have sex and lately (past year) I just dont want to. Me and my boyfriend have probaly had sex like 4 times in the last year. He has to practicaly beg me. I hate that he has to beg me but I really want to know what I can do to make me want to have sex. SOMEONE HELP!!!
2007-09-27 19:54:07 · 12 answers · asked by megleg88 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should look at the problem from a different angle:
Since when did you start wanted to have less sex with him....
Normally sex is in the mind.... something happen or been said or done or missing something you had or change in attitude made you cold in sexual contact. And due to your care for the person you stay, but your feelings change over time..... and in that time you do not remember how it started. You only feel the result...
A possible solution is talk about it..... from the moment it was still regular and see if you can hit the spot of change.
2007-09-27 20:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not something anyone else can tell you how to do, you either like it or you don't. If your boyfriend has to beg you for it then you either don't want to have it with him, or you need to cut him loose so someone else that does appreciate ****** him can have some fun. Don't take what I'm saying the wrong way but let's put the shoe on the other foot here. If it were him feeling this way and you had to beg him for it all of the time, you would accuse him of cheating and constantly yell at him, up until the point at which you replaced him with someone that's going to come through and lay into you like you would've wanted to be in the first place.
You didn't just wake up one morning and decide that you don't want too have sex anymore......something happened. However, if you were ******* everyday of the week (i.e. Mon - Fri. 24/7) which I highly doubt, then that's understandable. Either you just need some good rest or you've been partying and you have officially reached you casual sex limit with your boyfriend. Find a hobby, go exercise, find a doctor to prescribe you some zoloft, whatever you do just take some time out and get your head together.
My advice is that you better pray Cupid pokes you in the *** with one of his arrows, while you're making eye contact with him. Or don't be surprised if you find yourself alone on certain nights of the week...........Just a message (hint, hint!!!!!!!!)
2007-09-28 03:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I similarly felt this way for a while and the issue was that i am really religious and felt really guilty that we were not even atleast engaged let alone married and I just felt like my boyfriend was really getting on my nerves at times and some incidents happened where I was just feeling so depressed at times as as though I could not really trust him. Maybe this is what is going on to. My boyfriend use to beg alot to and I felt bad. But for alot of us good old-fashioned ladies.... when our relationships are not what we thought it would be (even if it is really good at times) our libido goes out the window. You know? Just simply talk to him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that it is not as though you are trying to be mean to him, but your body nor your soul is craving sex at the moment. Also, think of the possibility of couples counseling. I had done this weekly for a while and we are in our 20's! It really helps out alot.
2007-09-28 03:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Confused but hopeful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not making you feel special. For some reason they stop doing that, and we lose interest in having sex with them. Try talking to him, and together you can find ways of spicing up your sex life. I am sure that if he knew what things get you in the mood, he would be doing them. Sometimes it is just knowing how to treat you, or saying nice things that make you feel good about yourself.
2007-09-28 02:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one! you use to love it what made that change? that's the question you should ask yourself? maybe you should find out what turns you on! and go with that! maybe try having sex in a public place! maybe a movie house or something? use it don't use it! if i was you boyfriend i would start by licking you between your legs starting of slow and soft making sure i hit the right spots then go faster and faster and not move on until you *** over and over again!
2007-09-28 03:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by hotrod4u2play 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a married woman, with the same problem....I've tried playing "sex games", toys the whole bit. It still doesn't make me want it anymore or less. As sad as it may sound, I kind of have to talk my self into it. My husband is good in bed, and he tries really hard, I'm just not into it anymore. But I know that I love him, and I want to make him happy, so I just do it anyways, and fake it if I have to. his happiness is worth it to me. You just have to figure out what you're willing to do to make your man happy....
2007-09-28 03:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by TMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have no feelling toward him no more.This will Happen.When you don't love that person that much,You would't want having sex with him.Anyway you're not alone,i face the same problem as you do.Wish you all the best.
2007-09-28 03:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by linda baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you dont have that kind of love to your BF.... maybe you have other person in mind.... or maybe... you are totally off it coz (sorry to say... ) not that excited to have sex with him.. (boring..)
sexual urge passes as time pass, love urge is different.... it gets better with time....
2007-09-28 03:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor, he or she can prescribe something for you.
2007-09-28 02:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by 1funnyguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like to me he is not pleasing you, find someone new
2007-09-28 02:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋