Family & Relationships - 20 August 2007

My dad doesn't live my mother anymore, and mum doesn't want us (me and my siblings) going up there to see him because "she's" there and she will try and buy our affection. Mum will only let him come over all he has to do is suggest it and mum will be happy to organize it. Yet he would like us to come and see him. Do I have a right to see him if i wish it? Please be as honest as possible, i really need the help

2007-08-20 23:56:49 · 13 answers · asked by mizz_shrimp 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm having small doubts in my long distance relationship. We've been together about 2 and half years and he's helped me through so much, but our relationship has become 'boring' and sometimes I just feel so trapped and I want to get out.

I think I'm in love with him. I mean I love him I'm just not sure if I'm in love with him anymore.

I feel like sometimes he looks down on me and belittles me. He's not smarter than me (we are about the same, although I'm doing better in my last year of high school than he did) but he's about a year older and I sometimes feel that he thinks he is superior to me.

Do I talk to him about it? I don't want to start any fights. Should I just shut up and be more appreciative that I have a guy who's there for me?

2007-08-20 23:52:29 · 9 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-20 23:49:10 · 24 answers · asked by Thomas 2 in Singles & Dating

Not married, (engaged), but love him lots & lots x infinity & beyond! Lol :-)
Wanted to put few words in local paper's announcements but what do I write in a few words (20 ish) to express how I feel about him?
Any romantics out there with any words of wisdom?!
Would be very much appreciated!

2007-08-20 23:48:45 · 3 answers · asked by Alison S 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

S Am feeling really low, dont know what to decide as there is consequences on both side?
My family and his family dont get along

my husband asked me to choose between him together with his parents or MY family.

If i choose him and his family he said i wont be able to speak to my family let alone see them.

If i chose my family - i wont see my hubby again.

I dont know what to do, i dont want to leave him as i love him lots but he doesnt see that

but yet again i miss my family so much i cant bare the thought not being able to talk to them or see them

My family live about 350 miles away (although i dont see them much cuz of the distant i speak to them on the phone 1x week)

hubby knows am upset as he saw me crying on my own.
he told me he wants us to be with his family.
am so depressed
he said i have to leave my family at one point especially being a women
am 24, glad we dont have any kids yet
am so so depressed
i cant speak to him because he made

2007-08-20 23:46:03 · 8 answers · asked by Rosy 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I know this is a provocative question, and it isn't going to happen any time soon, but I have a very strong feeling that if I get married in the future, I will expect my wife to change her surname to mine at marriage. I probably shouldn't be worried about this since it's hypothetical but when I tell people this often they are horrified and it makes me wonder whether it might end up being a sore point with a future partner.

I very strongly feel that the tradition where a woman takes her husband's name is a beautiful tradition and I would feel really uncomfortable if I was married to someone who kept her birth name. I'm not really old-fashioned but just don't see why it is a patriarchal practice: after all, ususally a woman's maiden name is her father's. It makes it easier for potential children and it also sends a clear signal to the world that you are married. Do you think it would be reasonable to expect that someone I married would take my name?

2007-08-20 23:45:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have 5 teens ages 15-19. This summer, my home became the hangout for all their friends. So at any given time, there was at least 7 huge, hungry kids lounging around my living room. Trashing the place with cans and dishes and shoes and socks. My husband and I drew back to our bedroom and started spending the majority of our time there. I might mention that the two 19 year olds are "special" and are not able to drive or go anywhere by themselves and one of our 15 year olds seriously broke her arm. My kids NEVER left the house. They are ALL back to school now but I am still holed up in my bedroom. I believe I might be going through a little bit of depression but I thought I might feel better once school started back up. Whats up with this?

2007-08-20 23:44:27 · 1 answers · asked by carie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

...would you just drop her off at her doorstep, or come in if she asked you to?

2007-08-20 23:41:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ime 14 and talk to alot of 20 pluss people on the net my dad says its illegal and the police will track them down I find this laughable and am pretie shure its not illegal do you think it is and whats your opinion on it

2007-08-20 23:40:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This girl has called me up and offered to cook dinner for me, invited out for coffee, invited me over to walk dogs. After walking dogs she asked if I would like to watch a movie. We have never really hung out, I met her through her ex-boyfriend. I know him, but wouldn't say he was a friend more of acquaintance. Recently I saw her at a party as she was leaving and she invited me to another party. Anyway, we hung out a the second party. While there, she asked me to go sit out front with her, but when I sat down on the curb she moved away from me. She always seems distant from me, but in a nervous way. We have talked about what each of us want in someone. She is VERY shy and has admitted to being nervous around guys and not knowing how to flirt. Her roommate once told a guy we(me and the girl) were not interested in each other. Is the roomate just defensive? This girl is sending mixed signals. Acting flirty/saying she needs a friend and remaining distant. Is she just shy or what?

2007-08-20 23:35:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-20 23:29:00 · 10 answers · asked by Khaled 4mme22 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Since I've been pregnant, sex seems like some forbidden fantasy to me. I ask to have sex all the time and he'll just change the subject or act like he's busy. When I'm not pregnant we do it all the time. I think he's just unattracted to my bubble body even though he says he's not.

2007-08-20 23:28:08 · 38 answers · asked by keri_ricker 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I find my mom being dumb sometimes, turning me into a perfectionist and making me arrogant

2007-08-20 23:23:47 · 6 answers · asked by Abdulla S 1 in Family

you break up with someone... its actually your move..

youre fed up with the way they treat you. talk to you, etc, and finally enough is enough, cos the good doesnt out-weigh the feeling of (OH SH1t)

you still like them, for lots of reasons and are not capable of HATE so cant be too nasty, distant, still care for their feelings even.. but you need to move on and put yourself first for a change...

when is enough, ENOUGH....

say good bye to mr niceguy !! ?? when

2007-08-20 23:15:15 · 23 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my ex... is being dificult....
we have a buyer - she is dragging out the sale by not agreeig a date for completion which seems to mean that we cant exchange.

what can i do ?

its a big mortgage that we have to pay, i am paying 3/4 and we split up 15 months ago...

Ahhh... please help !

2007-08-20 23:12:45 · 13 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 in Marriage & Divorce

pls help me, i want to change my daughters surname to be followed to his biological father's surname, what are things do i need to undergo or need to prepare? Is that possible also if we don't want to get married as of now?

2007-08-20 22:28:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i will get straight to it,i was abused as a child by my babysitter and it haunts me even now 17 years later(i was 3) every 1st time with a new guy i freeze and cry and the flashbacks of the screaming and the pain,i cant block it out.i am a natural lover,i love cuddles and affection i need love,im 1 of those annoying people whose life runs better when she has a fella,but it never goes anywhere because men wont wait for me to get confident and trust them MEN AM I ASKING TOO MUCH,ITS A FEW WEEK,WONT YOUR HANDS DO TIL THEN?

2007-08-20 22:05:38 · 22 answers · asked by mancmilli 2 in Singles & Dating

ok i dont mean to seem trashy but i need help... I have had sex 4 times but never once have i been able to have a real orgasim. you see all four times were with 4 different guys (that i was seeing)(not at the same time) and i dont understand why i havnt been able too... is there something wrong with me?? i think i need some tips on what i should do when my boyfriend and i decied its time. your see he is also a virgin so i have had a lil more experiance then him. and i need advice on what to do for our special night. please someone give me tips or advice...

2007-08-20 21:57:22 · 24 answers · asked by kay8807 1 in Singles & Dating

i might get back with my long distance girlfriend, however she did hurt me by leaving me for another guy who lived in the same city, and i understand that cos we were long long distance and i could see her as much as we wished, however one of her mates emailed me a long time ago and claimed that she was when he went out with her a very sexual person and another one of her mates told me she dated him he wont say any more but it plays on my mind, my worry is that she wasnt that sexual with me perhaps it was cos of the distance i dunno, she claims she never dated him
my question is should i just forget the past and dont think of it or should i ask her about it and if so how should i ask her, knowing her she will deny it but i wanna clear it up and move on with her - serious answers please

2007-08-20 21:54:18 · 16 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Singles & Dating

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2007-08-20 21:53:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-20 21:53:13 · 7 answers · asked by tony s 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-20 21:51:44 · 6 answers · asked by tony s 5 in Singles & Dating

got the best relationship of my life with a great man, who loves me and is sooooo compatible with me that life with him is amazing...recently he asked me to marry him...but i'd have to move...thousands of km....where his job is...another culture....leave my life and start another from zero...but with great love...
should i do it or just settle with a common guy and stay here?
what do you think?
i'd appreciate some objective points of view...
thanks

2007-08-20 21:49:39 · 10 answers · asked by lightening_fragrance 1 in Singles & Dating

I've read a lot of similar questions, but none are exactly in this range.

Well, as the story goes, I fell in love. No, seriously, my first love. I still am, and I'm head over heels, can't stop thinking about him, he's the nicest guy I've ever known...But he lives in NY, and I'm in WA. Not even the problem. Hell, I was even in NY this year! But, we talked online constantly, everything was cool and we trusted each other...But one day, his account seemed to be hacked. And that was the last I heard of him. Not even on our mutual forum, his other online friends have heard less from him than me...It's terrible! And the pain is just so, well, terrible! It's as if everytime I'm truly happy I think about him and I ruin my own happiness. I'm not even this into guys, usually! Can anyone give me advice? I understand that this is a stupendously open question, but anything could help at this point. Please?

2007-08-20 21:46:07 · 13 answers · asked by davie_the_amazing 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband comes from a long line of cheater from his mother side of the family! 5 generation to be exact that he knows of Great Gr.grandmother, Great grandmother, Grandmother, his mother, his AUNTS on mother side and his 2 sisters, all have or are cheating on their husbands!

This traumatized my husband SEVERALLY. I was his older sisters best friend growing up and knew family quite well.

During my Divorce I had a problem with my ex. who threaten me an abused me, when my current husband saw me get hit he went to work on the X sent him to hospital!

Our marriage of 10+ years has in fact been a happy one I'm even more in love with my husband today then I was when we first got married, he's been their for me everyday of our marriage helping me out !

My husband has gotten help for his HATRED of CHEATERS who he calls BOTTOM FEEDERS we work on the trust exercises almost everyday together and it help him tremendously and I must also claim improvement in my trust for him & love!

2007-08-20 21:45:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

last year me and my partner split for 3 months in that time he saw someone else which is the reason we split. im pregnant with his child and he just moved in. he told me he got rid of all the pictures but i found on one of his cd's a folder titled her name with about 50 pictures some of them were them kissing and half naked. he looked happier. i confronted him he said for me to copy his cv and destroy the cd. and he said if he was happier with her he wouldn t b with me, now the split was a year ago. he said the reason was he needed to see he truly loved me and he realised im the one he wanted to spend his life with. hes so gentle and always caring for me hes over the moon about the baby. what shall i do

2007-08-20 21:45:21 · 15 answers · asked by vicky s 3 in Singles & Dating

Is this true?
I've been hearing promises and promises from my fiance and most of them he never make...
I would prefere if he no promise me than never make it.
I don't know how to stop him promising me and not making!!! ... Any advices?

2007-08-20 21:43:50 · 2 answers · asked by Marlyn A 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

hey guys~

sigh.....this is a issue that always stand strong between me and my gf, im desperately need answers, my gf's mother is very very negative about her daughter going out, im 17 and she is 16, unforunatly for i gave her a very bad impression, that was when me and my gf in the library kissing and hugging and she was stalking us the whole time, and said all hk guys are no good and stuff, and say they are all players, im a very decent guy, i dnt smoke, dont do drug, and no im not a player, her mum started to say sending her back to taiwan(we live in newzealand for more than 10 yrs), i once said maybe we said go talk to her mother, but she said its a really bad idea...i can only see the issue damaging our relationship, and can do nothing,,,,guys i need help, give me answers please...thx

2007-08-20 21:43:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

who has started seeing a guy - who has a lot more money than my bloke does - and i am thinking she gets better presents, holidays, etc and i cant help feeling jeaous - but i really dont want to becuase i am happy for her becuase she deserves a nice bloke - but i am feeling jealous of the whole situation. any advice

2007-08-20 21:42:53 · 14 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Friends

Ok i have been txting this really cute guy and i always feel like our conversations get boring and i feel boring as well... so i need something cute, clever, and sexy to say to him.
something that tells him i want to date him and that im available but is still coy. Thanks to all who answer!!!

2007-08-20 21:36:08 · 12 answers · asked by bk_royals 2 in Singles & Dating