who has started seeing a guy - who has a lot more money than my bloke does - and i am thinking she gets better presents, holidays, etc and i cant help feeling jeaous - but i really dont want to becuase i am happy for her becuase she deserves a nice bloke - but i am feeling jealous of the whole situation. any advice
2007-08-20 21:42:53 · 14 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Jealousy is the route of all evil (apart from money and religion!) at the end of the day dont be so shallow, how do you think your boyfriend must be feeling if he cannot afford to give you the things your friend gets? if you love him and are happy then just get on with it.....you are with him for him and not because of what he can offer you......are you sure your friend isn't rubbing this in your face and winding you up over it?? just be happy that she's happy but be thankful you have a loving boyfriend who doesn't have to buy your love!
2007-08-20 22:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by vampini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the great qualities your guy has. I mean your friend may be getting alot of gifts and such. But the guy may be doing that because he doesn't know how to show real emotion. He would rather take her on trips or something really lavish than just give her a simple card saying I love the way your hair looks in the morning when its spread on my pillow. If your boyfriend does that for you be happy that he really cares for you and not just trying to buy you the world because he can't emotionally commit. But if its not any of those things then still find something and make a list of them, call it the 100 or even 20 things I love about my boyfriend. Even give it to him on a anniversary or as a bday gift. I'm sure he will trully appreciate it. And love you even more.
2007-08-20 22:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bloke? What? Is that Australian slang for friend?
Anyway, jealousy is a common trait in millions of people. But, it is also one of the seven deadly sins. But who cares?
You can't control jealousy. Only time can patch that one up. But I'm 26 and I think I'm a more jealous person now than ever.
2007-08-20 21:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by dawgdart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think your jealousy is trying to tell you?........
There's a reason that you feel like that and you need to work out what it is exaclty that you are jealous of.
What does it mean to get the better presents, holidays etc?
Realise that it's really about you and your jealousy is a sign that there is something you need to pay attention to.
Chi Chi x.
2007-08-20 23:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I assume you don't actually want her guy, but rather you would like to have a guy who does those kinds of things for you. So maybe it'll help just to analyze exactly what the jealousy is about.
One thing that helps me when I'm jealous is to pray and ask God to take it away.
I think it's great that you don't want to be jealous and I hope things will work out for you.
2007-08-20 21:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spread malicious gossip about her,make sure her boyfriend finds out her 4 week holiday last year was in fact spent in prison for lewd & libidinous behaviour whilst practising her
chosen profession of prostitution, then when he slings her ,move in, and get all the goodies for yourself and your other friends who deserve them much more than she does, the gloating tart.
ps Get rid of the loser you`ve got at present, and put your teeth in.
2007-08-20 21:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful for what you have got - forget what everyone else has got. Presents and money are not everything, love, support and friendship are worth far far more than money!
2007-08-20 21:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nicola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you jealous of this?
you ahve said what you are jealous of, the lavishing of gifts one guy does to his gf - right?
so thats the waht you are jealous of - but not the why - so why are you jealous? if you dont know and accept yourself then you cant do anything about yourself.
2007-08-20 22:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over yourself; this paris hilton fascination is a bit much; if the guy cares for you and treats you good, thats what its about. Don't be so materialistic.
2007-08-20 21:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous because she gets better things? They are JUST things! Why don't you focus on other things, like your love.
2007-08-20 21:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by ~~*Paradise Dreams*~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋