you break up with someone... its actually your move..
youre fed up with the way they treat you. talk to you, etc, and finally enough is enough, cos the good doesnt out-weigh the feeling of (OH SH1t)
you still like them, for lots of reasons and are not capable of HATE so cant be too nasty, distant, still care for their feelings even.. but you need to move on and put yourself first for a change...
when is enough, ENOUGH....
say good bye to mr niceguy !! ?? when
2007-08-20 23:15:15 · 23 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 12 pints
2007-08-20 23:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by ross x 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U broke up and this person is been nasty as didnt get there own way.. u dont have to be nasty to not put up with some1 treating u this way.. but why would u want stay friends with some1 like this in the 1st place, puttin u down and haven no respect for u...
but seeing u are in the marriage and divorce section, if their are kids involved, all u can do is write down what is said to u, time and date and report it all, hang up the phone when u get such calls and walk away if its in person... try be the best father u can b and u will be the stronger 1who will have some sence in this all...
but if u have no kids and just a marriage, then get good lawyor to deal with her and change u num, delate all contact details and move on with ur life, its not been nasty but walkin away with ur head held high and not leavin urself drop to that nasty level...
wish u all the best in the future and this situation...
2007-08-21 09:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mum of1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must never stop being nice.
To keep the upper hand in a break-up don't be the one to resort to bad behaviour and unkind words. Keep your cool and keep your dignity.
You can tell people they are not wanted or not liked in such a way that you are not offensive or appear petty and nasty. Be direct, honest and unemotional. Tell them the facts in the hard light of day in an unromantic setting face to face. When you have broken up verbally make a pact with that person only to make contact after a year or two if you want to reamin friends. Keep to this or other problems will arise.
This the mark of a true gentleman and a lady will accept this.
2007-08-21 06:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm repeating what a lot of others have already said, but why do you have to stop being nice in order to end a relationship?
It sounds as though you feel like you are being mistreated by your partner. If that's the case then staying with them is not being nice, it's being... well, a bit of a mug really. But you can still end the relationship without stooping to being nasty to them. You can get out of the relationship with your dignity intact, without "getting your own back" on your partner.
Remember, 2 wrongs don't make a right...
2007-08-21 09:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nixf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always say goodbye to "Mr. Nice Guy" and always practice assertiveness.
It's much worse if things accumulate and you respond to the "bundle" of past misdeeds, because the other person will see it as an over-reaction to the one that triggered the response.
Just like discipline with a child, set/clarify expectations up-front as much as possible. Communicate likes/dislikes, calmly, firmly and the moment the problem occurs.
If this attitude of "Do It Now" is cultivated and practiced, over time things work out nicely.
2007-08-21 06:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by urbantroubadour 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Max.
You don't, you have to keep a cool and brave face on things and get her outr of your head slowly, I think you know what I am trying to say, because if you start being as you say" No more Mr.Nice Guy" then that Attitude may well rub off onto everyone around you, so the two words you need to be living by now is Cool and Brave...
hope this helps Max... Tony M
2007-08-21 06:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta realize as nice as you are, the person your with will not think twice as to screwing you over or treating you like crap. Its time to say bye bye when you feel you have been disrespected or treated unfairly. And some woman will play the whole I'm cute and I am so sad and I can't stop crying game but its all an act. So go dude.
2007-08-21 06:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say goodby to Mr. Nice guy. You let her down gently. Tell her that you either have too much on your mind to deal with a relationship right now, or that you feel that you are not ready to settle down. Blame yourself, so that you do not hurt her. It is just the polite and nicest way to do it.
2007-08-21 06:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sediments exactly but even if you turn nasty/evil who does it benefit? They will still be doing what they do to someone else (nasty, hateful, mean, talking sh--). They will try to play you but inside they have the same demeanor. Run I tell you, RUN!
I'm going through the same BS. It makes no sense! I guess the saying goes, "it takes all kinds of people to run this world."
2007-08-21 17:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dee D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would'nt say stop being nice. If you're generally nice you'always be that way. But there comes a time when enough is enough. So best finish with your partner as nice and honestly as possible!
2007-08-21 08:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋